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Viewer stole from my house?

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Calcaata · 18/10/2025 20:29

I have a Diptique candle, 3 wick and cost £180. I’ve had two house viewings today, not done by myself but by the estate agent. I’ve come home and it’s missing.

Aibu to expect the estate agent to reimburse me?? I won’t be able to contact them now until Monday.

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BaconCheeses · 18/10/2025 23:43

Emonade · 18/10/2025 22:41

It is a waste and I don’t know how people can live with themselves unless I am being totally unreasonable and they are also giving significant amounts to charity

How fucking dare you criticise anyone spending their own money.

Next time you spend one penny you could have given to charity and instead choose to spend on yourself or your kids for anything, anything non-essential, you will be a massive hypocrite.

Tharlt applies whether you choose to "waste" £180 in one go or in 1p transactions.

I see your sanctimony and look forward to seeing your name and what you choose to weigh in on in the future and whether you're as perfect then as you want to come across now for positioning yourself above OP.

StaySpicy · 18/10/2025 23:42

Footloosefiona · 18/10/2025 21:45

The one I saw was priced at £169 but still expensive for something you're just going to set fire to !.

They are also 4.7" x 4.3" so reasonably big and heavy (in a pottery holder).

Who ever took it would have a bit of a problem getting it out of the property. It's not as if someone could just 'trouser' it

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4" isn't that big a candle, though. Fairly standard size.

Do you mean they're 4' (foot)? Not sure I've ever seen a candle over a metre wide before - must be huge and heavy! I can see why it'd cost so much!

CoffeeLipstickKeys · 18/10/2025 23:39

Mumsnet competitive thrift and stinginess.
Why buy a nice candle when you can burn parchment paper sprayed with deodorant.

CloudedBlue · 18/10/2025 23:36

Not theft, but my cousin said no viewings when he wasn’t there, then caught the estate agent, on camera, bringing a couple into his house, he was furious.

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Calcaata · 18/10/2025 23:35

Emonade · 18/10/2025 22:41

It is a waste and I don’t know how people can live with themselves unless I am being totally unreasonable and they are also giving significant amounts to charity

Why would I have to justify anything I buy for myself by giving to charity? How about I’m not in debt, pay my bills, have savings and can do whatever I want with my money?

And for what it’s worth, I volunteer 3 hours a week online teaching adults to read, I have three direct debits set up to charities. Every morning I’m in the office I buy the same homeless man a coffee, I know his name and we talk as I want him to know he’s seen. I used to take the elderly woman that lived across the road from me food shopping every week and would have a tea with her on my lunch break until she died in March.

None of this makes me an angel or even a good person. But apparently I have to justify how I use my disposable income.

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Alltheparmesanplease · 18/10/2025 23:34

Charlize43 · 18/10/2025 22:27

Buy a £3.99 candle from TKMAXX and then you won't have to worry about anyone stealing it.

Super helpful.

PumpkinSeasonOctober · 18/10/2025 23:32

Maybe it was a gift. My ex would spend silly amounts on presents like this for me.

Check what else has gone!

PigletJohn · 18/10/2025 23:32

I forsee an uptick in sales of concealed security cameras.

CoffeeLipstickKeys · 18/10/2025 23:30

PuggyPuggyPuggy · 18/10/2025 21:22

Fuck me, people are paying £180 for candles? How the other half live...

Is that all you took from the thread?

PickleSarnie · 18/10/2025 23:28

Ffs. The fact that OP chose to spend her own money on a £180 candle is not the point here. People are allowed to spend their own money on whatever they want. Apart from heroin and flick knives.

The issue is someone stole it.

Dagnabit · 18/10/2025 23:27

Emonade · 18/10/2025 22:41

It is a waste and I don’t know how people can live with themselves unless I am being totally unreasonable and they are also giving significant amounts to charity

Oh piss off! Who are you to say how a person can spend their own money? Unless you would like to provide us with an itemised expenditure so we can decide if you spend your own money in the right way?

Vinvertebrate · 18/10/2025 23:24

JohnTheRevelator · 18/10/2025 23:15

I'm just totally astonished that a candle would cost 180 quid!

The fragrance and throw are amazing, and they burn - perfectly evenly - for 60 hours. I’ve just spent nearly £150 taking DS and 2 friends to eat pre-prepared food at a very average chain restaurant, and we were out in 90 minutes!

OP if it’s the candle I am thinking of, it wouldn’t fit in a handbag or pocket. So I would ask some probing questions of the EA regarding the viewers’ baggage/appearance, and also check whether any neighbours have a Ring doorbell or CCTV.

Kimura · 18/10/2025 23:22

Emonade · 18/10/2025 22:41

It is a waste and I don’t know how people can live with themselves unless I am being totally unreasonable and they are also giving significant amounts to charity

You are being extremely unreasonable to say that you 'don't know how people can live with themselves', simply because they have more disposable income than you, yes.

Nobody is obligated to donate to charity, purely to morally offset their earnings. You seem to think that people who earn well should develop a sense of guilt over it.

And RE: Your charity comment, people in the highest income brackets are responsible for around three times the monetary amount donated to charity in the UK than everyone else. They're also taxed more, paying for things like the NHS and benefit systems they're unlikely to use. As it should be.

The number of people on this thread rich-shaming OP is awful. She's had something expensive stolen from her, that's all that matters.

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Calcaata · 18/10/2025 23:22

NormasArse · 18/10/2025 23:21

Some people would spend that on a night out. People are allowed to spend their hard earned on whatever they like.

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Apparently not …

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Calcaata · 18/10/2025 23:21

tillyandmilly · 18/10/2025 23:09

£180 for a candle? Surely not?

Yes and I loved it, I’ve seen some Diptyque candles that are £300.

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NormasArse · 18/10/2025 23:21

Emonade · 18/10/2025 22:29

Maybe don’t waste so much money on a candle

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Some people would spend that on a night out. People are allowed to spend their hard earned on whatever they like.

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Calcaata · 18/10/2025 23:18

Simonjt · 18/10/2025 20:38

We had this as well, but it was a vase, luckily it was a flat we were selling so we could see the estate agent on cctv leaving with a fully intact vase, so they couldn’t pretend they had broken it.

😳 oh my god … how fucking brazen.

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NormasArse · 18/10/2025 23:16

PuggyPuggyPuggy · 18/10/2025 21:22

Fuck me, people are paying £180 for candles? How the other half live...

Not really the point.

JohnTheRevelator · 18/10/2025 23:15

I'm just totally astonished that a candle would cost 180 quid!

SmoothCollie · 18/10/2025 23:13

The candle discourse is boring. If OP had her car stolen would they complain she had a Volvo instead of a Dacia. It's theft, it doesn't make it not theft just because it's more than you would spend on a candle (it's more than I'd spend too, but it's not the point!)

BBKP · 18/10/2025 23:11

Do you have a ring doorbell or any cameras. Can you check on there?

tillyandmilly · 18/10/2025 23:09

£180 for a candle? Surely not?

SpicyRedRobin · 18/10/2025 23:08

I had a similar thing where a viewer stole a ring...

The moral of that story is don't trust estate agents! They don't care about these people, and will let them wander about doing whatever while they are in another room scrolling through their phone.

I would file a complaint with the estate agents, but unfortunately without 'proof' nothing can be proven. Plus a lot of these estate agents are run by unscrupulous, profit driven people who just won't care.

Pilfer · 18/10/2025 23:00

PuggyPuggyPuggy · 18/10/2025 21:22

Fuck me, people are paying £180 for candles? How the other half live...

🙄 Fuck me, I live in a normal house and other people live in mansions, I buy from Next and they buy from John Lewis, I’ve got a moggy and they’ve got a Persian…. blah blah blah.

Londonrach1 · 18/10/2025 22:50

Might be the estate agent rather than the viewer. I found one in my pant drawer once. Made me very wary now. Report to the estate agent but sadly unless you video proof it be hard to prove

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