To have cried at Dr not to send me home

Whatsthematterwiththebatinthecave · 2025-10-16T16:54:10+00:00

For 3 weeks I’ve had left flank pain that’s slowly been getting worse, coupled by loss of appetite and loss of weight for past 2 months (unintended). 3 days ago things really went down hill which ruined my work projects and the pain becoming so bad I started vomiting from the pain and passing out; this prompted me to see the GP who sent me straight to A&E. 29hrs later I’ve finally been told my blood test and urine test suggest something underlying but my CT scan came back clear so I can go come. He said maybe it’s an infection but my temperature isn’t that high. I just burst into tears at the thought of going home in this pain with no meds to fix anything. He was taken back by my reaction and asked if I felt I needed to stay, I explained what’s been going on and he was surprised as he hadn’t realised how long it had been going on for (I had said on arrival and it was in my GP letter). I then begged to not be sent home and he has agreed but now I feel silly.

Elboob · 12/11/2025 12:15

@Whatsthematterwiththebatinthecave How are you now?

Eatinghurts · 03/11/2025 19:13

So sorry to hear andglad you had someone to encourrage you to go back would have been so eaasy not to after way you were treated.

anyolddinosaur · 23/10/2025 11:29

Wishing you a speedy recovery.

RafaistheKingofClay · 23/10/2025 10:54

Whatsthematterwiththebatinthecave · 22/10/2025 20:09

Hi, sorry for worrying you. It turned out to be sepsis. DH persuaded me back into hospital as I deteriorated and I was quite quickly seen and admitted this time round. Thank you for your support and well wishes, hopefully on the mend now and be discharged soon!

Glad you are on the mend. Absolutely not surprised about the sepsis. I do think that’s worth a complaint to PALs if you have the mental energy.

Do not underestimate how long it will take you to recover from the sepsis. Especially once you get home. It’s likely to take a while before you feel properly back to normal again.

Mischance · 23/10/2025 09:58

I am so glad that you are on the mend.

But you should not have to fight fo a proper diagnosis. Speak to PALs. They can take effective action in these cases - see my earlier post.

JurassicPark4Eva · 23/10/2025 09:49

Whatsthematterwiththebatinthecave · 22/10/2025 20:09

Hi, sorry for worrying you. It turned out to be sepsis. DH persuaded me back into hospital as I deteriorated and I was quite quickly seen and admitted this time round. Thank you for your support and well wishes, hopefully on the mend now and be discharged soon!

I'm glad you've been admitted! When you're feeling better, highly recommend a complaint via PALS.

Also ask if anyone used the Early Warning Score system / Suspicion of Sepsis Dashboard as they should be.

Firedrink · 23/10/2025 09:39

So glad to read this update.
It explains so many deaths from sepsis when you imagine them coming across such incompetent staff as OP did.
Get well soon.

nosleepforme · 23/10/2025 07:56

Oh gosh, I’m glad they took you seriously when you returned!

OnDaysLikeThese · 23/10/2025 00:24

'm so pleased to see this, thanks for coming back to update us. I'm really glad to hear that you went back to the hospital, and are receiving treatment. I hope you feel better soon. I, too, think that a formal complaint is in order. It could have ended very differently, thank goodness it didn't.

Wheresthebeach · 22/10/2025 22:27

Glad you’re getting the care you need finally

Elboob · 22/10/2025 21:37

@Whatsthematterwiththebatinthecave oh thank goodness you went back!
Glad you are being treated.

ruethewhirl · 22/10/2025 21:35

So relieved you're getting treated OP! Hope you're soon on the mend, and I agree with @Silvers11 - definitely complain when you're feeling up to it!

Orangemintcream · 22/10/2025 21:27

Whatsthematterwiththebatinthecave · 22/10/2025 20:09

Hi, sorry for worrying you. It turned out to be sepsis. DH persuaded me back into hospital as I deteriorated and I was quite quickly seen and admitted this time round. Thank you for your support and well wishes, hopefully on the mend now and be discharged soon!

I am so so glad you went back and that you are now receiving treatment.

I wish you a swift recovery.

Silvers11 · 22/10/2025 20:23

Whatsthematterwiththebatinthecave · 22/10/2025 20:09

Hi, sorry for worrying you. It turned out to be sepsis. DH persuaded me back into hospital as I deteriorated and I was quite quickly seen and admitted this time round. Thank you for your support and well wishes, hopefully on the mend now and be discharged soon!

So pleased to hear from you @Whatsthematterwiththebatinthecave and that you are now on the mend, but I do hope you complain about all the carry on before they realised you had Sepsis. Could have turned out differently - and badly.

MoggiMay · 22/10/2025 20:12

Whatsthematterwiththebatinthecave · 22/10/2025 20:09

Hi, sorry for worrying you. It turned out to be sepsis. DH persuaded me back into hospital as I deteriorated and I was quite quickly seen and admitted this time round. Thank you for your support and well wishes, hopefully on the mend now and be discharged soon!

Oh thank goodness was you’ve been admitted and are in the right place! I was thinking back to a few weeks ago I was in exactly the same place but I also refused to do anything (sorry@ohfourfoxachewho forcefully made persuaded me to actually go to hospital). It’s so scary how often this is misdiagnosed or misguidance happens.

wishing you heaps better soon, it’s good to hear from you OP 💐

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Whatsthematterwiththebatinthecave · 22/10/2025 20:09

Hi, sorry for worrying you. It turned out to be sepsis. DH persuaded me back into hospital as I deteriorated and I was quite quickly seen and admitted this time round. Thank you for your support and well wishes, hopefully on the mend now and be discharged soon!

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OnDaysLikeThese · 22/10/2025 14:06

Orangemintcream · 22/10/2025 11:43

I know - I am genuinely really concerned about her.

And disgusted at the “care” she has received.

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Me too. I keep checking back every day, hoping for a positive update. Really hope that she's OK.

Orangemintcream · 22/10/2025 11:43

BlondeFool · 21/10/2025 23:01

Hopefully she’s in hospital. She sounded extremely unwell..

I know - I am genuinely really concerned about her.

And disgusted at the “care” she has received.

BlondeFool · 21/10/2025 23:01

Hopefully she’s in hospital. She sounded extremely unwell..

Littletinytarzanswingingfromanosehair · 21/10/2025 22:38

Hope OP is ok 🙏

Orangemintcream · 20/10/2025 11:18

OP are you ok ?

Mcoco · 20/10/2025 07:33

Mischance · 19/10/2025 21:52

I contacted PALS at a hospital after their A&E missed the fact that I was having a heart attack and sent me home. They got straight back to me and an enquiry was started - they sent me all the papers at the end of this. They had reviewed and updated their protocols and started new training around heart episodes, using my case an example of poor practice from which they could learn.

I also contacted them when a consultant cardiologist shouted at me on the ward. The head of cardiology services rang me back within the hour as soon as PALs relayed my complaint to her. She clearly knew this guy of old and said she would organise to talk with him about the incident; and she also informed the cardiology department that I was not to be given appointments with him.

So sometimes they do take effective action ...

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Really good to know this. Glad you are OK.

Mischance · 19/10/2025 21:52

anyolddinosaur · 19/10/2025 07:39

PALS can actually be useful - the one local to me produced useful action when we needed their help.

I contacted PALS at a hospital after their A&E missed the fact that I was having a heart attack and sent me home. They got straight back to me and an enquiry was started - they sent me all the papers at the end of this. They had reviewed and updated their protocols and started new training around heart episodes, using my case an example of poor practice from which they could learn.

I also contacted them when a consultant cardiologist shouted at me on the ward. The head of cardiology services rang me back within the hour as soon as PALs relayed my complaint to her. She clearly knew this guy of old and said she would organise to talk with him about the incident; and she also informed the cardiology department that I was not to be given appointments with him.

So sometimes they do take effective action ...

TeaBiscuitsNaptime · 19/10/2025 20:19

You sound like how I felt before I was diagnosed with Crohn's disease. Unintended weight loss, loose stools with blood, chest pain, headaches. I managed to collect my child too. I had sepsis with my first flare. You feel really dragged down and each day becomes more of a struggle. I was sent home from a&e also and had been to the doc countless times. If you are still getting worse I would go back to a&e because if you present again with the same symptoms they will investigate further. If it is Crohn's disease, getting diagnosed sooner rather than later is important because it's the flares that cause the damage and the first flare (before you get put on medication) is usually the worst. Ensure or complan would be very beneficial in the meantime and meditation believe it or not! Linda Hall does a good one for chronic illness, helps your body heal and get your thoughts in order

Gpea8181 · 19/10/2025 19:39

Are you ok OP?