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To find salary offered an insult?

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Willowtree5 · 16/10/2025 14:20

As part of a restructure, I have been asked if I would take on three direct reports (I currently don’t manage anyone, but have in the past - big pull of current role was no line management responsibility).

I said I’d consider it - whilst I know I can manage people, it does add to my workload and the ‘mental load’ of dealing with all the crap around sickness/absence, 1:1’s etc.

My manager said she’d establish what additional uplift to my salary would be possible and let me know.

They’ve come back with an offer of £125,000 (current salary pre bonuses £105,000) which I find frankly insulting given the workload this would add.

AIBU to tell them to stuff it?

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Somelast · 27/10/2025 14:56

GeorgeMichaelsCat · 24/10/2025 07:43

Any news OP?

No update from an OP on a thread like this…. I presume that the response was like it or lump it

GeorgeMichaelsCat · 24/10/2025 07:43

Any news OP?

Erorgreys · 23/10/2025 11:11

Willowtree5 · 17/10/2025 10:27

Thanks, I’ve had a reply to say it won’t be until next week they can review as the senior manager is on holiday.

It’s a bit blooming stressful! The DCoroner would do well to look at this thread if the saga finishes me off 😂

This has caused you real stress?

Not a great sign for a job line managing

Erorgreys · 23/10/2025 11:10

Any update @Willowtree5 ?

YoungTurk · 21/10/2025 21:14

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 21/10/2025 20:54

I think the OP (or should it be DOP) is on the wind up here - all her responses/updates seem to be out for a keyboard fight.

Oh yeah…that makes sense, now i feel dumb!

YoungTurk · 21/10/2025 21:13

Northernlights19 · 16/10/2025 14:54

Of course they haven't. No one has ever lived in London on minimum wage have they. Especially single parents. Never happens

This. Okay…I’ll bite.

Come on, OP. You’re clearly not thick, commanding that salary, so don’t pretend for a second everyone living in London earns above six figures. Speak to my bus driver, nurse, shop assistant friends…. The pretence makes you sound stupid.

This is clearly a question that is relevant to high earners/a particular industry - do you think you’d be better off finding a forum that caters specifically to that, to ask this specific question? Otherwise you’re asking people whether their entire salary as an uplift is an insult to you….

ThePoetsWife · 21/10/2025 21:10

Salary sacrifice the additional amount to save on tax

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 21/10/2025 20:54

I think the OP (or should it be DOP) is on the wind up here - all her responses/updates seem to be out for a keyboard fight.

Neeroy · 21/10/2025 20:46

plsdontsitthere · 17/10/2025 11:40

The op obviously doesn’t work in these sectors? So how is that in any way relevant

Because the OP wrote

More fool you for not asserting yourself and negotiating for a fair deal.

So it was my response to her saying I was the problem rather than the sectors I was in simply not having the luxury of the budget to do what she was asking for.

TeaAndTattoos · 19/10/2025 00:53

Willowtree5 · 17/10/2025 15:41

Eh? That’s how it’s done on here, isn’t it?

No it just makes you sound like even more of a pratt D doesn’t go in front of any and every word.

Ziegfeld · 19/10/2025 00:29

Beesandhoney123 · 17/10/2025 23:33

@Ziegfeld what does someone do all day who is' in finance' as opposed to someone 'working in finance? '

Do you mean someone 'in finance' is an investment banker or hedge fund trader?'

And not a finance director or CFO? It's very confusing, would appreciate an explanation!

I explained this further up the thread but will have another go here.

People who work “in finance” work in the financial services industry.

This is made up of banks, insurers, asset managers and brokers, mostly based in big financial centres (City of London, Edinburgh, New York, Boston, Tokyo, Frankfurt) although some firms have back and middle office staff in other cities. There are obviously a huge range of people who work in these firms. Some are ‘hedge fund traders’, but there are all kinds of other revenue earners, plus operations people, compliance people, risk people, and all the usual business functions (IT, HR, legal, tax, finance, comms) you might find in any largish company. All of these people would say they work “in finance”; virtually none of them are a “finance director” or CFO.

golemmings · 18/10/2025 11:48

buffybots · 16/10/2025 14:46

My manager manages 20 of us or so for around 45k…

I thought OPs comment about it being retail showed a significant detachment from reality.

Mine boss manages all the registered professionals in the service for 50k. We're an NHS clinical team. We work bloody hard to treat your children. She is 80% clinical and in the remaining day of the week she does service development, and manages 5 of us with quarterly reviews, caseload management, clinical supervision...

JHound · 18/10/2025 11:10

YourPeppyAmberTraybake · 18/10/2025 08:42

In her whole career, no more pay rises, that’s highly unlikely. I think it’s worth busting through the stitch up margin tax rate band rather than always trying to stay on the cusp of it.

So if she will receive payrises she can do so without the added stress of people management for what will be, in short to medium term hardly extra.

If she asks for and gets the 50k extra it’s certainly worth it.

From 100 - 125 it’s absolutely not.

Another2Cats · 18/10/2025 10:50

Doingtheboxerbeat · 17/10/2025 18:33

I love how earnest the higher salary experts are on here, attempting to explain life in London to us 95 percenters , whilst the OP is using terms like Dcoroner 😂.

I fcking love Mumsnet, please don't ever change.

"...to us 95 percenters"

Well, at least you do acknowledge that you are at the 95th percentile. A lot of people don't.

Addictedtohotbaths · 18/10/2025 10:13

Beesandhoney123 · 17/10/2025 23:33

@Ziegfeld what does someone do all day who is' in finance' as opposed to someone 'working in finance? '

Do you mean someone 'in finance' is an investment banker or hedge fund trader?'

And not a finance director or CFO? It's very confusing, would appreciate an explanation!

I think she means I’d you work in a financial institution such as big accountancy practice, private equity fund, investment back etc then the salaries are very high.

if you work in a company outside of those sectors but do a finance function the salaries are often no where near as high. E.g. finance director in a recruitment firm in London.

Tiswa · 18/10/2025 09:57

Doingtheboxerbeat · 18/10/2025 01:58

Literally - not only did I live there for a decade myself but this site is known for being very London centric , it's actually hilariously patronising.

It’s so varied and it isn’t now just the City - I remember when we moved to Canary Wharf (Publishing Office) where it would take the Executive Leadership to hit 6 figures and it was different.

YourPeppyAmberTraybake · 18/10/2025 08:42

JHound · 18/10/2025 00:36

Or she may not. For now, it’s not worth it.

In her whole career, no more pay rises, that’s highly unlikely. I think it’s worth busting through the stitch up margin tax rate band rather than always trying to stay on the cusp of it.

Doingtheboxerbeat · 18/10/2025 01:58

Tiswa · 17/10/2025 22:30

To some of us who live in London!

Literally - not only did I live there for a decade myself but this site is known for being very London centric , it's actually hilariously patronising.

JHound · 18/10/2025 00:36

YourPeppyAmberTraybake · 17/10/2025 17:18

Yes but then the OP may get another raise and then another one.

Or she may not. For now, it’s not worth it.

JHound · 18/10/2025 00:35

Tiswa · 17/10/2025 17:13

But that isn’t the company’s issue is it that is a personal tax one

When did I say it was a company issue?

Beesandhoney123 · 17/10/2025 23:33

Ziegfeld · 17/10/2025 21:40

You clearly don’t work in or know much about finance.
There is finance the industry, as in “I work in finance”.
Then there is the finance job function, more often that not within companies that have nothing at all to do with finance. These jobs could be anything from bookkeeping right up to being the finance director. They are often not well paid, regardless of seniority, because what drives their pay is their industry NOT their job function.

Conflating the two is utterly meaningless - it tells you nothing.

@Ziegfeld what does someone do all day who is' in finance' as opposed to someone 'working in finance? '

Do you mean someone 'in finance' is an investment banker or hedge fund trader?'

And not a finance director or CFO? It's very confusing, would appreciate an explanation!

Tiswa · 17/10/2025 22:30

Doingtheboxerbeat · 17/10/2025 18:33

I love how earnest the higher salary experts are on here, attempting to explain life in London to us 95 percenters , whilst the OP is using terms like Dcoroner 😂.

I fcking love Mumsnet, please don't ever change.

To some of us who live in London!

BaconCheeses · 17/10/2025 22:25

What extra actual work or overall responsibility for delivery would you have?

Part of me thinks easy money,.plus a new baseline to shop around for a new job.

Other part thinks they've already made a significant ongoing saving by getting rid of others so it's their problem to recruit a manager.

Maybe consider what percentage more work will you need to do and set that out in the counter offer.

Ziegfeld · 17/10/2025 21:40

Another2Cats · 17/10/2025 12:05

Perhaps you are just thinking about a small subset of people involved in finance.

For example, the group "Financial managers and directors" which, as the name suggests, largely consists of job titles such as, Finance Director, Head of Corporate Finance, Group Finance Manager, Chief Finance Officer, Director (insurance company), Director (financial services company) etc.

Yes, for these people, the median salary in London in 2023 was £95,500.

But not everybody is a director or senior manager.

Incidentally, splitting the figures by sex shows a median salary for men of £101,800 and for women it was £84,100

You clearly don’t work in or know much about finance.
There is finance the industry, as in “I work in finance”.
Then there is the finance job function, more often that not within companies that have nothing at all to do with finance. These jobs could be anything from bookkeeping right up to being the finance director. They are often not well paid, regardless of seniority, because what drives their pay is their industry NOT their job function.

Conflating the two is utterly meaningless - it tells you nothing.

Sickleg · 17/10/2025 19:44

Andprettygood · 17/10/2025 07:53

Op.,, I’m going to wager that you are ND

im going to wager that you’re snide

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