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Viewer stole from my house?

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Calcaata · 18/10/2025 20:29

I have a Diptique candle, 3 wick and cost £180. I’ve had two house viewings today, not done by myself but by the estate agent. I’ve come home and it’s missing.

Aibu to expect the estate agent to reimburse me?? I won’t be able to contact them now until Monday.

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Christmascakeforbreakfast · 19/10/2025 12:03

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I do would though wonder why you seem so upset about people with money spending it? Why is OP a wannabe? When is a wannabe the real thing?

I am happy letting people live and let live. I was just surprised how aggravated you seem by someone you don’t even know.

I am happy, but you seem bitter.

HanKeeBee · 19/10/2025 12:00

I love an expensive candle too OP.

I don’t burn mine - I melt them on an electric coffee mug warmer and that way they release the scent but I don’t lose much of the wax. I have had some for years and they are still going. Helps me to justify the cost 😃

I hope you get it sorted.

asmallbluething · 19/10/2025 11:56

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LeftMyCulottesOnTheUnderground · 19/10/2025 11:55

I was viewing a house once when I opened a kitchen cupboard at random and found a gun in it.

Chiefangel · 19/10/2025 11:53

Sorry if it was mentioned earlier and I missed reading it but was the candle visible on your Rightmove photos? And someone has probably clocked it and arranged a viewing.
Please definitely do report it for a crime number at least and I would only do viewings for people who are already sstc from now on, to avoid time wasters anyway. Hope your candle is returned.

KTheGrey · 19/10/2025 11:48

Advice to contact police and tell estate agent you expect reimbursement or to be released from contract is the best.

Christmascakeforbreakfast · 19/10/2025 11:48

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Well it clearly didn’t miss, as it wound you up enough to bitch back. Being bitter is clearly tough. Right I’m going waft off now. Bye

DancingNotDrowning · 19/10/2025 11:48

Christmascakeforbreakfast · 19/10/2025 11:41

Blimey, you seem a little tense for a sunday

She really does 🤣

amberonyx · 19/10/2025 11:45

Getamoveon2024 · 19/10/2025 11:34

You are more surprised that someone pays that for a candle than you are that someone would steal said candle? Who bloody steals ANYTHING from a house they are viewing? Or, in-fact, anywhere? Is it ok to steal someone’s Range Rover, because who pays £100k for a car? What about a nice watch? Ok to steal that, because who pays £5k plus for a watch? Theft is theft and it’s all shitty behaviour from entitled people who don’t want to work for the things they think they deserve.

Did I say stealing is ok? No. No I didn't.

asmallbluething · 19/10/2025 11:44

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Blimey, you seem a little tense for a sunday

asmallbluething · 19/10/2025 11:40

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Why is it any different to spending stupid money on handbags, shoes, cars, particular food etc etc? People have different things that make them happy, and they spend their disposable (and sometimes not) income on. Why is a candle any less deserving of this. Different folks

Getamoveon2024 · 19/10/2025 11:34

amberonyx · 19/10/2025 11:27

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 THIS

You are more surprised that someone pays that for a candle than you are that someone would steal said candle? Who bloody steals ANYTHING from a house they are viewing? Or, in-fact, anywhere? Is it ok to steal someone’s Range Rover, because who pays £100k for a car? What about a nice watch? Ok to steal that, because who pays £5k plus for a watch? Theft is theft and it’s all shitty behaviour from entitled people who don’t want to work for the things they think they deserve.

NewGoldFox · 19/10/2025 11:31

I would be more suspicious of the estate agent.

Namerequired · 19/10/2025 11:29

latetothefisting · 19/10/2025 11:10

Yes this was my original thought. I wouldn't have a clue about what was an expensive candle so wouldn't have considered nicking it (if I was in the mindset of stealing anything which I should clarify I'm not!)

Otoh I'm making the (could be wrong) assumption that Op isn't burning £180 candles in a 1 bed studio at the dodgy end of town, so if she's selling a high end property then probably the people coming to view it would be of a similar income and thus possible would recognise the brand as an expensive one. Still doesn't get the estate agent off the hook as they should be more aware of the opportunity for potential theft in properties with high value items.

OP had the candle been used? If so that's even weirder - such a risk for something that would have minimal resale value. As shown on here, its not like you could take it down the market place and flog it for £45 - as lots of people would still think that's too expensive for a candle, and people who would appreciate diptique wouldn't want to buy a second hand used one!

Maybe they just really loved the smell and thought op wouldn’t notice it missing. Maybe they didn’t know it was expensive?

asmallbluething · 19/10/2025 11:28

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amberonyx · 19/10/2025 11:27

PuggyPuggyPuggy · 18/10/2025 21:22

Fuck me, people are paying £180 for candles? How the other half live...

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 THIS

flopsyuk · 19/10/2025 11:24

Was the candle scented? If so, check in the drawers around where it was sitting. If near a door they could have placed it outside.

I get nausea and sickness from strong scents and some candles (even just sitting there) can set me off.

Someone may have had a reaction to it and placed it in a drawer for one of the viewings and forgotten to put it back.

I've seen Estate agents remove plug in air fresheners etc during viewings if people complain about the smell or feel sick. Especially if someone pregnant is viewing.

Namerequired · 19/10/2025 11:24

Definitely contact them for sure,they should reimburse you. It never occurred to me it could be the ea themselves until I saw further comments.
I must admit I was a bit £180 for a candle, but I don’t see how it’s any different from any other expensive item that people don’t need. But for curiosity only, is it worth £180? Does it smell/look amazing? Would you buy it again?

Luckyingame · 19/10/2025 11:19

Off topic, but why would a house viewer steal a candle.... albeit an overpriced one?

PleaseStopEatingMyStuff · 19/10/2025 11:15

Awful. I'd be straight on to the Estate Agents on Monday. Let them know the price & ask them how they intend to sort it out??
It's possibly the viewing agent that swiped it rather than a viewer. I would imagine the candle would be fairly bulky & difficult to pop under a coat/pocket during a viewing.
Around here, viewing agents are very different to the people who work in the estate agents. They literally just pick up the key & show people a house. They may only work for them for a short time.
I hope you get it sorted.

latetothefisting · 19/10/2025 11:10

themerchentofvenus · 19/10/2025 10:10

@Calcaata think about this...

How many viewers looking round would firstly be looking at a candle and secondly know what a £180 candle looks like?

So my guess is that the EA had clocked it on a previous visit then taken it this time.

I would contact the EA tomorrow morning and tell them the candle needs to reappear in 24 hours otherwise the police will be notified and they will need the name/address of the viewer and the agent that did the viewing as one of them stole it.

Yes this was my original thought. I wouldn't have a clue about what was an expensive candle so wouldn't have considered nicking it (if I was in the mindset of stealing anything which I should clarify I'm not!)

Otoh I'm making the (could be wrong) assumption that Op isn't burning £180 candles in a 1 bed studio at the dodgy end of town, so if she's selling a high end property then probably the people coming to view it would be of a similar income and thus possible would recognise the brand as an expensive one. Still doesn't get the estate agent off the hook as they should be more aware of the opportunity for potential theft in properties with high value items.

OP had the candle been used? If so that's even weirder - such a risk for something that would have minimal resale value. As shown on here, its not like you could take it down the market place and flog it for £45 - as lots of people would still think that's too expensive for a candle, and people who would appreciate diptique wouldn't want to buy a second hand used one!

Reallyneedsaholiday · 19/10/2025 11:05

Speak to the estate agent. Whether they will reimburse you or not, I’m not sure tbh. But they WILL be watching that particular agent very closely in future, and would flag the viewer for any other viewings both within their own agency,and other local agents.
I am so sorry this happened. It’s a big thing letting strangers into your home like that.

DancingNotDrowning · 19/10/2025 11:04

Brits pronounce it Dip - teak

The French add more of an inflection in the end so more like dip - teak - er