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Wish DS would shut up about his gfs ex career

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LyndieLoula · 16/10/2025 16:45

DS is 25, he’s intelligent and generally I get on really well. About a year ago he moved abroad, he seems happy with this choice and about 6 months ago he started dating a new girl. His ex wrecked him (cheated, lied and was generally very manipulative) so I was happy to see him happy. However every single time we talk he cannot help but mention that his GF used to model. Which is true she did used to model and walked in some shows at fashion weeks etc. She quit and finished uni got a degree in Literature and Philosophy and is now building a career.
I do not care that his GF used to model and DS always says it in a very smug way, it makes me wonder if he is with the girl because he likes her or if he just enjoys saying his partner is an ex model. It’s infuriating and it really makes me view him quite poorly! My younger DS said that sometimes if he shows his brother a picture of a girl he’s going on a date with he replies “yeah she’s alright, I feel like I’ve been spoiled dating an ex model” which is beyond sickening to me.
AIBU to be really infuriated and disappointed that this seems to be something he can’t help but mention?? I’ve told him we know she used to be a model and that’s great but we’d much rather hear about what she’s doing now but it seems to have fallen on deaf ears!

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ChikinLikin · 16/10/2025 19:02

Tell him he's turning into Alan Partridge.

coxesorangepippin · 16/10/2025 19:01

Yanbu, but he's young

LooseCanyon · 16/10/2025 18:56

So you brought up your son to be a smug twat? Sorry for you.

TheClanoftheDook · 16/10/2025 18:52

At 25 years old I’d simply tell him that he’s being a cringey twat.

sussexman · 16/10/2025 18:48

Moonlightfrog · 16/10/2025 18:18

Sounds like she’s a trophy girlfriend? He’s with her because she’s pretty, not because she’s intelligent and fun to be around…..because she makes him look good. It will end badly 😬

Exactly this! The degree and the career she is building are things to boast about, not an accident of genes.

MajorMerrick · 16/10/2025 18:47

I was a model, for a very short time, did some catwalk stuff. It really isn’t a big deal tbh, I’m not gorgeous, by any means, but had a lovely figure… which is now destroyed by babies and my love of crisps. Unless you’re a top model, you’re really just quite normal looking.

Vaguelyclassical · 16/10/2025 18:47

Cookieandcandy · 16/10/2025 16:56

He is proud of his beautiful girlfriend. That’s not a crime

But he doesn't seem to care that she is also his intelligent girlfriend and a university student!

SpryUmberZebra · 16/10/2025 18:41

Cookieandcandy · 16/10/2025 16:56

He is proud of his beautiful girlfriend. That’s not a crime

There’s a difference between being proud of his beautiful girlfriend and being a rude boastful twat about it.

CoffeeCantata · 16/10/2025 18:41

Owly11 · 16/10/2025 18:09

He is 25 it is nothing to do with you. You sound judgmental and over involved.

Rubbish!

a) it’s really, really annoying and embarrassing and

b) its worryingly misogynistic.

AnnaMagnani · 16/10/2025 18:38

Tigerbalmshark · 16/10/2025 17:02

DH and I would rip the piss out of DS if he was doing that! “Oh is she an ex model? You’ve never mentioned it before. DH, did you know she was an ex model? No, me either. DS2, did you know she was an ex model?”

This is exactly what my parents would do. I can hear my dad's voice now 'A model, really, I'll just shout it out of the window to the whole street, they might not have noticed the 42 times you mentioned it before. Everyone listen up! DS is dating an ex model!'

MaggiesShadow · 16/10/2025 18:22

He sounds like a bit of an insufferable twat, to be honest. Does he care about her beyond surface level at all?

You finding it "beyond sickening" seems an overreaction, though.

But I'd be pulling him up on disparaging other women, for sure.

Moonlightfrog · 16/10/2025 18:18

Sounds like she’s a trophy girlfriend? He’s with her because she’s pretty, not because she’s intelligent and fun to be around…..because she makes him look good. It will end badly 😬

soupyspoon · 16/10/2025 18:16

Thinking about it, I do mention quite a lot that my OH used to work for the tax office.

Im not sure why

It doesnt have much of a cachet.

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LyndieLoula · 16/10/2025 18:16

MonteStory · 16/10/2025 18:11

Exactly. So if he can’t even stop mentioning it to his own mum, how much of a twat is he with his friends?

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Exactly, apparently DS2 was made to watch the show she walked in for a French lingerie brand when the girl was only 18! DS2 said it made him very uncomfortable!

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oncemoreuntothebeachdearfriends · 16/10/2025 18:15

It sounds very peculiar to boast about her "modelling ", rather than her PhD !

Thingsthatgo · 16/10/2025 18:14

Ha ha. If DH used to be a model I would tell EVERYONE! 🤣

JLou08 · 16/10/2025 18:13

The way it's making you feel is pretty extreme, I'd say that's more of a problem than your DS. Why does it bother you so much? Most people would laugh it off. Are you insecure about your own looks?

dapsnotplimsolls · 16/10/2025 18:11

Insecurity after his last relationship, probably. Charge him 10 quid every time he says it.

MonteStory · 16/10/2025 18:11

Fabulously · 16/10/2025 18:10

Honestly I wouldn’t care much about this. Men say a lot worse when discussing women between each other, at least he isn’t giving intimate details

Exactly. So if he can’t even stop mentioning it to his own mum, how much of a twat is he with his friends?

Fabulously · 16/10/2025 18:10

Honestly I wouldn’t care much about this. Men say a lot worse when discussing women between each other, at least he isn’t giving intimate details

Owly11 · 16/10/2025 18:09

He is 25 it is nothing to do with you. You sound judgmental and over involved.

MonteStory · 16/10/2025 18:09

BoudiccaRuled · 16/10/2025 17:56

I'd be saying "I hope you don't drone on to your new friends about your gf having been a model - makes you sound a right twat".
He needs calling out on it.

This.
Youre his Mum, you are in a unique position to be brutally honest with him in a loving way.
”Darling please stop mentioning that she was a model. It makes it sound like that’s the only think you like about her and people will think you’re a dick.”

C8H10N4O2 · 16/10/2025 18:05

LyndieLoula · 16/10/2025 17:06

See that’s the concern, DS2 takes it as DS1 saying “yeah the girl you’re dating is cute but she’s nothing on my gf … the ex model” which I really don’t like as frankly who cares?!

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Encourage DS2 to roll his eyes and as per pp try the mock surprise “gosh you only told me 500 times”. Its twattish behaviour.

I’d also be annoyed by the superficiality and the sexism. I’d ask him "does she not have anything else about her” or “do you think she would be happy that you care about her looks and never mention anything else"? Its one thing to be appreciative if he likes her looks, its quite another to ignore everything else the girl has to offer.

soupyspoon · 16/10/2025 18:01

Chocolateisameal · 16/10/2025 16:54

Maybe you need to ask him. He’s either showing off or he’s worried. Either way, it’s probably low self esteem at the root of it, possibly due to his reaction to his last relationship.

Can you try a gentle “I’m worried about you” type conversation? If he doesn’t respond and keeps up with the nonsense, tell him that she’s likely going to dump him for being a shallow misogynist.

Bloody hell, how patronising!!

Im worried about you!!!

She isnt worried about him, she finds it annoying. Well people are annoying sometimes, its how we all are

The problem is, particularly on this site, theres a group think about how people should or shouldnt say things or think things. This is how he is, thats all there is to it. Not sure why OP finds that disappointing. Or sickening. What a thing to say about your own son.

So he's a bit of a bore. Well so what. We all are in many ways.

Imisscoffee2021 · 16/10/2025 17:59

Being a model is her flex not his, its a shame he's still sort of dining out on that half a year later, but probably because it ended badly. Just hopefully it doesn't become a big part of his personality or threaten his current girlfriend. Have you ever just said why are you still talking about your ex to him?