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Holiday accommodation-noisy children

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Purpleturtle45 · 18/10/2025 09:15

Currently on holiday in the UK at a holiday park and the accommodation is apartments where the back doors are in a courtyard formation with a big grassy area in the middle.

It's obviously an attractive area for young children to run about on. What time would you think is an acceptable time to your kids out in the morning to do this bearing in mind they are right outside other people's bedroom windows?

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BoarBrush · 19/10/2025 20:05

Bet this is Craig Tara.

Delatron · 19/10/2025 19:54

No5ChalksRoad · 19/10/2025 19:42

Family resort doesn't mean "shrieking and screaming is OK." It means there are activities and accommodations for people of all ages. Not that it's OK to be feral as though no one else were nearby.

Family-friendly hardly negates the concept of "consideration for others." If your kid is loud, be that at home, at a resort, in a restaurant or wherever, take it away from other people. There is no excuse for disrupting the ambience with shouting, screaming and screeching, anywhere. Family-friendly or not.

Just because there is no roof over a child's head, out in the courtyard, doesn't mean the "outdoor voices" are OK. At all. "Outdoor voices," an obnoxious comment to begin with, are only OK where there is no one else in close proximity to be bothered. On the beach, in a field, in a playground, at the end of a deserted pier, in the woods on a nature trail, etc. The presence or absence of a physical roof is irrelevant.

This I true but what can you do? Get in to an argument with the parents? Speak to the manager? I don’t think anything would change. There are inconsiderate people everywhere who don’t parent properly. Hence I wouldn’t go to a holiday park with older kids.

KookyRoseCrab · 19/10/2025 19:54

We have a non verbal child next door and once you realise what the parent goes through then you understand maybe there’s a reason for shrieking and screaming

Delatron · 19/10/2025 19:52

I think polite people would keep their kids quiet until around 9. But if you are going to go to one of these holiday parks where there are loads of younger kids then I think unfortunately you have to expect some early noise.

I’d have looked at the set up with the courtyard and thought ‘no thanks‘ especially with older kids that lie in. I think you just may need to choose a more peaceful holiday next time if you want a good lie in. Maybe an air bnb.

TheatreTraveller · 19/10/2025 19:51

Definitely 9am or later. (And I have 2 young children). Mine will happily sleep until 8.30ish on weekends and holidays though so we can enjoy later evenings.

SatsumaDog · 19/10/2025 19:51

Shrieking at any time of day is unacceptable. Normal playing noise is ok, but continual shrieking is not. There is a distinct difference and some parents seem to be completely unaware of the hideous noise their kids are making.

As for timing, I would expect kids to be up and about somewhere between 8 and 9. If I had youngsters up before that I would take them somewhere away from the accommodation to let of steam.

No5ChalksRoad · 19/10/2025 19:42

FenceBooksCycle · 19/10/2025 18:53

Sorry I think if you don't want children there, and therefore the noise of children, then it's on you to choose an adults-only resort or holiday somewhere that isn't a dedicated holiday resort - children wake early, and are noisy. Given that the kids probably woke at 6:30 the parents have already put in 90 minutes of heroic effort to keep them contained until 08:00.

Family resort doesn't mean "shrieking and screaming is OK." It means there are activities and accommodations for people of all ages. Not that it's OK to be feral as though no one else were nearby.

Family-friendly hardly negates the concept of "consideration for others." If your kid is loud, be that at home, at a resort, in a restaurant or wherever, take it away from other people. There is no excuse for disrupting the ambience with shouting, screaming and screeching, anywhere. Family-friendly or not.

Just because there is no roof over a child's head, out in the courtyard, doesn't mean the "outdoor voices" are OK. At all. "Outdoor voices," an obnoxious comment to begin with, are only OK where there is no one else in close proximity to be bothered. On the beach, in a field, in a playground, at the end of a deserted pier, in the woods on a nature trail, etc. The presence or absence of a physical roof is irrelevant.

SergeantWrinkles · 19/10/2025 19:41

Nevereatcardboard · 19/10/2025 18:57

Find out where they are staying and go and shriek outside their window at 9pm (or whenever the noisy little brats go to bed)

Who pissed on your chips?

SergeantWrinkles · 19/10/2025 19:40

8/8:30am if you’ve got early risers climbing the walls!

Peridoteage · 19/10/2025 19:40

Id say if you expect young children kept quiet in the mornings, you also need to keep adult noise down in the evenings.

Id usually avoid allowing mine to make loads of noise in communal spaces.

Bushmillsbabe · 19/10/2025 19:39

Depends on time of year a bit

I'm guessing you are at Butlins? If yes, it's tots breaks during termtime, so mainly younger children going to bed earlier and getting up a bit earlier, so maybe 8am?

AquaShark · 19/10/2025 19:37

I expect families to be up and about whatever time the coffee shop opens.

butterdish93 · 19/10/2025 19:28

I personally wouldn’t let them out to play until aroun 8:30. But I wouldn’t be mad at anyone else for anything sooner.
its a holiday park. It’s aimed at young families. If you’re looking for a restful, peaceful holiday then you’re barking up the wrong tree

KookyRoseCrab · 19/10/2025 19:22

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AgnesMcDoo · 19/10/2025 19:15

DesperateCoffee5123 · 19/10/2025 18:13

7am. Most toddlers I know, mine included, wake up at 6am. By 7am he's had breakfast and begging to go outside. I wouldn't expect a child friendly holiday spot to be quiet in the morning.

7am is obnoxious and and anti social

AgnesMcDoo · 19/10/2025 19:14

9am

KickHimInTheCrotch · 19/10/2025 18:58

8am for me. I'd not keep them indoors earlier if the weather was nice but my DC are not shriekers. I'd encourage them to play quietly and they'd generally be quite compliant with that. I dont mind hearing people go about their business early or late, including kids playing. But I don't think shrieking is ok at any time of day.

Nevereatcardboard · 19/10/2025 18:57

Find out where they are staying and go and shriek outside their window at 9pm (or whenever the noisy little brats go to bed)

KookyRoseCrab · 19/10/2025 18:57

We are just back from Lanzarote ( couple of months) and when we booked I asked for the Premium suites ( adults only ) although the holiday company said we booked it as adult only but other travel companies might not , yes we had kids staying in our block but they were well behaved that’s all I was asking for

PurplGirl · 19/10/2025 18:54

It sounds like you’re at Butlins. The accommodation is very close together. It’s unlikely they were targeting your bedroom window, probably just very close to their accommodation. Many young families will be up and out to breakfast, or to queue for swimming or the first show at 8-8.30am. We usually try to leave by that time and the kids might be running around outside whilst we load up the buggy/bags. Ideally I wouldn’t want them screaming at any time of day, but you know, kids, holiday, excitement etc. YABU. Get up and go enjoy your day. Or bring earplugs next time.

FenceBooksCycle · 19/10/2025 18:53

Sorry I think if you don't want children there, and therefore the noise of children, then it's on you to choose an adults-only resort or holiday somewhere that isn't a dedicated holiday resort - children wake early, and are noisy. Given that the kids probably woke at 6:30 the parents have already put in 90 minutes of heroic effort to keep them contained until 08:00.

TheEllisGreyMethod · 19/10/2025 18:48

Gosh we have a park behind our house and I don't let DD in there until 9am because of the neighbours.

ThisGentleRaven · 19/10/2025 18:46

BluntPlumHam · 19/10/2025 17:31

No. Don’t be daft.

Op said the rooms back on to a garden/grassy courtyard area which is where the kids are playing. I think she’s exaggerated with the ‘right under my window screaming’. The parents of said children have paid and are entitled to use the facilities, 8am outside running around is a perfect healthy time and activity to do. If OP is so noise sensitive she needs to book an air bnb or villa so she’s. Or sharing any communal spaces.

No, 8am is VERY rude, holiday resort or not.

Shame some parents are too lazy to look after their own children, and get rid of them to send them screaming being a nuisance for everybody else.

ThisGentleRaven · 19/10/2025 18:45

Atina321 · 19/10/2025 15:08

It is the children’s holiday too. You are entitled to be childfree. You aren’t entitled to a child free existence.

Hearing children having fun is heart warming.

If you don’t want to hear children having fun don’t go to a family resort.

I despise drunk people late at night. I don’t holiday where drunk people go late at night.

Edited

yes, it is the children's holiday too.

CHILDREN are entitled not to be awaken or disturbed by feral little darlings screaming before 9 or 10am. Kids need sleep, being shaken awake by screaming outside ruins their entire day.

Having children means you PARENT them, and that includes distracting your toddler, not letting them run wild because you can't be bothered to look after them in the morning.

Family resort doesn't mean families have to put up with horrible noisy children from lazy parents.

ThisGentleRaven · 19/10/2025 18:42

Purpleturtle45 · 19/10/2025 18:32

7 am outside shouting outside peoples bedroom windows is the height of selfishness!

the only thing with people that bad is to be thankful they're not your neighbours! They are ruining everybody's holidays, but at least it's only for a week. Imagine living next to someone with that attitude, neighbours from hell all year round, awful.