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No not have a party or a holiday abroad for my 50th birthday

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CoffeeCakeCreamy · 18/10/2025 11:17

I'm 50 in November. I've planned a family dinner in a restaurant a few days beforehand and another meal in a really nice restaurant with my siblings on the day itself, then later in the month with friends. Will buy myself something nice. I'm happy with this, but some people seem to think I should be doing more - a party, big holiday or something.

AIBU to be happy to celebrate like this?

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Growlybear83 · 18/10/2025 11:25

Of course you’re not being unreasonable - you should do whatever you want on your birthday. I don’t even remember what I did for my 50th so I assume we just got a takeaway. I would have really hated a big party.

Flappypants · 18/10/2025 11:23

Do what makes you happy!! It’s your birthday and you get to do what you want…

notacooldad · 18/10/2025 11:23

I have friends who make an enormous fuss about their own birthday which makes me cringe.
Why go you cringe that people are planning to have fun and enjoy themselves on their birthday?

BlueMum16 · 18/10/2025 11:22

Sounds perfect and exactly what you want to do.

I didn't celebrate with any friends or wider family as I didn't want to be 50 🤣 I took me, DP and DC to the Maldives as that was what I wanted to do.

Fidgety31 · 18/10/2025 11:22

It’s your birthday so do what you want . Not sure why you’re concerned about it tbh

Redpeach · 18/10/2025 11:21

isitmyturn · 18/10/2025 11:20

I have friends who make an enormous fuss about their own birthday which makes me cringe. Others like me are happy with a card and a bunch of flowers.
You are already planning two nights out which seems like somewhere in between.

Thats sad/weird it makes you cringe

isitmyturn · 18/10/2025 11:20

I have friends who make an enormous fuss about their own birthday which makes me cringe. Others like me are happy with a card and a bunch of flowers.
You are already planning two nights out which seems like somewhere in between.