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Working class men are the most attractive

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User3365237 · 17/10/2025 12:21

And there's no convincing me otherwise.

AIBU?

OP posts:
Jugjug · 17/10/2025 14:19

nameobsessed · 17/10/2025 14:14

It’s so interesting to me how attraction works. I like gentle and intelligent men so enjoying a fight, or being good at fighting, isn’t a positive for me at all.

That has nothing to do with class though, my DH is an intelligent, educated, soft spoken, loving, quiet and gentle man- who happened to grow up on council estates.

How does violence make a good partner? I’m just curious not shaming you or anything.

I like a man with a professional job who can fight, the idea a man is stronger just because he plumbs shit out of toilets all day 😂

give me Patrick Bateman without the murder

Daygloboo · 17/10/2025 14:15

XWKD · 17/10/2025 13:36

Well you generally don't see Supreme Court justices up on the roof in sexy little shorts while showing off their rippling torsos, so it's hard to know... 🤔

You do in some establishments 😂

nameobsessed · 17/10/2025 14:14

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 17/10/2025 12:30

You're not wrong.

Middle to upper class men (to me) look like sappy wet lettuces who couldn't fight their way out of a paper bag.

It’s so interesting to me how attraction works. I like gentle and intelligent men so enjoying a fight, or being good at fighting, isn’t a positive for me at all.

That has nothing to do with class though, my DH is an intelligent, educated, soft spoken, loving, quiet and gentle man- who happened to grow up on council estates.

How does violence make a good partner? I’m just curious not shaming you or anything.

Daygloboo · 17/10/2025 14:11

Thingyfanding1 · 17/10/2025 13:00

I’ve always liked arty creative types, and they need to be intelligent - ideally highly intelligent. I’ve never fancied builders. I’m more Louis Theroux than Danny Dyer.

Louis Theroux? He's about as sexy as a slap in the face with a demented haddock.

BoudiccaRuled · 17/10/2025 14:07

Labourers age terribly though. Older ones tend to have that grey smoker's skin, awful teeth and are overly wrinkled from exposure to the elements.

Papyrophile · 17/10/2025 14:06

A tidy tradie is a sight for sore eyes when you need a carpenter, sparks or a plumber. The ancient plasterer's mate who was so arthritic he regularly had to be helped up off the ground -- rather less appealing. I worried about him.

Fullfatandfortyplus · 17/10/2025 14:02

User3365237 · 17/10/2025 12:21

And there's no convincing me otherwise.

AIBU?

100% agree and usually have the best banter as well.

Coconutmacaron · 17/10/2025 14:02

I think about this topic a lot.

My best friend from high school came from a working class council house family. We were MC and my mum was horrified I was friends with him. He has always been the kindest calmest most down to earth considerate man you could meet. I went to uni he got a job and we kept in touch, he was always nice looking but I never saw him that way when we were teenagers. When I finished uni and saw him again I nearly dropped dead on the spot let’s just say he had changed (or maybe I had? But he looked amazing ). Nothing ever happened we are still best friends , can confirm though in my opinion working class is definitely best !

JaneJeffer · 17/10/2025 14:01

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 17/10/2025 12:30

You're not wrong.

Middle to upper class men (to me) look like sappy wet lettuces who couldn't fight their way out of a paper bag.

😂

Tootsiroll · 17/10/2025 14:01

Ooooh I love a bit of gristle.

I get it's subjective but a man who can fix the car, decorate the house and still have the energy to throw me around the bedroom a little is just what I like (and have lucky for me).

And yes a man who wears a suit to work can do those things too but a working class fella would get extra points.

Zov · 17/10/2025 14:00

YABU, as this is an opinion, not a fact.

Thepeopleversuswork · 17/10/2025 14:00

I am pretty agnostic on this and I try really hard never to judge anyone on their background but will say that very posh men have never done it for me. I don’t fancy very cut glass accented men and men who dress in that upper class dress code.

Theres a sense of entitlement, wetness and softness about them which is deeply unsexy.

Bushmillsbabe · 17/10/2025 13:58

RaininSummer · 17/10/2025 12:48

Not so sure about the type of blokes who are labourers on sites but a fit, intelligent and skilled self employed tradesman with all his tools can be a delightful sight to behold.

Yep, absolutely this. A smart, skilled ambitious carpenter for example is much more attractive than an accountant in a suit.

Not a scruffy dirty labourer who thinks it's smart to wolf whistle and call me 'love' or 'darling' - these are a huge turn off.

CornOn · 17/10/2025 13:57

Same OP I could’ve written your post !

My DP says. ‘Fanks’ for thanks
’fings’ for things
‘maffs’ for maths

love it!! Everything I do is for my working class heroes 🙌❤️

nam3c4ang3 · 17/10/2025 13:56

Tom hardy isn’t working class 😂😂 I don’t know who the other dude is.

Bibliophilebloke · 17/10/2025 13:55

I’ll dictate a response to my Butler later once I’ve finished rogering the junior Maid .

SomeConstellation · 17/10/2025 13:52

Bumblebee72 · 17/10/2025 13:41

In what world is the privately educated son of an artist, Tom Hardy, working class?

The world of someone who doesn’t understand a ti g and thinks TH actually is Bill Sikes, Charles Bronson and everyone other gangster he’s ever played?

CloudSky · 17/10/2025 13:50

I kinda get it, I find masculinity attractive, and that’s easier to see and demonstrate when doing manual type jobs. Similarly it emphasises it by adding to their strength, compared to a desk job. Also general grubby ruggedness 😂

I saw a man out with his two kids last weekend and he was the epitome of what I find unattractive. Tall, lanky, with skinny noodly legs, floppy hair and arms that have never done a days labour in their life 🙈 uncoordinated colours, think he had a bright red cardigan type top and blue pants that didn’t quite reach his ankles. Absolute ick. Sorry dude 🤭

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 17/10/2025 13:48

User3365237 · 17/10/2025 12:59

@Comeonbabylightmyfire My point is just because someone is working class doesn't mean they're thick, as a few posters seem to be implying.

The entire premise of your thread is that one class is better at an attribute than any other class, so I'm not sure you've got a leg to stand on there.

Irritatedandsad · 17/10/2025 13:48

Class doesn't really come into it for me. Attractive as in looks can be any walk of life.
Attractive personality and attractive bank account can also be any walk of life.
I found I can be attracted to someone but if we don't share a sense of humour then it doesnt go deeper than physical attractiveness.
Shared Humour is often class based so it makes sense for deeper level connections you often want someone with shared experiences and humour.

sweetpickle2 · 17/10/2025 13:46

How on earth do you know someone's class by looking at them, unless you massively stereotype?

You can't possibly know, as evidenced by the fact you've listed Tom Hardy as an example.

SomeConstellation · 17/10/2025 13:46

JohnBullshit · 17/10/2025 13:34

Rolled up sleeves are what do it for me, and I don't much care if the shirt collar is blue or white. I like the wearer to be intelligent, preferably a tiny bit less intelligent than me, but a thick bloke is a big turn-off, whatever class he might be.

Why do you want them ideally slightly less intelligent than you?

Bumblebee72 · 17/10/2025 13:41

User3365237 · 17/10/2025 12:39

Tom Hardy (and dare I day it, Danny Dyer).

In what world is the privately educated son of an artist, Tom Hardy, working class?

AngelinaFibres · 17/10/2025 13:41

teacupzs · 17/10/2025 13:00

Baking in the sun all day vs sitting in an office all day

Working class men don't always work outside do they?

No , sometimes they manage the local Aldi. Happy to shop there don't want to marry the manager

KimberleyClark · 17/10/2025 13:40

User3365237 · 17/10/2025 12:39

Tom Hardy (and dare I day it, Danny Dyer).

Tom Hardy is not working class. Hs parents were an artist and a writer. He went to an independent school.

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