WIBTA if I refuse to cater for my ‘vegan’ MIL?

@Veganornotvegan

A compromise! Do the bits that are easy enough, but ask her to bring anything tricky -e.g. veg.

They're rude. I'd buy a thermal container and whip out my steak as they were serving up, or turkey and ham parcel.

I’d buy a vegan alternative to the meat, then just shove a few potatoes and carrots to roast on the side of that dish. Bisto vegan gravy. Pack of vegan stuffing. Take her portion of the mash out before adding butter. Anything else she can decide on if she’s going to break her rules. I’d cater but not go to a huge effort (because xmas dinner is a huge effort already! And oven space so limited). Otherwise as others have suggested- a nice (like Cook) vegan roast ready meal.

We’ve got vegan family coming for dinner (they’re very strict, definitely no bending the rules). We are not vegan and I really don’t like many of the vegan alternatives, so we’re doing two separate dinners. I don’t mind going to a bit of effort for them, as it’s something that’s very important to them, I don’t use goose fat or honey and my SiL will bring her own vegan yorkies to heat up.

If she’s happy to munch on a yorkie when there’s no vegan alternative then I don’t think I’d go to a huge amount of extra work. Sainsbury’s do a vegan… thing with fake bacon on it, as well as vegan pigs and vegan stuffing balls. It looks disgusting, to be fair. You might be better off getting an individual nut roast or some no chicken Kievs if you like her. Paxo is also vegan if you don’t add butter. Buy some Birds Eye steamed fresh vegetables (two minutes in the microwave) or a posher version from M&S, some Bisto and some aunt Bessie’s (or posher version from Sainsbury’s) Sainsbury’s have also got a vegan chocolate torte thing in their Christmas food to order section and they do vegan whipped cream.

Just because she isn't instantly 100% pure in her veganism isn't a reason to mock it

The OP's MIL made a specific request to cater for her "veganism" in all future meals, so yeah mocking is entirely in order.

Personally, I would cater for your mother-in-law with vegan meal, could be a ready meal, simple vegan starter and vegan dessert and no cheese course.

As you have said no other people have dietary needs so it won't be that hard.

Or you could ask her to bring her own food but provide the potatoes, veggies etc.

Just because she isn't instantly 100% pure in her veganism isn't a reason to mock it.

Yes, I'd tell her that if she's not content with what's on offer for everyone, she'll have to bring her own.

I don't cater to veganism or other restrictive fad diets in my house, and in your MIL's case, her faux veganism sounds like a particularly pointless bid for attention.

The solution seems simple to me. Sure, she can bring her own.

Don't attack her for being less than a purist about her veganism (although you can snicker about it with your friends, of course.)

You just say some version of, "No, as you know, we try to cater to you as best we can, despite all the extra work it creates, but that's not possible for Thanksgiving. However, of course, I will make a point of having one vegetable dish that will suit your diet, which may be sufficient, or you can bring whatever you like."

Good! None of my vegan friends would allow meat at their Xmas table.

Your meal has no relevance for OP and her Xmas preparations. So talk about being silly.

My Dsis, is a vegan for health reasons, mostly for the animals, she uses vegan soap, shampoo, detergent, she kindly hosts and serves Christmas dinner, we bring the turkey cooked, lamb, sausages.
Vegan mushroom stuffing is delicious.
I always make an effort for her when she is my guest.

Silly of you not to look at what I was quoting, yes.

Yes, I know. I can read. But that was not part of the post I was replying to, it was a separate comment.

Silly me thinking OP was discussing food for Christmas.

Oh OP discussed Xmas meals....

Obviously not for Christmas, I didn't even mention Christmas. I was replying to a specific post, which I'm sure you can see if you look at what I quoted.

I wasn't referring to Christmas dinner. I'm sorry that you can't read.

For Christmas? Fair enough. I wouldn't expect 14 guests to give up a Christmas meal for this.

"snatch away". Yep, mean spirited.

Just leave people to eat what they want! I would provide a vegan cream alternative. It's disgusting, but for vegans it seems to be a treat, so everyone is happy!

😋 Delicious.

Of couse I can't. They wouldn't pander to my eating style. They would just laugh. I have never met a vegan who served other than vegan food to make friends or family happy.

So yes, I serve vegan food if needed but I don't make a separate vegan version of everything just for one person.

I wasn't talking about the Christmas meal, I was responding to the specific comment I quoted and that particular hypothetical scenario.

I agree, I wouldn't do that at Christmas.

Well, I think you're all very narrow minded. We had cauliflower and squash curry, daal, naan bread, rice, vegan coleslaw, green salad, a salad with grated carrot, chickpeas and courgette. Some other things I've forgotten. It all being vegan didn't seem to be mentioned.

Wrong quote

Surely, as an omnivore, you are entitled to provide them with a list of the animal products you insist they cook for you?