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To pull up my dentist on this?

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Oucht · 16/10/2025 17:27

I have a neurological condition where my teeth will hurt and feel sensitive to the point I have ended up in A&E, I also have a central nervous system condition that amplifies my pain.

Anyway. I had a check up booked at my dentist mid Nov. They emailed to tell m it had been cancelled for unforseen reasons. I called to rebook and was told I could not be seen until January, so I booked it.

Now because of my conditions, I cannot diferrentiate between real dental problems and "brain" pain. I need a dentist to make sure I have no real problems. I went on their website and if I was to book a "smile consultation" as a NEW patient, I could be seen by my dentist in Dec.

I'm tempted to email and ask if as an existing patient, can I not have one of those appts in Dec for my check up?
I might not be in pain (hugely) now, but to know my teeth are okay before Xmas would help me a lot.

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Oucht · 18/10/2025 22:17

ButWhysTheRumGone · 18/10/2025 21:11

@Ouchtplease could you tell me more about the condition that causes dental pain? I have an issue with pain in my teeth yet there’s nothing wrong with them and professionals seem baffled by it.
I hope you get an appointment soon.

I saw a neurologist who diagnosed me with atypical facial pain or persistent idiopathic facial pain as it’s called. My pain manifests as my teeth feeling like the nerve is open to the air.
Many things trigger it.
Trigeminal neuralgia is another facial pain that affects the teeth.

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Oucht · 18/10/2025 22:14

Lollygaggle · 18/10/2025 20:00

The problem with atypical facial pain and things like eg trigeminal neuralgia is that removing teeth does not remove the pain. Typically people have tooth after tooth removed to no effect before a diagnosis is reached.

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That is exactly what happened to me but each time the dentist I was with then told me that my teeth were cracking and that was the problem.
That was the catalyst for me to search for a diagnosis.

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Lollygaggle · 18/10/2025 21:44

BadgernTheGarden · 18/10/2025 21:15

Do they know about your problems? Tell them you have pain that will usually get you a quick appointment, you don't know if it is real or not that is up to them to figure out.

OP has said they are not in pain but want to be reassured . The appointment was in mid November and has been booked for January now.

If someone is not in pain it’s really not a good idea to get an emergency appointment if you don’t need it .

OP would be better off asking for a cancellation appointment if they want to be reassured before January.

BadgernTheGarden · 18/10/2025 21:15

Do they know about your problems? Tell them you have pain that will usually get you a quick appointment, you don't know if it is real or not that is up to them to figure out.

ButWhysTheRumGone · 18/10/2025 21:11

@Ouchtplease could you tell me more about the condition that causes dental pain? I have an issue with pain in my teeth yet there’s nothing wrong with them and professionals seem baffled by it.
I hope you get an appointment soon.

RhubarbandCustardYummyYummy · 18/10/2025 20:06

Sometimes dentists will be fully booked but will be willing to work ‘overtime’ for new patient consults/facial aesthetics/invisalign consults if they are trying to upskill or develop that area of their skills so they aren’t keeping back secret appointments they are just willing to work extra for a certain type of work.

Lollygaggle · 18/10/2025 20:00

Oucht · 18/10/2025 19:56

Trust me I have tried but no one will do it.

I cant have implants done

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The problem with atypical facial pain and things like eg trigeminal neuralgia is that removing teeth does not remove the pain. Typically people have tooth after tooth removed to no effect before a diagnosis is reached.

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Oucht · 18/10/2025 19:56

gamerchick · 18/10/2025 18:07

Tbh, I think in your position I'd just get them all out and spend the money on teeth that won't cause pain OP.

If your re private,you have the luxury of shopping around. Just find somewhere else.

Trust me I have tried but no one will do it.

I cant have implants done

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Oucht · 18/10/2025 19:55

TeddySchnauzer · 18/10/2025 18:49

I have what you have + other conditions and I strongly advise asking your GP about Transdermal patches, they are life changing! They’re 10x stronger than morphine but slow release, they last multiple days at a time and are AMAZING! They just ‘remove’ the pain like bloody magic! You can still drive, you don’t feel like you’re ‘on’ anything either.

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I’ll have a look into those, thank you

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TeddySchnauzer · 18/10/2025 18:49

Oucht · 18/10/2025 17:26

The cosmetic consult was with my dentist. I could book online and choose him. He is the owner and top dentist there.

I have atypical facial pain that affects my teeth. It was thought trigeminal neuralgia but I do not get the stabbing pain. It’s all in my teeth hence 12 were removed at my previous dentist.

i also have central sensitisation so any pain I have is amplified.
Im on tramadol, gabapentin,amitriptyline and Lamotrigine and Mirabegron.

I have endometriosis, interstitial cystitis, large ovarian cysts, afp, cs, spinal stenosis and ridiculopathy.

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I have what you have + other conditions and I strongly advise asking your GP about Transdermal patches, they are life changing! They’re 10x stronger than morphine but slow release, they last multiple days at a time and are AMAZING! They just ‘remove’ the pain like bloody magic! You can still drive, you don’t feel like you’re ‘on’ anything either.

TeddySchnauzer · 18/10/2025 18:49

Oucht · 18/10/2025 17:26

The cosmetic consult was with my dentist. I could book online and choose him. He is the owner and top dentist there.

I have atypical facial pain that affects my teeth. It was thought trigeminal neuralgia but I do not get the stabbing pain. It’s all in my teeth hence 12 were removed at my previous dentist.

i also have central sensitisation so any pain I have is amplified.
Im on tramadol, gabapentin,amitriptyline and Lamotrigine and Mirabegron.

I have endometriosis, interstitial cystitis, large ovarian cysts, afp, cs, spinal stenosis and ridiculopathy.

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I have what you have + other conditions and I strongly advise asking your GP about Transdermal patches, they are life changing! They’re 10x stronger than morphine but slow release, they last multiple days at a time and are AMAZING! They just ‘remove’ the pain like bloody magic! You can still drive, you don’t feel like you’re ‘on’ anything either.

recreatingthephoto · 18/10/2025 18:49

Just call them up and explain to the receptionist your anxiety and issues that you help and ask to move your appointment forward. I think they would be understanding. If they say they don’t have space to bring forward, request to be placed on a cancellation list. I would continue to call them each week and hopefully they will be able to help you. If you have genuine pain, you can request an emergency appointment.

RhubarbandCustardYummyYummy · 18/10/2025 18:21

If you’re private just move somewhere else with better availability

gamerchick · 18/10/2025 18:07

Tbh, I think in your position I'd just get them all out and spend the money on teeth that won't cause pain OP.

If your re private,you have the luxury of shopping around. Just find somewhere else.

CryMyEyesViolet · 18/10/2025 18:02

Honestly, just find another dentist.

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 18/10/2025 17:56

Oucht · 18/10/2025 17:30

When you have a lot of chronic conditions and you’re in pain, I’m sure you can understand the upset and slight annoyance at the delay and the fact there are other slots for other things with the same person that are not yet filled.

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But those slots are "booked out" for other clients...

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Oucht · 18/10/2025 17:30

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 18/10/2025 17:17

It wasn't "taken away" - for whatever reason, and it could be legit like the dentist needs surgery themselves or the practise will be closed for essential maintenance, they have to cancel your appointment and the next available time for your particular position is January

When you have a lot of chronic conditions and you’re in pain, I’m sure you can understand the upset and slight annoyance at the delay and the fact there are other slots for other things with the same person that are not yet filled.

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Oucht · 18/10/2025 17:26

Balloonhearts · 18/10/2025 17:19

A smile consultation is probably with an orthodontist. Not necessarily with the dentist.

Is it trigeminal neuralgia? I suffer with it too and there are some tells for me. If its the TN, it's like a switch. It stops as suddenly as it starts and doesn't ease off slowly. If it's worse lying down, it's almost always dental. If unsure, take a tramadol. If it stops, it's probably dental.

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The cosmetic consult was with my dentist. I could book online and choose him. He is the owner and top dentist there.

I have atypical facial pain that affects my teeth. It was thought trigeminal neuralgia but I do not get the stabbing pain. It’s all in my teeth hence 12 were removed at my previous dentist.

i also have central sensitisation so any pain I have is amplified.
Im on tramadol, gabapentin,amitriptyline and Lamotrigine and Mirabegron.

I have endometriosis, interstitial cystitis, large ovarian cysts, afp, cs, spinal stenosis and ridiculopathy.

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Balloonhearts · 18/10/2025 17:19

Oucht · 16/10/2025 17:27

I have a neurological condition where my teeth will hurt and feel sensitive to the point I have ended up in A&E, I also have a central nervous system condition that amplifies my pain.

Anyway. I had a check up booked at my dentist mid Nov. They emailed to tell m it had been cancelled for unforseen reasons. I called to rebook and was told I could not be seen until January, so I booked it.

Now because of my conditions, I cannot diferrentiate between real dental problems and "brain" pain. I need a dentist to make sure I have no real problems. I went on their website and if I was to book a "smile consultation" as a NEW patient, I could be seen by my dentist in Dec.

I'm tempted to email and ask if as an existing patient, can I not have one of those appts in Dec for my check up?
I might not be in pain (hugely) now, but to know my teeth are okay before Xmas would help me a lot.

A smile consultation is probably with an orthodontist. Not necessarily with the dentist.

Is it trigeminal neuralgia? I suffer with it too and there are some tells for me. If its the TN, it's like a switch. It stops as suddenly as it starts and doesn't ease off slowly. If it's worse lying down, it's almost always dental. If unsure, take a tramadol. If it stops, it's probably dental.

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 18/10/2025 17:17

It wasn't "taken away" - for whatever reason, and it could be legit like the dentist needs surgery themselves or the practise will be closed for essential maintenance, they have to cancel your appointment and the next available time for your particular position is January

Timeforabitofpeace · 18/10/2025 17:14

Everyone saying they will “pull people up”. Perhaps it makes them feel more powerful.

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Oucht · 18/10/2025 17:14

I didn’t use the correct terminology. Should I calmly discuss with them and ask why would be a better way of putting it.

Having been failed severely by medical professionals leaves me a bit angry when I actually need an appointment and mine is taken away.

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thisishowloween · 18/10/2025 16:34

You could just ring, ask and be polite? No need to "pull anyone up" about it.

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 18/10/2025 16:29

You can ask but don't "pull them up" for an obvious business decision - it's an attempt to attract new clients by using the attraction of a fairly soon appointment

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Oucht · 18/10/2025 16:23

RhubarbandCustardYummyYummy · 16/10/2025 21:07

The business needs to operate and they need money to do that.

I appreciate that but at the cost of current clients who also pay?

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