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Working class men are the most attractive

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User3365237 · 17/10/2025 12:21

And there's no convincing me otherwise.

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EgregiouslyOverdressed · 17/10/2025 13:02

User3365237 · 17/10/2025 12:39

Tom Hardy (and dare I day it, Danny Dyer).

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Sorry to break it to you but Tom Hardy is fairly posh by almost any standard. He's just found a very lucrative niche in working-class cosplay.

teacupzs · 17/10/2025 13:02

@reversingdumptruckwithnotyreson I don't see it. Good looking faces are genetic luck & unfortunately not that common

AzurePanda · 17/10/2025 13:01

Wit, charm and intelligence are not confined to different classes.

SomeConstellation · 17/10/2025 13:01

User3365237 · 17/10/2025 12:36

I'm talking about the rugged types on building sites etc. Intelligence and class are entirely separate.

So you don’t mean working-class men at all, you mean builders or trades who work on construction sites and who present as ‘rugged’? Which is not all of them.

We’ve been having a significant house renovation done since late July and we must have had upwards of 30 different men onsite from the structural engineer, foreman, labourers, plasterers, block workers, carpenters, electricians, plumbers, painters, flooring guys etc. Could not have been nicer, but again, the majority of them unlikely to meet your definition of ‘rugged’.

And the most obviously ‘rugged’ (muscles, lots of tattoos, shaven head) was a plasterer who spent his days singing along in a falsetto voice to the eighties classics station while wearing those stilts.

TwistedWonder · 17/10/2025 13:00

Totally subjective but I admit I do get weak at the knees at the sight of a fit tradesman type.

Give me a builder over an office man any day

teacupzs · 17/10/2025 13:00

Baking in the sun all day vs sitting in an office all day

Working class men don't always work outside do they?

TulipCat · 17/10/2025 13:00

User3365237 · 17/10/2025 12:39

Tom Hardy (and dare I day it, Danny Dyer).

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Tom Hardy who was born in an affluent London suburb, whose parents were an artist and a writer and who was privately educated? That's quite a broad definition for "working class"!

But that aside, I think it's one thing to find someone attractive in the abstract, as opposed to finding someone attractive for a relationship. It's also fairly common for people to fancy people they would never consider a relationship with. So yes, I think rugged outdoorsy builder types are attractive, but I am married to a University educated city boy 😁

Thingyfanding1 · 17/10/2025 13:00

I’ve always liked arty creative types, and they need to be intelligent - ideally highly intelligent. I’ve never fancied builders. I’m more Louis Theroux than Danny Dyer.

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User3365237 · 17/10/2025 12:59

@Comeonbabylightmyfire My point is just because someone is working class doesn't mean they're thick, as a few posters seem to be implying.

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reversingdumptruckwithnotyreson · 17/10/2025 12:59

teacupzs · 17/10/2025 12:57

How does class influence one's face?

I suppose there’s an argument to be made in terms of physical shape, etc. due to types of jobs, hobbies and so on. Plus the way someone carries themselves can probably also be traced back to their upbringing, I can (sort of) see where OP is coming from.

teacupzs · 17/10/2025 12:59

Tom Hardy (and dare I day it, Danny Dyer).

The Tom Hardy who went to private school?

Pleasegetmeacoffeesotired · 17/10/2025 12:59

Mushroo · 17/10/2025 12:56

Not for me.

I can see the appeal for the Diet Coke advert window cleaner man, but irl I hate tattoos and vapes, which probably rules out quite a lot of tradesmen!

Ideal celebs would be Tom Holland or Tom Hiddleston.

I'm with you with Tom Hiddleston, but Holland? You don't think he looks like a child?

Jugjug · 17/10/2025 12:57

teacupzs · 17/10/2025 12:57

How does class influence one's face?

Baking in the sun all day vs sitting in an office all day

Jamesblonde2 · 17/10/2025 12:57

The working class men are more likely to be able to roll up their sleeves and do manual/physical tasks. So that in itself is attractive.

teacupzs · 17/10/2025 12:57

How does class influence one's face?

reversingdumptruckwithnotyreson · 17/10/2025 12:57

User3365237 · 17/10/2025 12:39

Tom Hardy (and dare I day it, Danny Dyer).

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I was on board with you until you decided to come out with Danny Dyer.

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Mushroo · 17/10/2025 12:56

Not for me.

I can see the appeal for the Diet Coke advert window cleaner man, but irl I hate tattoos and vapes, which probably rules out quite a lot of tradesmen!

Ideal celebs would be Tom Holland or Tom Hiddleston.

menopausalfart · 17/10/2025 12:56

@User3365237 Your question depends on what you're attracted to.

Twistedfirestarters · 17/10/2025 12:55

I can't say class has ever factored into attraction for me.

Sal820 · 17/10/2025 12:55

HoppingPavlova · 17/10/2025 12:53

Maybe be you are thinking in 20’s/30’s for certain trades. Come back about that once a hard graft labourer is in his 60’s, it generally ain’t a pretty sight.

Yes, they start off 'a bit rough around the edges' and end up just 'rough'. Being out in the sun all day every day tends to age you very badly.

OriginalUsername2 · 17/10/2025 12:55

Pleasegetmeacoffeesotired · 17/10/2025 12:45

That sounds like all the middle class men, I've ever met.

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Ha! This perfectly describes “Yacht Boy”, a posh bloke all my friends fancied.

Sal820 · 17/10/2025 12:53

Oh god if by working class you mean works on a building site then no thanks! I like an ounce of intelligence. There's also nothing less attractive to me than farmers who work 24/7 and literally can't think of anything beyond the farm.

And Danny Dyer? Rough as a bag of nails if you ask me, not that I could get past his voice. Not aged well at all IMO.

HoppingPavlova · 17/10/2025 12:53

Maybe be you are thinking in 20’s/30’s for certain trades. Come back about that once a hard graft labourer is in his 60’s, it generally ain’t a pretty sight.

Comeonbabylightmyfire · 17/10/2025 12:52

User3365237 · 17/10/2025 12:36

I'm talking about the rugged types on building sites etc. Intelligence and class are entirely separate.

Which is confusing as your post is about being attracted to a particular class.

OriginalUsername2 · 17/10/2025 12:52

A bit rough around the edges? Me too.