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AIBU to be upset about this text from my doctor?

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Pinkwellyboots3 · 17/10/2025 15:56

Since my dad suddenly died in June I have been constantly unwell, I think it’s the stress and grief and the doctors have assured me this is a normal reaction.

I have had a constant cycle of mastitis, tonsilitis, chest infection and utis. It’s been HORRIFIC. I’ve had more antibiotics in the last months than I’ve had in my entire life and I’m sick to death of it and worried.

Once again, I’ve woken up with a throat covered in yellow puss, can’t swallow, temperature and feel disgusting, I filled out my form this morning and explained my symptoms and added a photo of my throat. I said I wanted to avoided antibiotics at all cost unless I really needed them as I’ve had several courses recently. I received a message back saying ‘as requested your antibiotics have been sent’ well, I didn’t request them. That I can get over. It’s the best part that got me.

FYI: You had 10 contacts with the practice since start of Sept, the average across the UK is 8 over the entire year.
All the best

isn’t that just so patronising? How can I help that I have been unwell so many times. Yes, that is a high number but I have genuinely and helplessly been unwell, 2 of those appointments were with the asthma nurse as I’ve recently been diagnosed with asthma too. Every appointment they have identified a bacterial infection which required treatment. I just feel so upset by it and it just feels so patronising. Am I being too sensitive? I feel like that’s just not professional… I am going to a doctor to literally do their job.

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vivainsomnia · 17/10/2025 22:44

What does 'fill out my form' means?

I'd think either you ask for a consultation or you write to the practice manager to include a note on your record.

Salemsplot · 17/10/2025 22:13

Pinkwellyboots3 · 17/10/2025 22:04

4 appointments for mastitis on 4 seperate occasions, with a huge wedge shaped red lump on my entire breast with a temp of almost 40 each time, couldn’t feed my baby and generally felt like i was going to die
3 appointments for tonsillitis, high temp and unable to swallow my own saliva
1 for a chest infection which triggered a referral to the asthma nurse
2 appointments with asthma

so unfortunately yes, I did need to go.

I’m not saying you didn’t need to go. But they can’t analyse every single persons individual circumstances - that really would be wasting NHS resources @SilkAndSparklesForParties - so they just highlight facts to make you stop and think. And if, on reflection, you did need to go then…fine. What’s the issue?

heloobyeee111111111 · 17/10/2025 22:10

I’ve also never heard of messages being automated. It has to be sent by someone because it’s counted how many times you’ve been in. From my knowledge I’ve never heard of this being something that can be done automatically. We can send bulk automated texts but again this has to be selected from certain cohorts. It will be the GPS/practice manager who’s come up with this.

Cleo65 · 17/10/2025 22:08

RoseAlone · 17/10/2025 17:45

It's automated, not personal.

This! Exactly this - we live in an automated world now, the algorithm wasn't happy. Ignore & move on.

Pinkwellyboots3 · 17/10/2025 22:04

Salemsplot · 17/10/2025 21:39

10 times in 6 weeks is a lot….you don’t need to contact them every time you’re ill.

4 appointments for mastitis on 4 seperate occasions, with a huge wedge shaped red lump on my entire breast with a temp of almost 40 each time, couldn’t feed my baby and generally felt like i was going to die
3 appointments for tonsillitis, high temp and unable to swallow my own saliva
1 for a chest infection which triggered a referral to the asthma nurse
2 appointments with asthma

so unfortunately yes, I did need to go.

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Salemsplot · 17/10/2025 22:04

SilkAndSparklesForParties · 17/10/2025 22:00

I complained because there was incompetence combined with an overwhelming waste of resources within NHS services that the public funds.

Also, I commented that the email was written assuming the recipients shared a brain cell with an amoeba, not that I believe those who live alone do. Far from it.

The op has contacted the Dr ten times in ten weeks BTW, not six as you have quoted. May I respectfully suggest you read post more carefully before responding as rudely.

Edited

It’s not been ten weeks since the beginning of Sep.

what was the waste of resources? Sending a text?

sunsu · 17/10/2025 22:01

Oh that’s rubbish, OP. I have felt a burden at times when I’ve had several visits close together so I completely understand. However, my DM kindly pointed out that if they would investigate and resolve the matter then I wouldn’t need to keep returning! That certainly made me look at the situation differently. You’re clearly unwell and stress is likely a huge factor but are they offering you help/support for your stress?

SilkAndSparklesForParties · 17/10/2025 22:00

Salemsplot · 17/10/2025 21:54

Well of course they did. Easiest way to get whingers off their back. Fucking hell, you complained that they offered you help erroneously- take a look at yourself

edited to add. Why do you think that you need ‘the brain cell of an amoeba’ to be in a lone household or need connections? Get off your high horse

Edited

I complained because there was incompetence combined with an overwhelming waste of resources within NHS services that the public funds.

Also, I commented that the email was written assuming the recipients shared a brain cell with an amoeba, not that I believe those who live alone do. Far from it.

The op has contacted the Dr ten times in ten weeks BTW, not six as you have quoted. May I respectfully suggest you read post more carefully before responding as rudely.

heloobyeee111111111 · 17/10/2025 22:00

I work in a surgery and we would never ever send a text like that. We have people come in regularly near enough everyday with a different problem. We would never pass comment and certainly not a text. I’d raise with the practice manager. Although it’s probably the practice manager whose bright idea it was to Send them messages.

Salemsplot · 17/10/2025 21:56

buffybots · 17/10/2025 21:54

Sometimes you have a bad run of stuff
I’ve had years where I’ve had 14 courses of antibiotics and it’s felt like I’ve been in the GP weekly
health conditions

This is almost twice a week….

buffybots · 17/10/2025 21:54

Salemsplot · 17/10/2025 21:39

10 times in 6 weeks is a lot….you don’t need to contact them every time you’re ill.

Sometimes you have a bad run of stuff
I’ve had years where I’ve had 14 courses of antibiotics and it’s felt like I’ve been in the GP weekly
health conditions

Salemsplot · 17/10/2025 21:54

SilkAndSparklesForParties · 17/10/2025 21:51

In the last year BTW, I have had:

A repeat cholesterol test and a request to make an appointment

A thyroid blood test - no GP visit- established hypothyroidism- annual blood test needed.

A F2F apt for a chest infection and AB's prescribed.

A prescription for a cream for a recurrence of nasal vasysomething on request- no apt required.

A prescription for naproxen and omeprazole for occasional back pain arising from two wedged vertebra and lumbar disk degeneration.

They have filed my bowel screening result

I have familial high cholesterol
Severe osteoporosis
Pagets disease
hypothyroidism
I don't bother my GP about any of the above except for required blood tests.

I have been to the Dr more in the last 12 months than for a very long time but the interactions were all necessary and I have had two F2F appointments.

A couple of months ago I received an email noting that my records indicated I was a lone household and offering me virtual networking to chat about crafts over a cuppa. It was sent by the Primary Care Network on behalf of my GP because social connections reduced appointments required and meant my GP could spend time doing more important things.

Boy did I complain. I don't live alone, I have a full-time professional job, I don't need support to make social connections and I did not appreciate a patronising email that assumed I shared a brain cell with an amoeba.

Evidently, this is funded by the centre but the IT team was running reports using the wrong parameters, the comms team needed to review their comms, and they accepted there were learns.

The issue is that there are 170 PCNs throughout the country each with a budget of about £10m. They clearly are operating as cottage industries of incompetence and presiding over a layer of crapocracy.

The issue is that GP's tell us they are overworked and the NHS has no resources. Clearly the NHS is pissing millions up the wall and not for theh benefit of patients. The PCNs operate to support our self employed GPs. I haven't heard a single GP point out the waste. Ever.

Both GP and PCN apologised.

Well of course they did. Easiest way to get whingers off their back. Fucking hell, you complained that they offered you help erroneously- take a look at yourself

edited to add. Why do you think that you need ‘the brain cell of an amoeba’ to be in a lone household or need connections? Get off your high horse

SilkAndSparklesForParties · 17/10/2025 21:51

In the last year BTW, I have had:

A repeat cholesterol test and a request to make an appointment

A thyroid blood test - no GP visit- established hypothyroidism- annual blood test needed.

A F2F apt for a chest infection and AB's prescribed.

A prescription for a cream for a recurrence of nasal vasysomething on request- no apt required.

A prescription for naproxen and omeprazole for occasional back pain arising from two wedged vertebra and lumbar disk degeneration.

They have filed my bowel screening result

I have familial high cholesterol
Severe osteoporosis
Pagets disease
hypothyroidism
I don't bother my GP about any of the above except for required blood tests.

I have been to the Dr more in the last 12 months than for a very long time but the interactions were all necessary and I have had two F2F appointments.

A couple of months ago I received an email noting that my records indicated I was a lone household and offering me virtual networking to chat about crafts over a cuppa. It was sent by the Primary Care Network on behalf of my GP because social connections reduced appointments required and meant my GP could spend time doing more important things.

Boy did I complain. I don't live alone, I have a full-time professional job, I don't need support to make social connections and I did not appreciate a patronising email that assumed I shared a brain cell with an amoeba.

Evidently, this is funded by the centre but the IT team was running reports using the wrong parameters, the comms team needed to review their comms, and they accepted there were learns.

The issue is that there are 170 PCNs throughout the country each with a budget of about £10m. They clearly are operating as cottage industries of incompetence and presiding over a layer of crapocracy.

The issue is that GP's tell us they are overworked and the NHS has no resources. Clearly the NHS is pissing millions up the wall and not for theh benefit of patients. The PCNs operate to support our self employed GPs. I haven't heard a single GP point out the waste. Ever.

Both GP and PCN apologised.

Salemsplot · 17/10/2025 21:39

10 times in 6 weeks is a lot….you don’t need to contact them every time you’re ill.

SilkAndSparklesForParties · 17/10/2025 21:33

Interesting responses bearing in mind that GP's are self employed and run their own practices. Therefore they have agency over the messages their practices send out.

I think you should complain to the practice manager and request a double appointment with the a senior partner to support you to get to the bottom of what's causing this and to refer you to ENT forthwith.

@Pinkwellyboots3 nearly 30 years ago, I had a similar run when "low". I had endless prescriptions of Amoxycillin for: tonsillitis, sinusitis, laryngitis, chest infections, etc. Things either didn't clear up or something else appeared. I'd had late miscarriages before and after ds. Eventually, I burst into tears at a consultant obstetrician appointment (high risk so consultant led) when 20 weeks pregnant and feeling really rough. He shook his head and said GP's didn't understand what could be prescribed in pregnancy and gave me a prescription for a seven day course of Augmentin. It knocked out whatever it was for good and I haven't been ill like it since.

After ds was born I had infective mastitis and am convinced there was a bit of lingering infection deep within that was bringing me down.

ThisIsMyBurnerPhone · 17/10/2025 21:32

Please don’t worry about social services. I’m sorry about your dad. It sounds like a really tough year. This was most likely an automated tactless message. Wish you better soon x

Ws2210 · 17/10/2025 21:28

MiddleAgedDread · 17/10/2025 17:58

I’m more shocked that the average is 8!! No wonder you can never get an appointment.

I suspect that's the mean (not the median or mode) and has been inflated by some extreme outliers!

gamerchick · 17/10/2025 21:20

It's probably a generic text and probably not from the GP. If it's bothering you then ask the receptionist what it means and what should you do if these symptoms return in future.

Hope you feel better soon. It sounds horrendous.

Yodeldodeldo · 17/10/2025 21:17

So I'm a firm believer that once ill, your energy/chi/mojo/something is knocked off kilter and you can have a real year of poor health of minor ailments, especially if you're mentally run down too.
A good doctor should realise this and help.

I've had 5 years between drs appointments and then a 6 month period when I deserved my own chair in the waiting room.

SilkAndSparklesForParties · 17/10/2025 21:14

RoseAlone · 17/10/2025 17:45

It's automated, not personal.

Does automated have to be rude.

TheCorrsDidDreamsBetter · 17/10/2025 21:07

To be fair, if your tonsils have yellow pus, that usually indicates there's a bacterial infection that would warrant antibiotics.

I do think that if you've had several courses of antibiotics recently though they should at least call you to discuss which antibiotics you need and offer a swab test for lab cultures. The last thing you want is to develop something antibiotic resistent.

I had a really bad case of strep throat after a bout of pneumonia that needed 3 courses of antibiotics and the doctors were very thorough at making sure that I was getting the right antibiotics as they understood antibiotic resistence.

The text about appointments though is patronising, and you could feedback/complain to the practice about how this impacts patient engagement, that way if it's manually sent, they might reveiw their practices, and if it's automatically sent they can collate collective information as I'm sure you're not the only person unhappy about this and decide to make administrative changes to their automated system.

mondaytosunday · 17/10/2025 20:42

I’ve never known a doctor to text anything. Are you sure it wasn’t the receptionist? Sending a routine message?
My DD has MS. Before her diagnosis at 17, she had years of unexplained symptoms and in one month period we went to GP three times and A&E twice. Fortunately no one said anything but I started to become a bear mother and started to push for more than ‘take some paracetamol’. The NHS can be brilliant, but sometimes you have to fight your corner.

Pinkwellyboots3 · 17/10/2025 20:18

Makingadecision · 17/10/2025 19:43

Could you see a pharmacist instead? Some of them are amazingly knowledgeable and kind. My GP is a waste of time so I try and get advice from other HCP. Or perhaps go to urgent care ?

Thanks so much, I already used the pharmacy scheme a few times when I first started with the tonsillitis so they can’t help me anymore due to it being ongoing :( but thank you so much for the suggestion

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flowertoday · 17/10/2025 20:12

So sorry about your dad OP. I lost my dad in the summer too. It is awful . I am constantly exhausted and feel unwell often too.
Sending you a hug.
GP surgeries can be very automated and not very patient centred these days. Definitely flag up your experience to the practice manager.
Hope you feel better soon xx

huffdragon · 17/10/2025 20:04

SalonDesRefuses · 17/10/2025 19:10

Don't know why people are assuming it's automated - if it is that's even worse. What if someone had cancer or a degenerative disease, is it acceptable for them to get an automatic telling off because they need more medical appointments than average?!

Contact the surgery and ask that you don't see that doctor again and tell them why. I'm down at my surgery only to see a female GP because of issues I've had with two patronising male GPs who made me feel as if I was exaggerating/outright didn't believe me when it came to female health.

In my practice different doctors do the emergency list and triage every day so you can’t specify who responds to your request. I’ve had two snotty texts from the surgery, both times from the same doctor for different things. I wrote to him both times and he had to apologise, put amendments on my notes and my response lays on file. The problem is that if you are not their regular patient they respond to what is in front of them as they don’t have time to go through your notes so have no idea of your history. OP, I would talk to the practice manager and tell them how it has upset you. You can get an amendment on your notes that you haven’t been using the surgery inappropriately. I think it is important to put your side of the story.

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