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To find salary offered an insult?

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Willowtree5 · 16/10/2025 14:20

As part of a restructure, I have been asked if I would take on three direct reports (I currently don’t manage anyone, but have in the past - big pull of current role was no line management responsibility).

I said I’d consider it - whilst I know I can manage people, it does add to my workload and the ‘mental load’ of dealing with all the crap around sickness/absence, 1:1’s etc.

My manager said she’d establish what additional uplift to my salary would be possible and let me know.

They’ve come back with an offer of £125,000 (current salary pre bonuses £105,000) which I find frankly insulting given the workload this would add.

AIBU to tell them to stuff it?

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Gruffporcupine · 16/10/2025 19:08

Make a counter offer. I would ask for double what they offered, or a 4 day week or something if they refused to match my counter. Otherwise gtf

LooseCanyon · 16/10/2025 18:58

LemograssLollipop · 16/10/2025 18:58

What industry are you in?

How much time and input is required by you to manage the additional people?

She said it already. Finance.

LemograssLollipop · 16/10/2025 18:58

What industry are you in?

How much time and input is required by you to manage the additional people?

HonoraBridge · 16/10/2025 18:54

After tax, that is not much of an increase. However, in the current (terrible) economic climate it is a big cost for your employer. Look at the bigger picture. But if you don’t want to manage people - say “no”.

Hayley1256 · 16/10/2025 18:45

Tbh I'd probs try and negotiate to £140k due to the tax implications

LooseCanyon · 16/10/2025 18:41

HollyIvy89 · 16/10/2025 18:39

How lucky you are to still have a job after a restructure! And to be offered more money to take on that responsibility. I think you’re being greedy.

I doubt it's luck.

So, @HollyIvy89 , if I decide I want to restructure your job so you now have a completely different aspect added to it, are you being "greedy" to require proper payment for that?

Londonrach1 · 16/10/2025 18:40

Without knowing the job is impossible to say but if you want to take the job do if not don't and let someone else take it...

HollyIvy89 · 16/10/2025 18:39

How lucky you are to still have a job after a restructure! And to be offered more money to take on that responsibility. I think you’re being greedy.

LooseCanyon · 16/10/2025 18:38

steff13 · 16/10/2025 18:34

I don't think it's insulting, per se; it's just about a 19% increase, and it's only three people. The difficulty involved in managing people very much depends on the people you're managing and how hands-on you're actually required to be. If you're comfortable with the role, I'd counter with 140K and see if they'll meet you in the middle.

It's not "only three people", though. It's a completely new job addition.

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 16/10/2025 18:34

Seems like a reasonable enough uplift. I’d be wary however of the tax and other implications. You’ll lose your childcare allowance unless you put it all into your pension.

steff13 · 16/10/2025 18:34

I don't think it's insulting, per se; it's just about a 19% increase, and it's only three people. The difficulty involved in managing people very much depends on the people you're managing and how hands-on you're actually required to be. If you're comfortable with the role, I'd counter with 140K and see if they'll meet you in the middle.

Irenesortof · 16/10/2025 18:32

Obviously you don't have to accept that offer if it doesn't feel worth your while, but I have to say it looks fine to me.

MellowPinkDeer · 16/10/2025 18:29

I got three new direct reports with no notice last week. That’s 7 in total. I got zero. I think you’re being a bit ridiculous tbh!

Nobumsonthetable · 16/10/2025 18:28

sosorryimnotsorry · 16/10/2025 14:40

Nobody needs over £100k sorry YABU. I would expect anyone over £100k to be having huge responsibilities including managing people. You are just being greedy

Tell me you don’t live in London without telling me you don’t live in London 😂

CountryChristmas · 16/10/2025 18:27

You’ll lose most of that due to loss of personal allowance etc, so if you feel it will add so much more stress to your job, then I wouldn’t take it. Managing people really changes a role and it sounds like you would prefer a role without it.

Schoolchoicesucks · 16/10/2025 18:24

If I earned £105k without having to line manager anyone I would cling onto that as the dream.

An extra £20k isn't to be sniffed at - I line manager 3 people for about that much more than they earn.

If you say no, what will the impact be?

ExposedCankles · 16/10/2025 18:24

usernamealreadytaken · 16/10/2025 18:21

But not as shitty as a man who doesnt pay to support his children, or a woman who accepts that shitty behaviour 🤷‍♀️

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You have absolutely no idea what the story is, and it’s nothing to do with you or what OP asked. Wind your neck in.

LooseCanyon · 16/10/2025 18:23

usernamealreadytaken · 16/10/2025 18:21

But not as shitty as a man who doesnt pay to support his children, or a woman who accepts that shitty behaviour 🤷‍♀️

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You know we can see your edit, right? Where you decide to dunk on the OP even more?

Cucy · 16/10/2025 18:23

How much were you expecting?

Surely £20k more is a massive jump in one pay rise?

What was the previous employer on?

I never understood the logic of people who claim they live in London so need over £100k.
The majority of people I know who live in London earn less than £40k.

LooseCanyon · 16/10/2025 18:22

usernamealreadytaken · 16/10/2025 18:21

But not as shitty as a man who doesnt pay to support his children, or a woman who accepts that shitty behaviour 🤷‍♀️

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Victim blaming is shitty.

Unless he’s no longer alive, perhaps you should fix that.

TorroFerney · 16/10/2025 18:21

YourPeppyAmberTraybake · 16/10/2025 18:20

Why do you say that?

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Line manage infers direct reports, at 150 youd have managers reporting to you or the spans of control are too large.

usernamealreadytaken · 16/10/2025 18:21

LooseCanyon · 16/10/2025 18:17

Such a shitty thing to say.

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But not as shitty as a man who doesnt pay to support his children, or a woman who accepts that shitty behaviour 🤷‍♀️

YourPeppyAmberTraybake · 16/10/2025 18:20

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 16/10/2025 18:16

I bet he didn’t line manage 150 people……..

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Why do you say that?

TorroFerney · 16/10/2025 18:19

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 16/10/2025 18:16

I bet he didn’t line manage 150 people……..

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no but you manage them

LoyalLeader · 16/10/2025 18:18

Given that this is part of a restructure, the fact you were offered any salary upside at all is actually something. I don’t think you could have realistically expected more. Is this a “take it or leave it” offer? Be mindful that the redundancy payment might not be as generous (again, due to restructure) and that all your colleagues who will leave the company will be competing against you for jobs on the market. I’ve been in the exact same place very recently, not a pleasant situation to be in.