Asking partner not to eat food I’m severely allergic to ?

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mermaidproblems · 15/10/2025 17:24

Am I BU? I didn’t think so ?!!!

MIL has lost it today over DP not being able to have fish and chips with her . I’m allergic to fish, shellfish and peanuts. We’ve always had the agreement he avoids these foods too. She has sent me a message telling me I’m too controlling and ‘you can’t tell someone what they can and can’t eat’

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Irenesortof · 15/10/2025 17:27

Ignore your MIL and let DH sort it out with her. He's agreed not to eat fish. That's his decision not yours. People can eat other things even at a fish and chip shop.

CryMyEyesViolet · 15/10/2025 17:26

How allergic are you and is he eating it when you’re there?

I have a friend with a nut allergy, but he can be around nuts being eaten provided he doesn’t eat them. His DP doesn’t have them in the house, but would eat them out of the house with no issue. That seems reasonable.

If you are that allergic that either you can’t have those things eaten around you and they’re eating them while you’re there, or if there is a risk of allergy of them eating them and then you coming into contact with the allergen if it’s on his person when he gets home, then your MIL is BVVVVU

Yesimmoaningaboutbenefits · 15/10/2025 17:26

Wolfpa · 15/10/2025 17:25

Will him eating them with his mum cause you to have a reaction?

Presumably as a couple, he would kiss the OP so yes.

AllYoursBabooshkaBabooshkaBabooshkaYaYa · 15/10/2025 17:26

Yanbu, what's he said about her message?

What difference does it make to her life is he has a red pudding supper instead of a fish supper.

dementedpixie · 15/10/2025 17:26

Would you have a reaction if he had the foods separately from you? Can he never eat those foods ever again?

Wolfpa · 15/10/2025 17:25

Will him eating them with his mum cause you to have a reaction?

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