To have cried at Dr not to send me home

OP I hope you are safe at home! Absolutely any indication that you feel unwell again please go back to AE . As a nurse who worked in AE many years ago your treatment is alien to me …fucking shocking!

I overruled my GP last week. Went for my pre op assessment. Was told to go straight to my GP because my blood pressure was too high which meant they wouldn't operate.

Phoned GP who said well take your BP twice a day for two weeks then call the surgery back. I forcefully explained that the surgery had noted my BP was too high two years previously and I didn't bloody have two weeks to fart around with machine taking a reading the hospital insisted that I went on tablets immediately. Otherwise they wouldn't operate.

I'd already wasted two years not being believed by the surgery so in despair went private. The consultant sent me straight down to x-ray who confirmed both hips were stage 4 and one hip the ball had disintegrated, the bone had migrated upwards and I must be in agony. I admit I broke down at that news because someone finally believed me.

Then I got mad I could have wrapped my two sticks around the GPs neck if they'd been standing there.

So no I won't take any shit from the NHS anymore.

The way you’ve been treated is appalling.
keep pushing and advocating for yourself and take someone with you if you can.
I’ve nearly died at the hands of drs and the only thing that stopped that was me refusing to back down.

Hello DSis! 🥳

OP I’d honestly go back and not leave until they’ve sorted you, it’s not worth getting this wrong. Hope you get better soon!

I agree 100%

That is shocking behaviour!!! And how exactly is a patient supposed to self manage "suspected sepsis " themselves anyway?? If the OP had called 111 with the symptoms she'd have been literally told to go to a+e as an emergency!! 🤨

My friend had a tumor in her intestines and the same symptoms as you , it was benign but had she waited long enough it would have killed her . Push them to more tests , never regret advocating for yourself or your loved ones

CT is the gold standard for kidney stones, OP does not need an ultrasound scan “to rule out kidney stones”.

The vast majority of people with “suspected sepsis” do not have sepsis.

And in addition to @Lougle list above drink plenty of fluids and make sure you are peeing plenty too.

I think it’s hospital dependent. Sometimes even doctor dependent. My 2nd admission and readmission (nearly twice) was a clusterfuck almost from the start. The 2 episodes with sepsis and suspected sepsis were fine.

Have they given you oral antibiotics to take home, OP? And is there someone at home with you?

I really can’t believe they’ve sent you home with suspected sepsis. I think your dad needs to check on you very regularly during the night, as it can go downhill quickly, and hopefully he won’t be shy about calling 999 in these circumstances.

Sounds awful, Op. I really hope that you start to feel better soon.

I despair of the NHS.

https://www.cosinuss.com/en/2020/03/11/rethinking-early-warning-score-ews-in-the-digital-age/

you can also use parts of this to monitor overnight

Respiratory rate (breaths per minute), pulse, temperature. Oxygen sats if you have an oximeter, BP if you have a monitor

But please, please use the sepsis list that another user posted above

DSis has just come through sepsis and getting her help was bloody hard

You have to be really bloody pushy now- I’ve experienced it too often that things haven’t been picked up on the first visit.

1. example 1: gp send my baby in as red flag sepsis. Paeds sent us home. I wasn’t happy so went back first thing. My little one went blue, had rigours and projectile vomited over the ward. Many staff came running and it was a missed kidney infection.

2. example 2: my other daughter was misdiagnosed in a&e in hospital 1 and was re-admitted a week later and treated for the right thing that has been missed.

3. we had to do a Martha’s law request for a relative as the poor care and lack of a plan would have killed her. It still might but the complaint meant heads were knocked together and something happened.

if you are at your dad’s get him to google nice guidelines for sepsis and check what you have has compared to the guidelines. If you are in any doubt phone 111 or return to a&e with a copy of the guidelines in your hand. Also look at the sepsis trust. If there is any doubt, don’t mess around.

So sorry OP. I did that once, when they tried to discharge me without my breastfeeding newborn.

OP I’m glad you’re being looked after by your Dad. Will be thinking of you and hope you are ok.

• feels very unwell or like there's something seriously wrong
• has not had a pee all day (for adults and older children) or in the last 12 hours (for babies and young children)
• keeps vomiting and cannot keep any food or milk down (for babies and young children)
• has a very high or low temperature, feels hot or cold to the touch, or is shivering
• acting confused, slurred speech or not making sense
• blue, grey, pale or blotchy skin, lips or tongue – on brown or black skin, this may be easier to see on the palms of the hands or soles of the feet
• a rash that does not fade when you roll a glass over it, the same as meningitis
• difficulty breathing, breathlessness or breathing very fast

@Whatsthematterwiththebatinthecave I'm just putting this list here. You need to show your Dad, and read it yourself. If you get any of these symptoms overnight, or the symptoms you do have get worse, you need to get seen again.

So so sorry you’ve had to go through this and are still having to deal with the aftermath. Your poor Dad. May he rest in eternal peace. I’m sending all my love to you and the other poster who mentioned a friend’s gran who experienced similar. It is not good enough.

If you feel wlrse, go back
They shouldnt of discharged you with suspected Sepsis

I can’t believe they have sent you home with a fever that high and severe flank pain, with ‘suspected sepsis’ thats outrageous. If you are septic and they send you home they are medically negligent. You absolutely sound like you have an infection. Flank pain, fever and vomiting is a red flag for a kidney infection, I have had many and this sounds so familiar. Do you have any uti symptoms Op? Blood in urine or pain on voiding? I’m glad you are staying with your Dad, keep topped up in otc pain relief, keep up you fluid intake and watch your fever like a hawk. ANY rise in your temp or worsening of pain and go back to A&E and refuse to leave until you are seen properly. I’m so sorry you are unwell, I hope you get the care you need asap

Go back tomorrow. If they fob you off again then you need to ask for a review by the Critical Care Outreach Team under Martha’s Rule - means that you have to be given a second opinion

Omg I knew you were going to mention the lack of beds! This seems like an ongoing issue with the NHS- they don’t admitted anyone due to lack of beds! Even if the person needs to be admitted - it’s actually terrible. I know
someone who was in labour and was turned away as they didn’t have any beds. They didn’t say this obviously but picked this up from overheard conversations. This person didn’t leave the hospital but waited around in the lobby as she knew the baby was coming because thank God she did, as the baby was born within the hour- in a waiting room. It’s really bad.

It sounds horrendous and you sound very brave, there is nothing worse than being in a lot of pain for a long time with no clear reason for its cause or way forward to sort it out. Hoping you feel much better very soon

So sorry this has happened to you ❤️
Well done for advocating for yourself today (especially tough to do when poorly) and please don’t be discouraged from continuing to advocate for yourself - it can feel pushy but PLEASE demand that your concerns are taken seriously and that your treatment plan (whether with GP or A&E) is explained to you properly and that you are happy with it and your concerns are getting addressed

Sending big hugs and hope you are on the mend v soon