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To think this surely isn’t entirely my fault….

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sunrise16 · 17/10/2025 14:46

Ok hard hat on and will expect a flaming…to be told I’m a total idiot etc. Which I know! But I am totally in shock about this.
At the start of this year I signed up to a (local business, not a chain) beauty salon offer to pay a subscription every month - as part of that you got money off treatments and monthly facials as well as gifts a couple of times a year.
I went a couple of times and both times there was a bit of confusion with the system - finding me on there etc, and the last time (March!) the girl working there said she couldn’t find the subscription at all and wasn’t sure it existed. I asked them to call me to sort then to be honest it entirely went out of my head (unwell parent and usual busy life with three children etc….)
Fast forward to today and I went in there for another treatment. When I went outside to pay the woman said - ah you actually have this subscription already. I checked my account and they’ve been taking the money out every month - it came up as something else on the statement and I thought it was something to do with my DH. (Yes I know I’m an idiot, yes I know I should have checked sooner.)
I said to the woman - I’ve now missed seven months of these - did you never think to call to ask if I still wanted the subscription/to book in etc? This is a small local salon with maybe three rooms so I wouldn’t imagine they have unmanageable numbers of clients?
She said ‘oh we tried to call a couple of weeks ago but there was no answer…and it’s our policy not to give any refunds/credit etc’.
She’s not the manager and the manager’s not back in til next week - I appreciate I’m at fault for not realising this money was going out but do I have a leg to stand on with regards to them keeping it all?! At the very least it seems incredibly dishonest on their part and not a very sensible idea for a local business that relies on goodwill?

OP posts:
Rumpledandcrumpled · 17/10/2025 15:32

I don’t understand how you think it’s dishonest, you keep saying you appreciate it’s your fault, but blaming them. They haven’t been dishonest, you signed up for this, the fact you then didn’t bother to deal with it, doesn’t make them dishonest. And you can’t expect a refund either,

FionnulaTheCooler · 17/10/2025 15:22

YABU. You signed up for the subscription, presumably you never told them to cancel it as you haven't mentioned doing so. It's your responsibility to book in your appointments, not theirs.

Ablondiebutagoody · 17/10/2025 15:19

The more people who pay for a subscription that they don't use, the better it is for the salon. That's why they do it.

Rumpledandcrumpled · 17/10/2025 15:19

I have never really heard of any place that you take a subscription off and they take the time to remind you you’ve got a subscription. That’s on you.

Kizmet1 · 17/10/2025 15:16

SadOldLadyOfTheLowlands · 17/10/2025 14:47

Its the same as the gym, they're not going to chase you

This sums it up, OP.
Don't give yourself too much of a hard time but either use the subscription or cancel it and call it lesson learned.
I don't think you can expect a refund just because you haven't been using the subscription.

GreyChicken · 17/10/2025 14:52

Unfortunately it's on you to organise your own finances and check everything is as it should be.

They are a business; I imagine they don't have time/finances to chase every client double checking if they still want their subscription.

They won't have even noticed you were paying and not going - it won't be on purpose.

You could ask for a goodwill part refund, the nicer you are about it, the more likely they'll help.

DownThePubWithStevieNicks · 17/10/2025 14:52

It’s not entirely your fault, because they don’t seem to have known their arse from their elbow with it at first so I can see how you could have forgotten.

You can ask the manager to extend the subscription for the months you’ve missed, given the poor service you were given when you first tried to use it.

All subscription services like this rely on a percentage of people not using it - that’s how they are profitable.

ItIsNotTheDog · 17/10/2025 14:49

Your responsibility to use the subscription, not theirs

SadOldLadyOfTheLowlands · 17/10/2025 14:47

Its the same as the gym, they're not going to chase you

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