Wish DS would shut up about his gfs ex career

The son is the idiot here. Why ask him things that make the poor girl look bad?

You could say, "Oh! Talking about ex-models. John next door got a great deal on a computer set up/TV or whatever because it was an ex-model that they took off the display for him!"

"What did wotshername used to model? Was she on Only Fans, only my friend at work might know her?!"

"I used to have 2 lovely sons, but one is so hung up on his girlfriend being an ex-model that he just has to mention it at every opportunity, so he may soon be an ex-son!"

"Hello. Who is this?" He answers with his name. "Oh! You're the one dating the ex-model, right? I wonder what she used to model & why she hasn't gone back to it since Uni? Was it toothpaste?"

Just tell him if he has nothing else he could say about her, then just don't mention her. That you're sure she has many other great things about her rather than being just another ex-model!!

I think MN wins first prize for the most sanctimonious posts on this thread ever. Truly unbelievable 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾.

Yes I think as a Mum, there's absolutely nothing wrong with reminding our dear Children how beauty's only skin deep & inner beauty's much more important 🙏

Yes it might seem shallow how your darling Son consistently mentions, his gf used to model - You stated yourself how his ex gf completely wrecked him so immensely understandably, his confidence is destroyed & isn't it completely comprehendable then, that your dear Son, just can't believe his luck? Wouldn't we all be in disbelief if we too, had been cheated on & totally wrecked, by our exes?
Every time he mentions he's with someone so beautiful they used to model, is like he's pinching himself, naturally
Surely as his loving Mum you can understand this?
Yes the comments to his siblings are unnecessary but obviously just come from insecurity & I'm sure a quiet word with him, from you, his Mum would put a stop to your dear Son indirectly making put down comments towards your other dear Son? 💚

Everybody ages. Former models often tend to age better than average (amazing bone structure, skin, whatever).

But former models (or their partners) who try to hold on to the glory of a youth defined only by beauty tend to end up either messing up their body interfering with the aging process - or boring the pants off everyone around them with never having anything new to talk about.

It sounds like she's taken admirable steps to ensure she's not defined in a box by what she briefly did in her youth.... I hope he catches up quickly on that or he will be the one left on the shelf!

as his mum you can speak to him straight - at least i think that's what mum's should do- (well kind of straight!! I try my best)
but yes tell him
i think if I don't put son right he will go out in the world and look big twat for something I should have alerted him to at home
so yes tell him before others laugh at him

Spoiled? He sounds incredibly shallow and the humble brain is embarrassing

Agreed. Putting down his brother is particularly twattish.

Looking back on my earlier suggestions, I do agree, they are geared to disparaging her to discourage him.

Instead, I also agree that turning the conversation to her personality, hobbies, interests, passions, skills, achievements etc would be a better way to go.

Sound advice.

Interesting comment on models especially since there are many types of modeling.

Yeah I’d be mortified. My nephew is engaged to an actual current model and is very low key about it. But he is mature and kind and has nothing to prove. Occasionally jokes that he is super proud that she accepted a Short King because she is 6’1 and an inch taller than him.

He’s boasting about her old job beciase he knows for a lot of men dating a model is a status symbol.

he is coming across as a shallow twat.

it doesn’t bode well for his character.

made me think of that awful movie shallow hall.

OP every time he mentioned he used to be model ask him something about her current studies, if she had a childhood pet, if she enjoys reading, what her favorite movie is.

she is not one dimensional - test if he knows that

With notable exceptions, many models look a bit unusual.

Something about slightly weird dimensions that transform in front of a camera to look edgy and amazing.

I would probably start joining in with him so he knows what he's saying is hackneyed and boring. A la "...how an elephant got into my pyjamas I shall never know!' from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang.

the joke he made with his younger brother is quite funny, I think you’re blowing this out of proportion

I agree. He’s young and a bit silly.

He will grow and change. It’s weird that everyone is so repulsed by this.

It would be weird if they kept saying "GF used to be a teacher" with no comment/conversation about what she's doing now as if being a teacher was the highlight of her career and the only thing worth mentioning about her.

Why would she insult his girlfriend?

Do you actually believe these things?

Absolutely not. Modelling involves immense discipline and hard work.

I used to model as a middle aged slightly overweight woman. I’m always telling dh how lucky he is to be married to an international model but he just doesn’t seem very impressed. No idea why. 😂😂😂😂😂

@LyndieLoula Goodness! He made him watch it?! How awkward! Your DS2 sounds much more considerate and lovely!

Yeah, DS1 sadly sounds a bit like a knob, however, he may need some therapy from the last relationship too.

This!

Exactly. These responses are so over the top. I find the degree of the OP’s revulsion particularly baffling.

This is a young man in a new relationship who is proud of his girlfriend’s looks. Big deal. Does it mean that her appearance is all he sees in her? Probably not. He will soon get over it.

He’s had all sorts of labels thrown at him unfairly. MN is truly a parallel world sometimes.

But you're putting the girlfriend down with some of those. It's him that's the dickhead.