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Is this unfair? School

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AnitaB9 · 17/10/2025 14:37

My DC age 6. Their primary school does a ‘name and fame’ thing every week, where they can earn points and be awarded with extra play time or something like that. The same DC has got it 4 weeks in a row now. Parents are saying this isn’t fair. What do you think?

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GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 17/10/2025 15:46

I think it’s fine not to “share it round” but reward actual good behaviour/ achievements.

However, schools need to have an open mind about what is good behaviour/ an achievement- if it’s one kid getting it all the time, it suggests that they’re being a bit narrow in their definition.

However you say “playtime or something like that” suggesting your child isn’t overly bothered, it’s just the other parents. If so I wouldn’t worry about it.

IglesiasPiggl · 17/10/2025 15:23

Oh God I hated all the star of the week drama when mine were in primary school. It's fine to reward positive behaviour, but if that's what they're going to do for small kids then they need to find something positive to reward for each child over the course of the year. It's awful that the same child has had it so many times in a row.

Ablondiebutagoody · 17/10/2025 15:21

The kid is probably a badly behaved little shit so they do it to placate them.

NoOneToTextWhenThePlaneLands · 17/10/2025 15:17

Littlenest88 · 17/10/2025 15:04

I think that everybody should be getting more playtime not just one or a few children

Why? Rewards are for good behaviour

Honeypizza · 17/10/2025 15:10

DC school has lots of rewards for good behaviour and I think it's a good thing. And they don't just cycle it around the children, which would make it pointless. They do, however, have rewards for lots of different things - kindness, respect, sports, learning, etc. Or it's a group effort with house points and class awards. It gives all the kids a chance.

Littlenest88 · 17/10/2025 15:04

I think that everybody should be getting more playtime not just one or a few children

ldnmusic87 · 17/10/2025 15:00

It's a shame, in most schools it's shared around.

ComfortFoodCafe · 17/10/2025 14:55

Id make a complaint, its clearly flawed if the same kid has had it every week for a month! I remember as a kid everyone had the opportunity to earn “golden time” two hours on a friday afternoon doing an activity of choice, you had to earn it but it was pretty fair. schools nowdays make it really unfair & focus to much on attendance!

NoOneToTextWhenThePlaneLands · 17/10/2025 14:49

This is how we used to do things. Guess what? Nobody died.

verycloakanddaggers · 17/10/2025 14:48

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 17/10/2025 14:39

Life's not fair and the sooner these six year olds learn that, the better.

They dont need to be taught by school through a shit behaviour management policy, though. Life will naturally teach them.

verycloakanddaggers · 17/10/2025 14:47

It sounds like an unhelpful policy that will make a lot of kids feel negative.

I'd make a complaint - positive behaviour management is important but this sounds flawed.

CynicalSunni · 17/10/2025 14:43

What is the criteria for being 'named and famed'?
Seems a bit redundant if its the same kid who can earn points for priveleges

Bushmillsbabe · 17/10/2025 14:41

Did they get it because

  • they genuinely earned it
  • they are teachers favourite
  • the teachers are using it as a motivation tool for the children whose behaviour needs improvement

If they genuinely earnt it - fair enough.
My daughter was the child who got it 3 weeks out of 6 in her first half term. And there were some rumblings it was unfair. But the only person who actually knows if was fair or not is the teacher.

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 17/10/2025 14:39

Life's not fair and the sooner these six year olds learn that, the better.

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