Jam sandwiches at wraparound care

The saddest thing about this post is that your child goes to breakfast AND afterschool club 4x a week

Exactly this. I grew up on Findus crispy pancakes, tinned bolognaise and all sorts of processed crap that is frowned on now. I rarely eat anything like that now because my palate has matured.

Making food taboo makes them desirable. The more you try to prevent kids eating them, the more they will want them once they have control of their own diet.

Ham is a group 1 carcenogen. You'd rather your 4 year old eat that than jam!?!?

The OP's child is being offered ham and cheese. She just doesn't want them.

I agree. I’m a childminder and I have never offered a jam sandwich once. Ham, cheese, breadsticks with cream cheese, even a banana sandwich is more nutritious. This is lazy.

Lmao so if it was a cheese sandwich she wouldn't be "full from all the cheese"? It's not meant to be tea, it's meant to be a snack.

As a child of the seventies, I ate lemon curd sandwiches a lot as a child.
Do I do that now? No.
It’s just a snack - yes it’s better if she chose the ham or cheese. But she isn’t going to be affected by this.
I am a slim nearly 50 year old and don’t really have a sweet tooth.
I ate a lot of processed food - meat paste, fish paste etc.
I don’t now.
Try not to stress.
My two children don’t always eat what I want but taste evolves over time.

Send her in with a packed tea.
She is 4.
she probably has jam on her toast when she is in breakfast club...

Do not expect the staff to force her to eat a ham or cheese sandwich.

The food at our wraparound is also dire at times, breakfast especially although after school is also variable. I have learnt to just ignore it. What infuriates me is that it is so inconsistent at ours. One day it is popcorn, the next scrambled egg on toast with no advanced notice so it makes planning dinner difficult.

My children were in asc and how much they charge im sure they can do better options of food,
working parents get penalised at every chance it’s so unfair! At least provide something healthier or better than straight sugar on bread which is also sugar I don’t see the problem in asking or enquiring

I completely agree with you. Jam is nutritionally low, full of sugar and setting the child up to expect sweet foods and eat them as the norm. I would not allow my kids to ever eat jam apart from a one off party they might attend. Would not be happy them eating it 4 days a week. If you talked to any dentist they would also agree.
I think you are completely within your right to push this forward and complain.

Most bread is as is cheese. Pretty much all porridge is processed and the flavoured ones etc are all upf.

Then OP needs to be prepared to pay more for ASC or pack a snack for her child to eat instead.

Well then the OP supplies the food for their child themselves. Problem solved.

I'm fairly certain the OP is not prepared to pay extra for the kind of food she thinks would be appropriate to give her child at ASC.

Ultimately it comes down to this. If the OP feels so strongly, she can make other provision or supply her own food for her child to take with them.

Neither you nor the OP is looking at this from the pov of the provider.

What sort of microwave do you have where you can make 50+ jacket potatoes in a short period after school?

My kids attended a Scandi ASC and smoked horse meat was a regular sandwich topping - as was fish roe paste and caramelised cheese 😁

On school trips there was often a Reindeer sandwich!

On cold winter days there was also blueberry soup!

(I just learned to keep my mouth shut)

Hard disagree. Doesn’t matter who gives the child sugary ultra processed crap, they shouldn’t be eating it.

And it is effectively dinner if the child is too full from the sugary crap to eat dinner when she gets home… as the OP has already mentioned.

You're comparing a parent giving it to 1 child though and it's meant as a snack, not dinner. ASC have to cater to multiple children and then add in dietary needs, any allergies etc as well as trying to keep costs down because parents would soon moan if ASC cost went up.

I’m trying to get my head round this? Do they give them a piece and jam and a pudding?
we make our own jam just brambles and sugar 😂 and a wee drop lemon

It’s shocking how rude some people are, she’s asking advice if you have nothing nice to say then don’t bother! We in this country eat terrible food all the time and don’t have clue about what is bad or good for us and someone who is trying to keep her child on a good eating plan is getting told to bore off basically it’s ridiculous! Shame on you unhealthy bar stewards!

If it was just once or twice a week I wouldn’t care, or even if it was just a jam sandwich OR pudding it might not be so bad. But if a parent came on here and said ‘is it bad that most nights I just give my child a jam sandwich and a pudding’… that person would be lynched! I don’t see why they can’t provide something more nutritious and less ultra processed.

Can you send her with something instead?

Youre dead right. You should pack up and move somewhere else where schools all align with your views and reply to your important emails in a timely fashion.

Is it Bonne Maman? If not I'd be fuming too.

Pick your battles, OP.
It’s a jam sandwich.
They all end up wanting McDonald’s and Haribo anyway.