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To think Sainbury's should not be selling this greeting card.

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OonaStubbs · 16/10/2025 14:13

I can't even think of a reason why this card should exist. And I was amazed to see it being sold in Sainsbury's of all places.

To think Sainbury's should not be selling this greeting card.
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JMSA · 17/10/2025 03:53

OonaStubbs · 16/10/2025 14:24

Would they sell a card saying "What happens at Grandad's, stays at Grandad's"?

I’d actually be more likely to buy that, as my dad is the spoiler of the grandchildren 😄

YankSplaining · 17/10/2025 01:24

Derbee · 16/10/2025 14:53

It’s one thing for Grandparents to “spoil” grandchildren. It’s a problem for me when they say “don’t tell mummy” because my children are raised to know that they shouldn’t have secrets with adults. It’s basic safeguarding. It’s not that the grandparents are abusing them, but it blurs the lines about when it is ok to keep things from mummy and daddy, and when it’s not.

Grandparents who give children sweets etc and say “don’t tell your parents” are part of a wider problem, but many won’t see it this way unfortunately.

I’d be livid if any of the grandparents/uncles/aunts told my children to keep things from me, and I raise my children to know that they can tell me things and they won’t get in trouble.

I find the card stupid and pointless, but I couldn’t get worked up about it. Wouldn’t buy it, don’t find it funny, but I could say that about 80% of greetings cards probably.

I had a childhood friend whose parents taught her that she shouldn’t keep any secrets from them, ever - even dumb kid stuff like “we have a secret club and gave ourselves unicorn princess names.” God, it was frustrating. “No, we can’t have a secret club! I have to tell my parents because I’m not supposed to keep secrets from them!” Finally when I was eleven, I got fed up and blurted out, “They don’t mean stuff like having a secret club with your friend! They mean like if someone is molesting you!”

”Don’t have a secret with an adult” is a much better rule, IMO, than “don’t keep any secrets from your parents.”

Tbrg · 16/10/2025 22:02

I don’t understand who the card is aimed at? What event is the card for? Is there a message inside?
If it’s for a new mum off their own mum/MIL when the baby is born, then yeah, it probably wouldn’t land well 😂

ToLoseWeightAndNotMyMind · 16/10/2025 21:39

My ils say this all the time as they for example will allow sweets an hr b4 tea. Or have an extra dessert.
It's all said in jest of what happens at grandma's stays at grandma's or grandma has different rules.

Ils also said that about football as they heard dh swear at a match when he was about 12 so it was a joke of what happens at football stays at football. In other words I don't want it being used elsewhere

RememberBeKindWithKaren · 16/10/2025 21:38

I thought it was funny..Sorry.

SmugglersHaunt · 16/10/2025 21:37

Unless your grandma is Courtney Love I think it’s fine

QueenOfDuisburg · 16/10/2025 21:36

DrowningInSyrup · 16/10/2025 14:36

Unless the message inside says "Because she's a Slag" then YABVVU

🤣🤣🤣 almost spat my tea across the floor when I read this comment 🤣

DiscoBeat · 16/10/2025 21:33

It's called a joke

Arlanymor · 16/10/2025 21:31

OonaStubbs · 16/10/2025 14:24

Would they sell a card saying "What happens at Grandad's, stays at Grandad's"?

That would have been relevant in my childhood. My Grancha was a demon for giving us those chewy toffees even after my Nana had told him not to!

SapphireSeptember · 16/10/2025 21:05

YourBrickTiger · 16/10/2025 15:39

Why? Some of us don't have ANY family, and I mean ANY family. My pets are my world. My parents are dead, I have no kids and my brother isn't speaking to me. I'm more disturbed that people find the need to be so judgemental of us 😢

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I'm sorry, that's awful. I'm glad you have your pets. ❤️

GameofPhones · 16/10/2025 19:54

Looking quickly, just saw Ma's and Stays, and thought it said something like 'What happens to Grandma's Stays at Christmas'? With Stays meaning 'corset' to me as a child, I did at first think the OP maybe had a point. I should have gone to SpecSavers.

Zodiacrobat · 16/10/2025 19:14

Redpeach · 16/10/2025 17:33

I don t think its meant in the wayne rooney sense

Made me LOL

Createausername1970 · 16/10/2025 19:04

BauhausOfEliott · 16/10/2025 14:30

If a joke about spoiling grandkids makes your mind immediately go somewhere horrific, you need some serious help.

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This!

If the OP has experienced SA within the family then I can see why this might be upsetting.

But for the vast majority of families this doesn't happen, and this is just a card, acknowledging that some grandparents enjoy spoiling their grandchildren, and some parents are happy to turn a blind eye because they enjoyed the same sense of being spoilt when they were kids.

Zodiacrobat · 16/10/2025 19:01

BallerinaRadio · 16/10/2025 14:53

Like what? I was looking at cards in Sainsbury's the other day and must have missed the 'Happy Birthday you old cunt' cards

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If you find one, let me know, that would be perfect for my best friend’s birthday 😆 she would laugh. Because she has a sense of humour, unlike OP.

Livpool · 16/10/2025 18:58

Tillow4ever · 16/10/2025 14:16

It’s clearly lighthearted referring to grandma letting the kid get away with things they wouldn’t at home (eg pudding without finishing dinner, staying up late, watching tv longer than usual, etc).

Exactly! Spoilt by grandparents

Toddlerteaplease · 16/10/2025 18:52

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 16/10/2025 14:16

Nah, I'm more disturbed that people buy actual cards for their pets 😂

My cats had a stamp with their paw print on to sign my Christmas cards. 🤣🤣

Thedogscollar · 16/10/2025 18:45

OonaStubbs · 16/10/2025 14:24

Would they sell a card saying "What happens at Grandad's, stays at Grandad's"?

For the love of God get a bloody grip.
If this is seriously upsetting you must be leading a very sad life.

LaughingCat · 16/10/2025 18:45

OonaStubbs · 16/10/2025 14:24

Would they sell a card saying "What happens at Grandad's, stays at Grandad's"?

I feel like you’re reading way too much into this. You’re the weird one here, OP. It’s not funny (what greeting card actually is), but damn, your mind went to a dark place. 😳

Peachsandcream · 16/10/2025 18:42

card clearly relates to grandparents spoiling grandkids with sweets/treats etc, seems perfectly harmless to me

Londonrach1 · 16/10/2025 18:38

Perfect and totally true. Yabu op

OldBeyondMyYears · 16/10/2025 18:37

uberalice · 16/10/2025 17:15

I agree with you OP. It's not a joke about spoiling grandkids, it's a joke about teaching kids that it's fine to keep secrets from their parents.

🤯 It’s really not! Don’t be so bloody ridiculous!

OldBeyondMyYears · 16/10/2025 18:30

Ffs!! I’d like to think that you are not actually being serious…but you are, aren’t you?? 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Just get a grip!! You are being utterly ridiculous!

JudgeJ · 16/10/2025 18:19

MummytoE · 16/10/2025 15:51

All jokes aside it's really disheartening that there are people out there who try to turn everything sinister

You do realise that twisting everything is a MN's Mastermind specialist subject?

JudgeJ · 16/10/2025 18:15

HelpMeGetThrough · 16/10/2025 16:02

Surely if the card was in Waitrose it would be “Whatever happens at Grandmothers, stays at Grandmothers”.

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I'm sure that Waitrose would punctuate it correctly!

notacooldad · 16/10/2025 18:08

Unless the message inside says "Because she's a Slag" then YABVVU

Oh behave! 😆 🤣 😂