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To have cried at Dr not to send me home

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Whatsthematterwiththebatinthecave · 16/10/2025 17:54

For 3 weeks I’ve had left flank pain that’s slowly been getting worse, coupled by loss of appetite and loss of weight for past 2 months (unintended). 3 days ago things really went down hill which ruined my work projects and the pain becoming so bad I started vomiting from the pain and passing out; this prompted me to see the GP who sent me straight to A&E.

29hrs later I’ve finally been told my blood test and urine test suggest something underlying but my CT scan came back clear so I can go come. He said maybe it’s an infection but my temperature isn’t that high.

I just burst into tears at the thought of going home in this pain with no meds to fix anything. He was taken back by my reaction and asked if I felt I needed to stay, I explained what’s been going on and he was surprised as he hadn’t realised how long it had been going on for (I had said on arrival and it was in my GP letter). I then begged to not be sent home and he has agreed but now I feel silly.

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Blarghism · 17/10/2025 06:32

Where is the 2nd closest A&E to you? Go there.

liveforsummer · 17/10/2025 06:19

I hope you are back at hospital now OP. Does not sound good at all!

PollyDarton1 · 17/10/2025 06:06

You need to go back in I think OP. If they’ve given you IV antibiotics they are quick and you should feel some kind of relief from the high temp relatively quickly.

The fact your temp is still high and you are still showing signs of infection means whatever you’ve been given is likely either not worked or not strong enough to tackle whatever infection you have.

I (sadly) can quite believe they’ve sent you home - I had sepsis 3 years ago, I presented at A&E with a 40.5c temperature and was going in and out of consciousness, but left on a chair in a waiting room. I started throwing up and begged for at least a bed because I was in so much pain and dizziness. My CRP was 489 and I had cellulitis, and was then diagnosed with sepsis. They gave me fluids and IV antibiotics, and once I felt better they discharged me for day patient care so I had to go back once a day for 2 weeks to get hooked up to an IV and have my ankle/leg checked out. They didn’t have any beds, and my Mum had to come over to care for me. The day unit were fabulous I must say, but it was a terrifying time and I genuinely felt like I was dying (which is one of the ‘symptoms’ of sepsis). If I hadn’t advocated for myself in the A&E ward, I don’t know what would have happened as they’d placed me in minor injuries with a 4 hour wait ahead of me.

babyproblems · 17/10/2025 05:47

Just seen your update op - fgs! Go back with your dad. Is there another A&E you can go to?? Go back. Xxx

babyproblems · 17/10/2025 05:46

totallly justified @Whatsthematterwiththebatinthecave i hope you feel better soon!
Ive only been to a&e a couple of times but I get the impression they don’t take anything seriously unless you arrive in an ambulance and very close to death. You did the right thing!!!!

BlueEyedBogWitch · 17/10/2025 05:21

This is a shocking thread.

Please go back to A&E, and take your dad with you.

Sparla · 17/10/2025 05:12

Have they asked you to go back for more antibiotics? When my daughter had a UTI (age 10) which had spread she had to do daily IV antibiotics for a week or until they identified the bacteria. We went home with more antibiotics after that - they didn’t find the bug which isn’t uncommon but it was definitely an infection. It was ok to be home between the IVs. I hope you get similar treatment. My daughter had only got worse one night before then - vomiting and fever.

If you need a bit more pain relief you can try cocodamol at the pharmacy. Just be careful to not take too much paracetamol.

Menopause can result in being susceptible to UTIs. You can ask for prophylactic antibiotics if it’s happening a lot.

justasking111 · 17/10/2025 05:12

Please Go back to the hospital.

springintoaction2 · 17/10/2025 05:01

You need your CRP (infection marker in blood) checking again - I would be very concerned with fever of above 40

Pilfer · 17/10/2025 05:00

Another one saying that you need to go back.

ItWillBeDone · 17/10/2025 04:50

I'm sorry you're feeling so poorly and have had such a poor experience. I also encourage you to go back to hospital, the care you've received isn't good enough. Good luck.

Iocanepowder · 17/10/2025 04:42

Sorry to read this op, please do go back, or ring 111 at the very least. Please do also ask for Martha’s rule.

FeeFiFoFummy · 17/10/2025 04:38

How are you OP? Did you go back to A&E? I hope you did

Zanatdy · 17/10/2025 04:26

Go back if your temp doesn’t settle. This doesn’t sound right at all.

reginaPhalange1990 · 17/10/2025 04:26

Go back 100%

PennyRest · 17/10/2025 04:01

Agree, please go back in. Ask your Dad to go with you perhaps, but do go OP.

Bowies · 17/10/2025 03:57

Whatsthematterwiththebatinthecave · 17/10/2025 03:39

Bowl cancer could account for the bloody stools. Dr said it’s nothing at my age though, probably something I’ve eaten.

i honestly feel worse, I’ve woken up shivering and my temp is back over 40, I’ve taken paracetamol but isn’t touching the pain or the temp. I’m too nervous to go back in now tbh, I feel so anxious

Go in OP…likely a different team on anyway. Are you able to take Ibuprofen as well meanwhile?

FeeFiFoFummy · 17/10/2025 03:53

You need to go back to A&E, OP

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Whatsthematterwiththebatinthecave · 17/10/2025 03:41

I suppose I’m just shocked they didn’t take my bloods or check my urine yesterday, especially given the day before the urine nd bloods came back with infection markers

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Whatsthematterwiththebatinthecave · 17/10/2025 03:39

Bowl cancer could account for the bloody stools. Dr said it’s nothing at my age though, probably something I’ve eaten.

i honestly feel worse, I’ve woken up shivering and my temp is back over 40, I’ve taken paracetamol but isn’t touching the pain or the temp. I’m too nervous to go back in now tbh, I feel so anxious

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PineappleCoconut · 17/10/2025 03:36

SandyY2K · 17/10/2025 00:18

Have you taken a screening test due bowel cancer?

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^^ this

I had the same symptoms but mine went on longer

Many telephone GP appointments, several visits to A&E, the last I was shouted at to get out, after being brought in by ambulance on some very good drugs, and told I was time wasting and a drug seeker

I had bowel cancer

Bowies · 17/10/2025 02:53

If you had all the IV antibiotics they could give you as a precaution/prevention and nothing else came back as worrying, I can understand why they discharged you home.

The main issue was their communication was poor at the end and you were left with a lack of clarity and feeling judged.

Hopefully you are feeling much better and can follow up with your GP.

Are you able to take regular paracetamol and ibuprofen at home and monitor your temperature? If you become really unwell again despite this I would have a low threshold to return to A&E (maybe a different hospital if there is a choice).

Italiangreyhound · 17/10/2025 01:07

100% you did the right thing.

I hope you will be OK.

SandyY2K · 17/10/2025 00:18

Whatsthematterwiththebatinthecave · 16/10/2025 17:54

For 3 weeks I’ve had left flank pain that’s slowly been getting worse, coupled by loss of appetite and loss of weight for past 2 months (unintended). 3 days ago things really went down hill which ruined my work projects and the pain becoming so bad I started vomiting from the pain and passing out; this prompted me to see the GP who sent me straight to A&E.

29hrs later I’ve finally been told my blood test and urine test suggest something underlying but my CT scan came back clear so I can go come. He said maybe it’s an infection but my temperature isn’t that high.

I just burst into tears at the thought of going home in this pain with no meds to fix anything. He was taken back by my reaction and asked if I felt I needed to stay, I explained what’s been going on and he was surprised as he hadn’t realised how long it had been going on for (I had said on arrival and it was in my GP letter). I then begged to not be sent home and he has agreed but now I feel silly.

Have you taken a screening test due bowel cancer?

Lougle · 17/10/2025 00:15

Northerngirl821 · 16/10/2025 23:32

CT is the gold standard for kidney stones, OP does not need an ultrasound scan “to rule out kidney stones”.

The vast majority of people with “suspected sepsis” do not have sepsis.

"The vast majority of people with “suspected sepsis” do not have sepsis."

But the ones who do die or end up with life changing injuries from the massive doses of vasopressors needed to keep them alive if they aren't treated promptly. That's why we always treat as sepsis until it isn't.

It's quite possible that @Whatsthematterwiththebatinthecave 's blood tests and other observations were reassuring. If the doctor had taken 5 minutes to explain that to her, then she probably wouldn't be posting about her discharge summary which says 'suspected sepsis.' If the d/c summary listed the reassuring results, that also would have reassured @Whatsthematterwiththebatinthecave that she had been given the appropriate assessment and treatment.