Wish DS would shut up about his gfs ex career

My nanna used to model new bras in her local department store in the 60s. When she was in her 60s. It can mean so many things!

Stock up on a range of responses.

'Really?? No way! Wow! OMG!! Why've you never mentioned that before??' (every single time).

'What of - an Airfix Lancaster bomber?'

'Hey everyone, guys, amazing news - did you know - his gf tried to be a model!'

'Such a shame she couldn't stick with it .. '

'Ah, so many try and fail, don't they ... it's a shame.'

And if that fails:

' 'Model' - it's a funny word, isn't it? Always makes me think of those cards in seedy Soho windows... '

Show him Instagram and tell him every Tomia, Dicklia and Harriet is a model nowadays. Even Pippa from the corner shop is a model/influencer. Unless she had a contract with Chanel, Fendi or Este Laudier then can he please stop being a raging bore.

Or use this quote with a patronising smirk....Not all models are beautiful and not all beautiful women are models.

How did he 'make' your other son watch this? Sounds like your lad is happy, yeah boring and braggy, but either she will call him up on it or someone will, you could do it in a kind way like others have suggested ie 'What was it your gf used to do for a living again?' and make it a wee joke.
But to say its sickening, thats more weird to me than your lads bragging rights on dating a beautiful girl.
Yeah ok we're all trying these days to be a lot more pc but come on, hes in love, hes happy, hes with a beautiful woman who was once paid for being beautiful, and its stroked his ego a bit...theres folk that do a lot bloody worse than boast about their partner!
He'll grow up...but until then, just to let you know, I find it worse behaviour to be all pally pally with DS2 and make snide remarks about your other son forcing his brother to watch things with his gf in!
If I was DS1 that would really hurt.

Agreed.

Or change the subject to she studied philosophy that’s so interesting! What’s she like when you argue etc

I would tell him he is giving the world the impression he suffers from low self-esteem by apparently feeling the need to validate himself by telling anyone who will listen that his girlfriend used to be a model. It’s very, “look at me, I am an alpha male who can attract a beautiful woman.” Either her looks speak for themselves, in which case no need to mention she used to be a model, or they don’t, but to keep defining her by her past career is a bit pathetic and clearly done because he thinks it reflects well on himself, rather than on her.

Oh my. My cringe meter is off the scale. My twat exH used to do this 🤦🏼‍♀️ I walked in two fashion shows, as a favour to a friend. Two shows does not a model make! And more importantly, I believed I was a bit more than a pretty ish face. I think it’s an ego trip … a really weird one. But an ego trip.

It sounds like he's just very proud of himself for attracting this girl and can't believe his luck. He is very young and he'll get over it.

Sure he can be proud she's beautiful but going on all the time just smacks of him just being all about looks

I think it's unfair the way he reacts to pictures his brother shows him of girls he is dating,

Why is he comparing his brother, partners to his girlfriend's looks?

See, I would mention that as that's not nice, for his brother and any potential new girlfriend to be compared.

Your son's shallow attitude and constant bragging is a bit at odds with the image of him as a poor petal damaged by a previous relationship.

I'm guessing the description of his ex as a lying, cheating manipulator was all his version of events? I'd be second-guessing it, based on this. If he was this ego-driven and obsessed with looks in that relationship, there was probably more to the story.

'Oh, you used to go out with a model, did you? You should have said earlier...'

I think you should say it to him because nobody else will. I expect she wouldn’t like him taking like that if she knew

If his ex girlfriend as you say wrecked his self-esteem what id be worrying about is that he’s using this idealised version of the new girlfriend to build himself up, but a version of her that’s mostly based on getting some sort of reflected glory from her looks. It’s not a very mature way to approach feeling good about yourself and that’s what I’d be discussing with him.

What are men like this going to do if their wives or partners grow old? You're NBU, he's just focused on the superficial. Does he ever praise her in any other way ffs.

Yeah, it sounds pretty annoying. I think I'd just go with a sarcastic 'yeah, you mentioned it everytime'. Although I would also probably say 'you know your girlfriend might not very impressed when she finds out that's all you tell other people about her.' Maybe that will worry him into putting a lid on it!

Yeah I get it…that would probably get on my nerves too (cringe)…

no advice, think of puppies and smile?

Point out to him that the likelihood is that his girlfriend is much more proud of her degree and her current career, and that sooner or later she is going to realise he doesn't value that at all and he only values her for her looks - and then she'll dump him.

i think I’d go with the ‘it’s lovely you are proud of how beautiful GF is DS, but constantly bringing it up is making you sound a bit like a twat so it might be best to tone it down a bit love.’

He sounds like a smarmy shallow twat.

Bathing in the reflected glory of his gf being an ex model. Doesn't she get the absolute ick from him?

Omg I was at a dinner party where some lad (21) was doing this. One woman across the table arched her eyebrow at him and said very sardonically, “but can she read?“. It was very funny. There was silence. He stuttered. Nothing was said again.

I haven't read all the replies, so apologies if this is somewhat repetitive. The GF/model comments sound as if they come from someone who is a little insecure in himself, rather than bragging because he thinks he's king of the world, if you see what I mean. Hopefully he appreciates all of his GFs other attributes (her mind, her accomplishments, her personality!), but maybe it's just that he can't quite believe he's "good enough" for her, which of course he absolutely is.

The young woman has taken an intellectual degree and is being successful beyond her looks. I doubt she'll put up with him trying to boast about her teenage self much longer, he needs to connect with her current and future life or she'll catwalk away.

I can understand it being annoying OP but what I find weird is your extreme over reaction and hyperbole.

'Beyond sickening'

'really infuriated and disappointed'

Chill out.

He's probably chuffed with himself and will never ever stop mentioning it. Even when they split up he'll probably bang on about it to his new gf!

I bet she doesn't go on about her ex career. I know people who did modelling and they are just normal folks who happen to be tall and have a specific look.

Just roll your eyes and say, 'oh, really, how scintillating. You never mentioned that before. In fact you should get some t shirts printed up just so everyone is always aware of this amazing fact.'