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Wish DS would shut up about his gfs ex career

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LyndieLoula · 16/10/2025 16:45

DS is 25, he’s intelligent and generally I get on really well. About a year ago he moved abroad, he seems happy with this choice and about 6 months ago he started dating a new girl. His ex wrecked him (cheated, lied and was generally very manipulative) so I was happy to see him happy. However every single time we talk he cannot help but mention that his GF used to model. Which is true she did used to model and walked in some shows at fashion weeks etc. She quit and finished uni got a degree in Literature and Philosophy and is now building a career.
I do not care that his GF used to model and DS always says it in a very smug way, it makes me wonder if he is with the girl because he likes her or if he just enjoys saying his partner is an ex model. It’s infuriating and it really makes me view him quite poorly! My younger DS said that sometimes if he shows his brother a picture of a girl he’s going on a date with he replies “yeah she’s alright, I feel like I’ve been spoiled dating an ex model” which is beyond sickening to me.
AIBU to be really infuriated and disappointed that this seems to be something he can’t help but mention?? I’ve told him we know she used to be a model and that’s great but we’d much rather hear about what she’s doing now but it seems to have fallen on deaf ears!

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RylanClarksTeeth · 17/10/2025 18:12

Dontbeme · 17/10/2025 18:02

If this is how he behaves around women, talking about them like they are trophies to make himself look big in front of other men, you can understand the ex cheating.

Well no. I could understand the ex dumping him though.

Pinkdhalia · 17/10/2025 18:12

I would answer
Yes son but if she had been any good she would be as famous as Kate Moss or Niomi Campbell both were called super models l and then mega models and been partnered with famous people like a musician, or football players like Abbey Clancy - Peter Crouch or Olivia Culpo to NFL player Christian Mcaffrey not hanging around with you SON!

Rumpledandcrumpled · 17/10/2025 18:11

He’s really immature and shallow, and obviously overly impressed , he thinks it reflects well on him, so sadly he’s going to get very hurt again when she bins him off, as she’s going to get fed up and she will know he does this, she won’t like it at all.

sadly for him he’s probably going to make this his identity for the rest of his life. How he once dated a model.

you can speak to him and make him stop mentioning it. But you can’t stop him thinking it.

Dontbeme · 17/10/2025 18:02

If this is how he behaves around women, talking about them like they are trophies to make himself look big in front of other men, you can understand the ex cheating.

exaltedwombat · 17/10/2025 17:46

Oh, leave the poor boy alone! He feels he's punching a bit above his weight and he's chuffed about it!

Alternatively: 'What did she model? Toby jugs?'

Smoggy1 · 17/10/2025 16:15

I'd be curious about how she views her former career. Was it just a practical decision to go get a degree so her career wasn't restricted by her physical appearance? Or was it a change because she saw it as not worthwhile and wanted a career that used her intellect? If it's the latter, I assume she'd be annoyed at him bragging about what she used to do, rather than her current achievements.

Popopopopol · 17/10/2025 10:23

Just say “oh, was she a model! You never mentioned it!”, with lashings of sarcasm.

PixieandMe · 17/10/2025 10:04

oviraptor21 · 16/10/2025 20:16

No, because being a paralegal or a teacher involves hard work and self-discipline.
Modelling is a matter of being the right look for the current era and is pretty much down to luck.

Complete myth! Modelling actually also takes a lot of hard work and discipline.

This is a very ignorant comment, actually.

JMSA · 17/10/2025 03:36

“Son, you’re embarrassing yourself by wanging on about this. It’s cringey and you need to stop.”

SheSaidHummingbird · 17/10/2025 01:29

@LyndieLoula Every time he mentions it, ask him to name ten things he loves about her that aren't based on physical appearance. Ask him every single time, no matter where you are or who you're with.

Lurkingandlearning · 16/10/2025 21:28

It sounds like his Gf is an intelligent woman. If she hears how he speaks about her he might find himself having to say his ex girlfriend was an ex model.

RylanClarksTeeth · 16/10/2025 21:28

Why is he objectifying his girlfriend?

CuddlesKovinsky · 16/10/2025 21:27

Or the 'Dinner Party' episode of 'The IT Crowd' where Roy meets a model - but she's bandaged after a car accident, and he's obsessed with trying to find out if she's still beautiful underneath or not...

CaffeineAndChords · 16/10/2025 21:25

I’d say “bit of luck she wasn’t a model for specsavers” that’d shock him 😆

Or I’d keep asking him ‘what did your partner used to do again?’ I’d do it to the point it wound him up then tell him how ridiculous he sounds.

CuddlesKovinsky · 16/10/2025 21:22

Play the 'Flight of the Conchords' song 'Part-time Model' to him... 😄

"You're so beautiful
You could be a part time model
But you'd probably still have to keep your normal job
A part time model
Spending part of your time modelling
And part of your time next to me
And the rest of your time doing your normal job..."

Comeonbabylightmyfire · 16/10/2025 21:14

Can’t you just be blunt and tell him that you are tired of it? Tell him it’s disrespectful and that he will lose her if he continues to focus on her past and her looks v her brain.

CoffeeCantata · 16/10/2025 21:12

I think the crux of the matter is that…it wasn’t really a ‘career’ as such and anyway, it’s over!

So all he’s really proud of is that he’s pulled a hot chick (or whatever ghastly terminology might fit his mindset). It’s basically “I bet you wish your girlfriend was hot like mine” stuff. Tiresome.

Bobbittie · 16/10/2025 21:11

Ex-model here turned Medical Physicist.
I had an Ex BF who used to do this. There was never any mention of my career - it was highly annoying! I also felt like I had to live up to this elevated version of myself that he kept touting, or I feared that people would be disappointed when they met me and realized I was just a rather slight plain Jane.
I wonder how the GF feels about this.

NorthernLass2025 · 16/10/2025 21:11

Imagine how current girlfriend feels poor girl because he won't be quiet on it I guarantee

labamba18 · 16/10/2025 21:09

Tigerbalmshark · 16/10/2025 17:02

DH and I would rip the piss out of DS if he was doing that! “Oh is she an ex model? You’ve never mentioned it before. DH, did you know she was an ex model? No, me either. DS2, did you know she was an ex model?”

This is also the strategy I would take!

Wallywobbles · 16/10/2025 21:08

Just tell him he sounds like a total tit. Like name dropping. No one gives a single fuck.

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 16/10/2025 21:01

I don't think it's as bad as that.
He's just showing off, he's only young still. When I was younger I dated a slightly older chap and I probably would have gone on about that, had I had the chance. I felt very grown up!

And as an adult in my 20s a lot of my friends would have been crowing about snogging one of the 1st XV men on a Saturday night!

I'd echo what pp suggested, and just take the piss out of him for being insufferable!

Popopopopol · 16/10/2025 20:57

God, he sounds insufferable. Smug is never a good look.

Teaforthetotal · 16/10/2025 20:55

It's a bit Alan Partridge.

She sounds like an interesting person from what you've said, it's strange that he's focusing on this, almost sounds like a self esteem issue.

LindtCurves · 16/10/2025 20:55

LyndieLoula · 16/10/2025 18:16

Exactly, apparently DS2 was made to watch the show she walked in for a French lingerie brand when the girl was only 18! DS2 said it made him very uncomfortable!

I used to model as a teen many years ago.

Frankly, if I was to become aware of that incident, I'd dump the guy. I wonder if she's aware how he talks about her behind her back. There's guys that look to date models because they're models, amongst the ones that have half a brain as this girl seems to, they are considered quite sad and not relationship material.