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To find salary offered an insult?

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Willowtree5 · 16/10/2025 14:20

As part of a restructure, I have been asked if I would take on three direct reports (I currently don’t manage anyone, but have in the past - big pull of current role was no line management responsibility).

I said I’d consider it - whilst I know I can manage people, it does add to my workload and the ‘mental load’ of dealing with all the crap around sickness/absence, 1:1’s etc.

My manager said she’d establish what additional uplift to my salary would be possible and let me know.

They’ve come back with an offer of £125,000 (current salary pre bonuses £105,000) which I find frankly insulting given the workload this would add.

AIBU to tell them to stuff it?

OP posts:
PigletJohn · 16/10/2025 15:45

Restructure, you say?

If you won't do it, perhaps someone else will.

Are you in a take it or leave it position yet?

DiscoBob · 16/10/2025 15:44

I can't stand managing people but even then it sounds like a reasonable uplift.

When I managed people I only earned a few quid more than them per hour. Though obviously this was pretty low level work compared to your job.

Fallenangel2014 · 16/10/2025 15:44

I’m OUTRAGED on your behalf OP

Tinnybinnylinny · 16/10/2025 15:40

Willowtree5 · 16/10/2025 15:19

More fool you for not asserting yourself and negotiating for a fair deal.

It also depends on the type of work. If it’s, for example three lawyers/accountants, where you are personally responsible for their work then no, 20 k more at that tax level is not worth it.

If, as you have mentioned, you can easy walk into
another volunteer for redundancy, bank the cash and have a good buffer.

18KTguy · 16/10/2025 15:39

sosorryimnotsorry · 16/10/2025 14:40

Nobody needs over £100k sorry YABU. I would expect anyone over £100k to be having huge responsibilities including managing people. You are just being greedy

Please do not pass your mindset to your kids, ever.

InterIgnis · 16/10/2025 15:36

luckylavender · 16/10/2025 15:25

This thread is really tone deaf

Only if you think that those on less than OP have the sole authority to determine the ‘tone’ of her own thread.

If really doesn’t matter what other people make in other jobs managing more people. What matters is what’s normal in her industry. If others in the same position are making more than £125k then it would be an insulting offer.

£125k takes her over the 60% cliff edge, and as such may not be worth it when considering what she would actually be getting in return for the increased level of responsibility she would be taking on.

Pistachiocake · 16/10/2025 15:32

These days, there's so many people out of work that salaries/uplift etc seem to be much lower than in the past, in real terms.
Work out how much it would mean for you in reality (pensions, holidays, extra childcare costs if relevant etc) and then make your decision. But without wanting to sound negative, and I don't know your field, it's not easy to get the pay and conditions a lot of us used to expect,

LooseCanyon · 16/10/2025 15:32

Also, OP, they are coming in with their absolutely lowest ball offer. I reckon they would double it, to save them the problem of managing those people.

Didimum · 16/10/2025 15:31

Seems like an 'issue' no one can help you with then, OP. You think it's unfair – decline it then. Not sure what you want.

Talipesmum · 16/10/2025 15:29

An approx 20% pay rise for taking on three people is completely reasonable.

Barney16 · 16/10/2025 15:29

I manage about thirty people and it's such a chore that I'm actively looking for a job with no line management responsibility. Having said that it's a 20% uplift so it's really whether you think the extra responsibility is worth it for the effort it will take.

limescale · 16/10/2025 15:28

For balance, some jobs barely pay the increase you are getting for the whole year.
ignore me, I'm worn out looking for new jobs that want the moon yet pay minimum wage

Neverflyingagain · 16/10/2025 15:26

I'm amazed that you've managed to be on over £100k with no line management responsibilities, you've done well to avoid! London does make a difference though...
The take-home uplift in salary will probably be minimal and financially probably not worth the extra hassle. If you're looking to line manage in your future career development plans then yes it's probably a step towards that but otherwise, no.
I'd be saying 'no thanks, it's a compliment of you to ask me to consider, but I'm not your woman for it. Have you thought about X or y? They'd be great!'

PrissyGalore · 16/10/2025 15:26

It’s not insulting but if you faint want to do it, decline. I don’t understand the outrage.

luckylavender · 16/10/2025 15:25

This thread is really tone deaf

Purplecatshopaholic · 16/10/2025 15:23

So quite a sizeable increase for three staff. I would consider that worth it - as I wouldn’t get anything like that sort of increase in the public sector (where I work). However if it’s not worth it to you, I’d respectfully decline..

LooseCanyon · 16/10/2025 15:22

People are a nightmare OP. After tax, that £20,000 is getting you, what - £1,000 per month? £300 per person, for all that hassle?

Don't do it! Or get them to up their offer. Appreciably.

5gymbabe · 16/10/2025 15:22

Willowtree5 · 16/10/2025 14:20

As part of a restructure, I have been asked if I would take on three direct reports (I currently don’t manage anyone, but have in the past - big pull of current role was no line management responsibility).

I said I’d consider it - whilst I know I can manage people, it does add to my workload and the ‘mental load’ of dealing with all the crap around sickness/absence, 1:1’s etc.

My manager said she’d establish what additional uplift to my salary would be possible and let me know.

They’ve come back with an offer of £125,000 (current salary pre bonuses £105,000) which I find frankly insulting given the workload this would add.

AIBU to tell them to stuff it?

Extra 20k a year to manage 3 folk......bless

Hufflemuff · 16/10/2025 15:22

Depends on who the 3 people are and how much managing is required. Overall I think it sounds like a fair salary increase on an already massive salary.

RawBloomers · 16/10/2025 15:20

Whether the amount is an insult would depend entirely on the norms in your industry and company. In general, a ~20% uptick in pay for taking on 3 reports would be okay, in some places it would be a lot. But if people at your company normally get a lot more, then it isn’t.

It doesn’t really matter if other people think it’s a good deal, OP. The relevant question is, is the extra work worth it to you? You seem quite clear that you think not.

So it’s not at all unreasonable to turn it down. It’s probably unreasonable to literally tell them to stuff it.

Willowtree5 · 16/10/2025 15:19

Neeroy · 16/10/2025 15:19

I took on the line management of 2 additional members of staff on top of my 1 already and got zero pay rise! I do find it hard to feel sorry for someone grumbling about a measly £20k pay rise.

More fool you for not asserting yourself and negotiating for a fair deal.

OP posts:
Neeroy · 16/10/2025 15:19

I took on the line management of 2 additional members of staff on top of my 1 already and got zero pay rise! I do find it hard to feel sorry for someone grumbling about a measly £20k pay rise.

SushiForMe · 16/10/2025 15:17

20k a year is 12k after tax given you are in the highest bd, so 1k a month extra (or on nice holiday a year). Personally I would take it, but I quite enjoy the management part of my role, but I guess it depends how much you value you put on the extra tasks.

Megifer · 16/10/2025 15:15

A competent manager shouldn't find 3 direct reports too taxing, so I'd say thats a decent increase

RavenPie · 16/10/2025 15:14

I line manage 23 people on £54k. In London iirc, it’s about £62k for the same role. I have a high level of clinical competency and level 7 qualifications. It’s a job where people can and occasionally do, die. It’s a lot of responsibility.
If you don’t want to line manage people then how much money is really enough? I don’t think it’s an insult though. They aren’t asking for anything special.