To have cried at Dr not to send me home

Don't be embarrassed.

The health system right now is not a safe place.

I've been in your situation and after the third time of going to the A&E and being humiliated by the head (female) Dr for wasting their time, I threatened to jump off the bridge of the hospital and make sure it made the news.

I'm not suicidal but I have worked in marketing and PR and that sort of thing and I was at my wits end, the only thing these hospitals are afraid of is bad publicity.

The really messed up thing though?

It worked.

Sorry you have had such shoddy treatment @Whatsthematterwiththebatinthecave

If you’re no better go back tomorrow. If you get worse go back tonight.

I’m glad you have your dad to look after you. You need further tests. Someone better informed than me might be able to say if Martha’s Rule might help (you can ask for a second opinion on your treatment), it’s so named in honour of a girl who very sadly died when more could have been done by hospital staff.

So sorry you've endured such shabby treatment.
Hopefully the Meds you do have will help.
Wishing you all the best 🙏

You are never being silly when advocating for your health. These drs and nurses don't take us seriously, many times and it might shock someone who doesn't see them regularly!

I have an autoimmune disease that also raises my chance of blood clots, and I have been in and out of the hospital multiple times, too many to count.

I remember the first time I was diagnosed with my disease, I told the nurse I do not want to go home until the morning because that was the first night, in MONTHS, that I was pain free thanks to the hardcore pain meds they were pumping into me, and I could finally get some sleep.

If something is not right, your body is doing its job and telling you. No one is going to relay this message to others besides you. So good for you for speaking up!

I hope you feel better soon.

This is awful OP.

If you are able to contact your GP tomorrow to explain the outcome after they referred you to A&E or if your surgery does the online appointment form, I'd fill it out tonight ( or your dad if he can) ready for triage in the morning.
You can discuss your concerns re; possible infection/sepsis and how it's made you feel physically and mentally

Something similar happened to me, I broke my leg in 3places, consultant shouted at me because I wanted to stay at home until my operation, I couldn't have it until the swelling was completely down, I was on an emergency ward with patients who were alcoholics and severely distressed elderly patients. It was incredibly distressing for the mental health, I managed to get home to rest in a calm place, phoned my GP the next day due to how upset the consultant was and how he made me feel and they were very, very understanding.

Like PP has said, CTs aren't always the best at picking everything up. I can't believe you weren't even given an ultrasound to check for kidney stones.

I hope you have a comfortable night, able to get some sleep and feel on the up tomorrow. Xx

Maybe you can dig some ammunition out of this:
“Patients must be able to trust doctors with their lives and health. To justify that trust you must show respect for human life and make sure your practice meets the standards expected of you in four domains”.1st paragraph of this 44page booklet (came into effect Nov. 2020) : https://www.gmc-uk.org/-/media/documents/updated-decision-making-and-consent-guidance_pdf-84160128.pdf
I really hope you start to feel at least a little better soon. Great your DDad can look after you.

“Suspected sepsis” should be treated as actual sepsis until proven otherwise. I’m really shocked they have discharged you.

in the health service you have to ADVOCATE constantly for adequate care.

Shocking that he suggested you go home.

I'm glad you're admitted. Could be worth having a colonoscopy too in case something shows up there. Especially with the weight loss. The doctors will investigate now anyway

Why should you feel silly? You might have been upset but you advocated for yourself and were listened to- you should feel proud of yourself!

Sounds so horrid, I’m sorry OP. Never feel bad for advocating for yourself - it’s sad but true that it’s required more now than ever. Holding your hand xxx

They think you might have sepsis and they are sending you home? Ask for Martha's rule, don't let them fob you off.

Feeling so very awful is a sign of sepsis too.

How does the discharge letter justify the decision to discharge? Does it have your highest and lowest NEWS score on there?

RTFT

She's now been discharged.

This makes no sense the suspect sepsis no sending you home have they said the blood work was clear

From time to time, I am asked to review and make a plan for a patient I have not clerked in myself. So that the description of their symptoms is second hand via verbal handover, or written notes. When I make the plan to send home, I always summarise an overview of the situation and ask the parent if they are happy and have any questions.

And on a few occasions, usually when I'm under a lot of time pressure and have been rushing, it turns out that are very not happy and that this is because I have made a complete mistake or omission in my understanding of the history of the symptoms.

In this instance, I feel grateful to the parent for speaking up because they have potentially saved us both a deal of trouble. Good doctors, I believe, want to enable their patients to speak up and correct them where they have misunderstood or just plain got something wrong. Patients (or in my case parents of patients) are oftentimes the best safety net a doctor could ask for.

If you are concerned, frightened, not reassured, think the doctor is or even may be mistaken in something, you should not keep it to yourself. You are helping your doctor (and yourself or course) by speaking up. Good doctors will see it this way. Rather than you being embarrassed, they probably feel embarrassed by the misunderstanding.

And btw, bursting into tears is nothing to be ashamed of - we've evolved crying for a reason, because it effectively communicates our feelings & evokes an emotional response even to/in strangers, and often to our advantage. That has clearly been the case here. Those tears did their job!

Hope you are feeling better soon.

I've been treated very cruelly by nurses too.
Please don't let them fob you off, what happened about the suspected sepsis ffs?!

I was going to send you a DM but can't see how to do that. Ask them to refer you to the community Virtual Ward team (presuming you are in England), I work for one and you would meet our criteria for post discharge monitoring which is still consultant led. This is the issue all the time, lack of beds, staff too busy to really care. You need monitoring at home op.

Excellent idea regarding invoking Martha's Law.
Ask for that nurse's/consultants name and tell them you will be reporting to PAL's.

This is dreadful.
I'm so sorry.

My own hospital have been outstanding both times I’ve had sepsis from kidney issues. But I’ve heard enough stories to worry when I travel around the U.K. I’d imagine that if they desperately need the bed then that’s when mistakes are more likely to happen.

You poor thing have they ruled out kidney infection?

It’s terrible lately. Only a few months ago a friends dear granny was discharged after a fall. Apparently all fine perfect Infact. She died from sepsis days after.

Nhs is just trying to get people in and out while they are also stuck with bed hogger who are genuinely well enough to leave but need a care plan.

Ask them for a review under Martha’s law. I would specifically want to know why if they mentioned sepsis an hour ago they think it isn’t now. If you have a temp of 40 and a potential source of infection what is making them think it isn’t.

If you do end up going home, do not hesitate to turn back up at A&E if you get any worse at all.

Oh heavens ... my heart us with you. Been there, done that. I have a heart problem and know how all this feels from countless A&E visits.
They sent me home one time when I was having a heart attack FFS.
It is not just the physical illness that you have to deal with but also the psychological damage of being treated in an offhand manner. I know this scenario so well.
You have done nothing wrong. You are ill and need care. Sending a hand hold.