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To think people should be able to discuss and debate how public money is used for disability and otuher benefits

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Eatinghurts · 15/10/2025 17:22

there are for our country a number of competing things happening
desire to have a functioning society which supports everyone
rising goverment spending in part brought about by rises in diagnosids of conditions and an elderly and sick poppulation
shifts in disabilituy expenditure with tech AI etc.

debatoing this leads many to argue posters are ignorant of disability and othering on the othrside assuming disabled people and their families do not pay tax.
I would hope as adults we could maturrely explore this.

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pointythings · 15/10/2025 22:13

WildLimePoet · 15/10/2025 21:48

Again, it doesn’t matter what people are advocating for. No one can make anyone do anything.

People vote with their feet. This paying into the system are reducing in numbers in staggeringly worrying numbers. That’s has nothing to do with ‘advocacy’.

If the money for benefits isn’t there, it’s not there, no amount of advocating for or against will change that outcome. Cold, hard, cash doesn’t care about people’s feelings.

The IFS says it is impossible to state categorically that wealthy non doms are leaving the UK in droves.

WildLimePoet · 15/10/2025 22:10

pointythings · 15/10/2025 22:07

From that well known bastion of leftism, the FT:

https://archive.ph/QkwNp

In short: you're catastrophising. Probably because there's an agenda at play.

Or maybe you don’t understand basic fiscal reality. You could change that if you tried.

pointythings · 15/10/2025 22:07

WildLimePoet · 15/10/2025 21:39

They live without benefits. Happens all over the world where the economy is mismanaged and the state runs out of taxpayer cash because taxpayers leave the country, or tax take goes down or people start avoiding taxes to the max. All of this is happening in this country before our very eyes.

This is not a moral question. It’s a financial and mathematical one.

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From that well known bastion of leftism, the FT:

https://archive.ph/QkwNp

In short: you're catastrophising. Probably because there's an agenda at play.

WildLimePoet · 15/10/2025 22:05

pointythings · 15/10/2025 22:04

Well, we could start with the triple lock...

What about it?

pointythings · 15/10/2025 22:04

WildLimePoet · 15/10/2025 21:35

How you feel is how you feel.

But feelings and facts don’t always run parallel. Ultimately the numbers have to add up and someone has to pay.

If everyone gets something for free, eventually no one gets it for free. And with the benefits bill so high and the number of people paying for it reducing, eventually the money will run out. The benefits bill has to reduce or there will be no welfare state left.

Well, we could start with the triple lock...

XenoBitch · 15/10/2025 22:02

WildLimePoet · 15/10/2025 21:57

Whats your point? What do you suppose will happen as tax take keeps reducing? How will benefits be paid without a £1 trillion national debt, £20b monthly interest, and gilt yields in worryingly high territory. The country is almost broke.

How is math adding up on this Romantic notion that benefit bill is all well and good and there is not problem here.

I do not have the answers as I am not a politician or someone that has the first clue about economics.
But I am someone on UC, and I can tell you that people like me are terrified as to what might come... and we are also fed up of the rhetoric on here about how we are scamming the system, are workshy, are somehow getting more money than someone working. It is all bull. I was told on here, by someone on over £100k, that I had more disposable income than them. I mean, that is bullshit.
But if the gov cut benefits, by how much.. who knows... I would be on the street and be a body you step over on the way to Waitrose.

pointythings · 15/10/2025 22:01

Eatinghurts · 15/10/2025 20:59

democracies give other opportunities to contribute other than election days eg writing to mps protesting lobbying.

i think the questions that should be debated is do disability benefits.need reform? If so how.

I think that what needs reform is the entire system. The world needs to be more accessible for disabled people. The idea of flexible working, home working and job sharing needs to become completely mainstream. Employers need to be given tax breaks for employing people who are disabled so that they can have some flex in the system when someone is more frequently off ill than a non disabled person - but they also need to be rigorously checked to ensure they aren't being tokenist about it. Then we need to get a lot better at prevention in the health system - right now, people get ill, they end up on an NHS waiting list for months and years and get worse and there's long term and more serious damage. I'm not ideologically wedded to the NHS, I'm from a country with an insurance based system (not the US!).

Endless cuts, demonising disabled people and checking up on every last penny they spend gets us nowhere.

WildLimePoet · 15/10/2025 21:57

XenoBitch · 15/10/2025 21:51

It is not about feelings. Many posts on here about how benefits should be cut with no regard to how that looks like in real life.
It looks like poverty, starvation, homelessness, suicide.
But if you are a net contributor, you are cushioned from that reality. Your loss is a bit more tax. Not poverty and destitution.

Whats your point? What do you suppose will happen as tax take keeps reducing? How will benefits be paid without a £1 trillion national debt, £20b monthly interest, and gilt yields in worryingly high territory. The country is almost broke.

How is math adding up on this Romantic notion that benefit bill is all well and good and there is not problem here.

XenoBitch · 15/10/2025 21:51

WildLimePoet · 15/10/2025 21:48

Again, it doesn’t matter what people are advocating for. No one can make anyone do anything.

People vote with their feet. This paying into the system are reducing in numbers in staggeringly worrying numbers. That’s has nothing to do with ‘advocacy’.

If the money for benefits isn’t there, it’s not there, no amount of advocating for or against will change that outcome. Cold, hard, cash doesn’t care about people’s feelings.

It is not about feelings. Many posts on here about how benefits should be cut with no regard to how that looks like in real life.
It looks like poverty, starvation, homelessness, suicide.
But if you are a net contributor, you are cushioned from that reality. Your loss is a bit more tax. Not poverty and destitution.

WildLimePoet · 15/10/2025 21:48

XenoBitch · 15/10/2025 21:46

Advocating cuts in benefits where they don't actually care what the outcome is for those people who have found their money cut.

Again, it doesn’t matter what people are advocating for. No one can make anyone do anything.

People vote with their feet. This paying into the system are reducing in numbers in staggeringly worrying numbers. That’s has nothing to do with ‘advocacy’.

If the money for benefits isn’t there, it’s not there, no amount of advocating for or against will change that outcome. Cold, hard, cash doesn’t care about people’s feelings.

XenoBitch · 15/10/2025 21:46

WildLimePoet · 15/10/2025 21:44

Advocating what?

Never read a post on MN where someone has advocated for people to do this.

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Advocating cuts in benefits where they don't actually care what the outcome is for those people who have found their money cut.

WellYouWereMythTaken · 15/10/2025 21:45

The issue I have with “debates” on this subject is that many people on here who have strong opinions on PIP and DLA don’t have a fucking clue what they’re talking about. They just spout a load of hateful cobblers which misinforms more people and their nonsense spreads further. Not only on here btw. MPs and the like do it too. <Helen fucking Whately I’m looking at you>

WildLimePoet · 15/10/2025 21:44

XenoBitch · 15/10/2025 21:42

They end up in debt, homeless and some will kill themselves.
And some people are advocating this.

Advocating what?

Never read a post on MN where someone has advocated for people to do this.

WildLimePoet · 15/10/2025 21:43

Curlewcurfew · 15/10/2025 21:41

Well, people die, actually, if they don't have the means to eat or somewhere to live.

Yes that could be a likely outcome. That’s how it works.

If there are aren’t enough people left to pay, then there isn’t enough money for benefits.

XenoBitch · 15/10/2025 21:42

WildLimePoet · 15/10/2025 21:39

They live without benefits. Happens all over the world where the economy is mismanaged and the state runs out of taxpayer cash because taxpayers leave the country, or tax take goes down or people start avoiding taxes to the max. All of this is happening in this country before our very eyes.

This is not a moral question. It’s a financial and mathematical one.

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They end up in debt, homeless and some will kill themselves.
And some people are advocating this.

Curlewcurfew · 15/10/2025 21:41

WildLimePoet · 15/10/2025 21:39

They live without benefits. Happens all over the world where the economy is mismanaged and the state runs out of taxpayer cash because taxpayers leave the country, or tax take goes down or people start avoiding taxes to the max. All of this is happening in this country before our very eyes.

This is not a moral question. It’s a financial and mathematical one.

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Well, people die, actually, if they don't have the means to eat or somewhere to live.

WildLimePoet · 15/10/2025 21:39

XenoBitch · 15/10/2025 21:37

And what happens to the people on benefits who find they can no longer eat or pay their bills?

They live without benefits. Happens all over the world where the economy is mismanaged and the state runs out of taxpayer cash because taxpayers leave the country, or tax take goes down or people start avoiding taxes to the max. All of this is happening in this country before our very eyes.

This is not a moral question. It’s a financial and mathematical one.

XenoBitch · 15/10/2025 21:37

WildLimePoet · 15/10/2025 21:35

How you feel is how you feel.

But feelings and facts don’t always run parallel. Ultimately the numbers have to add up and someone has to pay.

If everyone gets something for free, eventually no one gets it for free. And with the benefits bill so high and the number of people paying for it reducing, eventually the money will run out. The benefits bill has to reduce or there will be no welfare state left.

And what happens to the people on benefits who find they can no longer eat or pay their bills?

WildLimePoet · 15/10/2025 21:35

XenoBitch · 15/10/2025 21:31

No, am just fed up with people who claim to have some moral high ground for earning over a certain amount, and stating how they think the people below them should be able to spend money.... to the point they state that it should not be spent on a "luxury" like a fridge (from a recent thread).
It is none of their business. If I blow all my UC on drugs, it does not affect you at all (not that I do).

How you feel is how you feel.

But feelings and facts don’t always run parallel. Ultimately the numbers have to add up and someone has to pay.

If everyone gets something for free, eventually no one gets it for free. And with the benefits bill so high and the number of people paying for it reducing, eventually the money will run out. The benefits bill has to reduce or there will be no welfare state left.

XenoBitch · 15/10/2025 21:31

WildLimePoet · 15/10/2025 21:23

The only one ranting (and swearing) is you.

The rest of what you wrote is just some blah blah which misses the point spectacularly. But do carry on….

No, am just fed up with people who claim to have some moral high ground for earning over a certain amount, and stating how they think the people below them should be able to spend money.... to the point they state that it should not be spent on a "luxury" like a fridge (from a recent thread).
It is none of their business. If I blow all my UC on drugs, it does not affect you at all (not that I do).

WildLimePoet · 15/10/2025 21:23

XenoBitch · 15/10/2025 20:45

If you are a net contributor, you can try and rant and have a say in what happens to your tax money, but once it has gone through the Gov coffers and is redistributed elsewhere, you have zero say in what happens to it or how it is spent. You have fuck all say in how someone on UC spends their money.

You sound like someone who would poke a nurse in the chest and say "I pay your wages". Because that is the same in a way.

BTW, a lot of the people who are not net contributors but do work, do the most vital jobs. They are the cogs in the machine. Nurses are not net contributors and neither are teachers, same as bin men, carers, cleaners... this list goes on.

The only one ranting (and swearing) is you.

The rest of what you wrote is just some blah blah which misses the point spectacularly. But do carry on….

Lougle · 15/10/2025 21:22

Littlegreenraindrop · 15/10/2025 19:03

Oh I agree, vouchers would not work, but lots of people on the other thread were suggesting them as an alternative and I was interested to see how they thought practically they could replace cash. My view is that it belies a lack of understanding of the hidden costs of disability.

Bearing in mind that my local big Sainsbury's is manually processing vouchers because the fraud rate has shot up, so they're having to check them carefully, it would probably cost far more than it saved. These changes are always ideological rather than genuinely cost saving.

Fionaville · 15/10/2025 21:08

People like to think that they are nice. That they can have a sensible discussion about disability benefits. When in reality, they have a real bias about what they classify as truly deserving of these payments. And for the most part that means people who really look disabled. Like it's obvious from a mile away. Anything less, they deem as undeserving. At the very least there should be a vote on what these payments should be spent on. And it definitely shouldn't be anything to ease the burden on the family of the disabled person. It's a waste of time debating with these people. It's like banging your head against a brick wall.

XenoBitch · 15/10/2025 21:06

Eatinghurts · 15/10/2025 20:59

democracies give other opportunities to contribute other than election days eg writing to mps protesting lobbying.

i think the questions that should be debated is do disability benefits.need reform? If so how.

How do you reform benefits without hurting the people who claim them?

Eatinghurts · 15/10/2025 21:04

@pointythings glad your son had a possitive assessment. Key hear seems to be an assessor who understood. For epilepcy for example I so often se assessors disputing special aids and equipment not appreciating risks of cooking and showering need to be mannaged daily regardless of TC frequency.

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