Dislike knitted baby gifts from family member

My DSis has just become a grandmother and asked me to make something for the new baby. I’ve asked her to let me know what the new parents want - style, colour etc and won’t be offended if they don’t want anything handmade. I don’t want to waste time making something that isn’t wanted and won’t be worn.

I didn't say it was the case here.

I quite like them, the little cardigans are so different from what you see in the shops. I fail to see how you are struggling to pair them with an outfit?

Well, yes, that was inappropriate because she was wearing mini versions of adult clothes.
That's not the case here.

A couple of weeks ago I saw a little girl toddler in a denim mini skirt, those Ugg boots and a leather jacket. I thought it looked awful. Let her be a baby!

They're for a baby. What does a baby care about style?

I think the only items I've 'refused' to put on my child are really well worn, bad quality items. Not items that just aren't to my taste. I've been gifted a lot of knits and it's always a conversation starter at baby classes, people are jealous!

Such a problem to have!
Some easy solutions on here, OP.

I also have this - totally disagree with the stance of taking a picture and passing it on as that just adds to the ridiculousness of it.

We realised they weren't knitting for us, they were knitting because they liked to knit stuff like that. So would kindly say 'sorry that's not really what we'd normally put XX in, and would rather something like this', they quickly went back to knitting random things for other people and problem was solved.

What size is the jumper & hat actually, I think DD2 would look so cute in that over winter 😂

She's knitting for her own pleasure, not as a kindness to you. Since she doesn't seem to care whether the sizing is right or you like the colour choices, you should feel no guilt at just passing it all straight on. She's isn't doing you a favour - she's dumping her hobby onto you and completely disregarding your own preferences for dressing your own baby. It's rude imo, not something you need to feel grateful for or guilty about.

It's so cute! I don't even mind the jackets. Brown and cream isn't garish and is very "in"!

I was going to say yabu but I totally agree, somehow theyve made it so ugly!

If youve said “im sorry this really isnt my style” and they keep doing it I’d just give them away.

This! Next time you see them the child ‘has grown out of it’. I feel your pain. My mother does the same thing with cooking - refusal offends but sometimes I could scream when I get handed a box of whatever she’s been baking and asked sternly ‘for the plastic box back’ - so that’s just another thing to do to add to myne er ending TTD list. Having told her for 30+ years, I don’t eat puddings or cakes, I’ve just come to the conclusion she does it for her own self gratification, so just let her get on with it. And she can wait for the bastard box back. Boils my piss, though it shouldn’t 🤣

Yep, absolutely dreadful.
What a shame. Such skill channelled into these hideous things.
Buy a pattern and the wool for something tasteful, that you’d really like, and ask her if you can pay her to make it. That if she’s got too much on there’s another lady in the village that takes on little commissions. Hopefully she’ll just crack on and knit it up for you.
But the rest of it can go straight to the charity shop.

I like them! Better than boring beige. Are they wool or acrylic?

All I see is Licquorice Allsorts.

I want the pink jumper in my size!

We have the same issue - I’ve sent pictures of styles of jumpers and cardigans when requested along with preferred colours and they always come back with cheap acrylic wool and colours and patterns I really don’t like. We do a photo and thank you and put them in a box for future dolls clothes.

Oh, and a special blanket is timeless.

Look at the Debbie Abrahams 'blankets and throws' books (maybe in your local library, but second hand cheap and plentiful on line) and see if there's any you like. A wide variety of styles, and a good few knitting hours to complete!

Then ask and see if they are up for it...

I think some parents just like babies and toddlers in mini adults clothes, with logos.

I think only the one on the far right is nice but that doesn’t matter. You don’t like them and you don’t have to accept or keep them if you don’t want them. There is no obligation to keep a gift regardless if you like it or not.

I have three children and I can count on one hand how many wore knitted items as babies. It was rarely ever cold enough for them to wear them and only one child actually liked hats but that wasn’t until he was a toddler. We used a blanket maybe once but they outgrew it quickly and actual jumpers and hats, no. It ended up being mostly clutter and donated later.

Perhaps, they could knit for local hospitals. I still have the tiny knit beanie I received when my daughter was born. Quite big when she was born but recently tried to put it on a few days ago but it barely fits her head now.

I hate to think of anyone wasting their time and if I had a hobby that could be gifted I would rather hear from the recipient if the gift is desired and would be treasured

Agree with this! Good luck.

You wouldn’t put a sweater made for your baby on because you don’t like the colour?

We are talking about a baby…

I always wonder how picky parents manage when their kids are old enough to pick out their own clothes.

I don’t think they’re dated or garish. If it’s real wool, then they look very warm and practical.

Just say thank you and use what you can, and donate the rest.

I think they’re gorgeous ! Definitely not dated or garish at all - these are colours Ive seen in places like River Island baby, and reminds me of a set I bought from John Lewis a couple of years ago
you need to tell her not to knit stuff for the kids any more - you have enough clothes and no where to put everything
she obviously loves knitting and giving and would be thinking of your children while she’s knitting so this is coming out of love but tell her there are lots of children in the community who could really do with these clothes , she could also knit and donate to her local NICU / instead- these little babies need these woolly bits to keep warm . I appreciated them when my daughter was in there. Maybe you could donate yours there? There are also baby clothing banks you can give them to