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Are these red flags?

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90yomakeuproom · 18/10/2025 08:03

I have begun seeing someone and have feelings for them but I am worried that there are some red flags. Would appreciate any views.

Previously spent time in prison around 10 years ago
Had some issues with drugs and alcohol until fairly recently
Speaks quite negatively about his ex gf

They are pretty big issues but everyone has a past and he says he has changed. Am I stupid to believe this? What would you all do?

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didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 18/10/2025 08:06

They're definitely not green flags.....

MultiFucktional · 18/10/2025 08:05

Raise your standards.

Linenpickle · 18/10/2025 08:05

Sorry but yes, red flags and he hasn’t changed if he is still bitching about his ex. Yabu for not seeing this. Walk away.

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