To find this sort of post annoying?

I don't have any friends that would write that sort of nonsense thankfully,

You don't have to either.

I agree OP. Makes you want to reach for the vomit bucket.

I really like James Van Der Beek's (the Dawson's Creek guy) IG posts to his children on their birthdays. Even though they won't comprehend them as toddlers etc, maybe they will grow up and see them they will feel really touched.

Yes there's the performative thing and it's not something I tend to do, but I think a well written and personalised message can be sweet.

Reminds me of the post earlier today/yesterday from the lady who posted saying she was grateful for her DH for the things he had done for her at the weekend. The sneering that he was probably just useless and shit at all other times was off the charts.

I can't fathom expending the energy to care about this, let alone starting a MN post about it. Leave people alone.

@BauhausOfEliott

What does make me cringe is how gleefully Mumsnetters love to insist that anyone who shares happy photos or soppy Facebook posts must be having an affair, getting beaten up by their husband, leading a miserable life etc. It’s an embarrassingly revealing and bitter response to someone expressing happiness.

Yep this with bells on. So petty and nasty.

@HelenSkeleton oh no just the next boyfriend/girlfriend and they all live in the same area and intro the kids and move in and out of each others homes at a very impressive rate.

Different people do things differently.

You just have to live and let live, laugh, love, OP!

To point out it takes seconds to see all of this cos in his case he never changed account or deleted any public posts so i can see the timeline of all the loves of his life right on his page with pics etc for the world to see.

I came across a whole bunch of people in a place in England I have never even been to and they are like this however its not so much the family (who seem to rip each other apart and everyone around them PUBLICLY all the time) but one of them has had the steadiest stream of boyfriends I have ever know of and every couple of months after a post about how 'you are the best stepdad to my kids, we would be lost without you' etc etc she opens a new account and low and behold then she has met 'the love of my life, forever grateful for you thank you for being the best stepdad to my kids' and this is almost twice a year and her kids are like 2! The best though is the newest stepdaddy posting a lengthy message from his kids to her, from her kids who cant talk yet to her and shes the best thing that ever happened and best stepmum etc etc however only about 5 months ago he was posting the same about another woman and again lengthy post best stepmum and mum bla bla. I get highly entertained by them all but honestly feel really sorry for the kids with the amount of stepmums/stepdads they are all going through every year.

Yeah, this.

Nobody is obliged to follow people on social media if they don’t like them or their posts. Nobody has to tailor their own communication style to someone else’s liking, either. If someone likes to express their feelings in a schmaltzy way, they’re perfectly entitled to do that.

It’s not my style at all, but it’s not my post and it’s not me being addressed so it’s not for me to judge. It’s personal taste and of no more consequence to anyone else than, eg, someone’s choice of wallpaper or hairstyle.

What does make me cringe is how gleefully Mumsnetters love to insist that anyone who shares happy photos or soppy Facebook posts must be having an affair, getting beaten up by their husband, leading a miserable life etc. It’s an embarrassingly revealing and bitter response to someone expressing happiness.

I have literally never seen a post like this but to be fair i am not really on social media so i wouldn't - do people really post such vacuous, nauseating shit?!

Is it possible to die of cringe? No, YANBU. At all.

Hmmm. I think judging other people's social media has become the only accepted form of snobbery these days. It's almost like sport isn't it? Spotting what you think are cringey or performative posts/naff words etc. The new form of U vs non U.

I don't post much on social media but I can't really bestir myself to care too much about other people wanting to express happiness or gratitude towards their families. In the scheme of social crimes its pretty far down the tree for me.

I think you went too far with the 'famalam'.

My baby boys (twins) died two years ago at birth. Stillborn and his brother died in the neonatal unit at 4 days old. We turned off his life support. Every birthday since I write a little happy birthday to them on Facebook not because I think they can see it or because I want attention. Its because I love and miss my babies and everyday people mention them less and less and I just want prople to know they did exist. Maybe that makes me attention seeing or self obsessed but God I wish I was showing them off to the world right now almost age 2. Not visiting a cold grave every week

Not everyone's intentions are the same when talking about their "dead" This post hurts, I'm just a grieving mum. Not looking for judgement or mockery.

This made me laugh. I also dislike these weird posts - just pick up the phone or better still stand in front of them and tell them! All so bloody performative and actually all about the person posting rather than the recipient of the gushing praise!
I wonder where they're off to on their lovely family memory holibobs next year? 😂

Has this been playing on your mind since March?

Or children that don't read it.

What is social media for? I only use X, and very little these days. Never got to grips with Facebook, Instagram or whatever else there is. I like seeing other people's funny stuff, lovely landscape or animal pictures, interesting historical stuff, genuinely interesting/important personal news, discussions on things that interest me. I can't be bothered with smugness and gush.

With all due respect, if you expect other people to express themselves as you would, you're going to find a lot to hate.

If my husband ever did anything like that I'd know aliens had sucked the life out of his body and replaced him with a pod person. Married 40+ years and no gush whatsoever, from either of us, thank goodness! Actions speak louder than words, as your friend's experience shows.

I mean, I hate those sorts of posts tbh...asides from feeling a bit jealous (I don't have extended family to celebrate as such), they're also self-congratulatory and boring.

But - what IS ok for social media? Just what is social media for, if not crap like this?
Maybe it's social media that's the problem?