Wish DS would shut up about his gfs ex career

yes, but your son is not talking about that aspect, the hard work, he's talking about her as a trophy girlfriend. Does he mention the degree from the Paris university? And yes, somewhere it is a question of luck and genetics, to be tall enough, to be slim enough, to be photogenic, to have the face that fits the fashion. And he keeps going on and on about it.

Positively, it could be his way of saying he’s proud of her. I guess he could be excited about her beauty? I don’t know, men are a mystery to me. Ask your husband?!

However, someone telling me the same thing 100 times would do my head in. You could tell him to change the record. He’s being a bit irritating but there are worse things ….

He's being daft, but he's probably feeling defensive about his choice of partner and trying to sell it to you in the only way he knows how.

I speak as someone who inflicted the most vile and ludicrous choices of "DP" on my poor long-suffering parents, until finally marrying (DH#2) a lovely man. Even now, I try to sell him to them even though there is no need.

OP if he ever says this in her presence you should roll your eyes and turn to her and ask if it does her head in that whilst having a great brain and working towards her masters, all DS keeps banging on and on about is that he was a model 5 years ago.

My response to "She used to be a model" would be along the lines of "Oh, really? And what does she do now?" Because that's what's interesting about her.

If he was proud of her surely he would be talking about her NOW. Not what she did 5 years ago. All. The. Time.

this is creepy

It sounds like he has put her on a pedestal I wonder if he does this with his girlfriends. Hence his exs bad behaviour. Or maybe he can’t believe his luck. It’s a shame he seems to see her looks more than her brains I think I would tell him that.

Have you ever met a 25 year old bloke?

I imagine most that age would brag about bagging an ex model. Irritating, but hardly the crime of the century.

He sounds very much like the flatmate of a friend of my then boyfriend.

This was back in the late 60s early 70s when female cabin crew, 'air hostesses' as they were officially known (also labelled 'trolley dollies') were required to look a certain way; in fact it was all about how they looked, and the job was considered rather glamorous.

It was known among this flatmate's friends that he only ever dated air hostesses. Everyone knew because he never shut up about it.

He came across as a complete and utter knob tbh. Every week he would be waxing lyrical about yet another new air hostess he'd met and he'd go on and on at great length about what she looked like.

He never spoke about these women's personalities, it was literally just about how amazing they looked, how they moved etc.

He wasn't a stupid man, having qualified as a doctor, but he was horribly arrogant, shallow and misogynistic.

Pps have suggested you make a joke of it every time your DS brings up that his gf was a model but joking about his obsession with air hostesses didn't stop the flatmate going on about each new gf's looks so it very likely won't work for your DS.

Thanks for the reminder re Papa Starmer the Toolmaker ... loved that.

OP there are dozens of creative ways you should be ripping the piss here. His little brother sounds more mature than him!

but in the same vein yes I would be annoyed if one of my kids said to their siblings whose partner say worked as a cleaner in a school (nothing wrong with that this is just the example), oh she works in a school as a cleaner, well my gf used to be a teacher etc

No, because being a paralegal or a teacher involves hard work and self-discipline.
Modelling is a matter of being the right look for the current era and is pretty much down to luck.

It is if you are using as a reason to put down your brothers partners, it’s quite grim actually!

Pretty sure you wouldn’t use your dads time in the west end to demonise others ‘achievements’?

It IS his current girlfriend.

He’s obviously incredibly insecure. So I’d just pity him.

Don’t give him any reaction when he mentions the modelling. Hopefully he’ll get bored of it.

Or hopefully the girl will get sick of him and dump him (sorry!)

Ugh! He's a bellend.

This is how it would go down in our house too.

@LyndieLoula Your DS is young and is therefore a bit silly. As he grows older and experiences some abuse in the workplace, along with some inevitable negative life events, he will calm down and then he genuinely won't even think about his ex gf.

Very annoying to go on and on, but you can’t say anything

This is exactly what would happen in our house if our DS tried this. He would soon stop.

Best comeback !

Ugh.

You obviously need to take the piss at every single opportunity...

...but also tell him straight that it is the least interesting thing about her, it's insulting to her to keep zoning in on the one quality about herself that she has no control over, when she's a hard-working (clever, funny, warm, caring, insert whatever) woman that he is reducing to an object and using to make himself feel better and his brother feel worse.

exactly!

Or even...ask the ex-model girlfriend those questions.