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Would this be embarrassing in your family?

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Lorecan · 14/10/2025 23:06

I know it’s only trivial but it’s hit a nerve.

So my family finds everything embarrassing. As a result I’m rarely able to say anything meaningful or share a soppy toast ona birthday for example. I think it comes from Dh who finds any expression of emotion saccharine. DC have followed suit.

Yesterday we watched Baby Boom (in memory of Diane Keaton who is a fav of mine) and I really enjoyed it. As the credits rolled I raised my mug and said “RIP Diane”.

Apparently I was being embarrassing! I’m hardly a soppy git and quite low key myself but it would be nice to occasionally be a bit more emotional

anyone else have families like this?

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Lorecan · 14/10/2025 23:16

CharlotteFlax · 14/10/2025 23:16

YANBU! Jesus Christ guys, not cringey at all, just a nice little nod to DK!

That’s what I thought. We watched it specifically in her memory!

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CharlotteFlax · 14/10/2025 23:16

YANBU! Jesus Christ guys, not cringey at all, just a nice little nod to DK!

steff13 · 14/10/2025 23:15

I'm an extremely empathetic person. The byproduct of that is that I probably cry more than most people. That said, I'd have cringed a little at this.

dontcomeatme · 14/10/2025 23:14

I think it's because you come across as "performative".
You could have said "aw it's such a shame she died I love her as an actress". That's not cringey or embarrassing.
But to raise your glass to the dead and say RIP is performative behaviour, that's what's embarrassing them x

TheChosenTwo · 14/10/2025 23:14

It’s a bit cringe reading about it but maybe less so in person?!

beanbaggirs · 14/10/2025 23:13

I don't think one can really embarrass themselves in front of family tbh.

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Lorecan · 14/10/2025 23:12

I’m sick of living in an emotionless vacuum

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Lorecan · 14/10/2025 23:12

Is it THAT cringey? People go to lay flowers and wail for strangers. I was very low key.

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DappledThings · 14/10/2025 23:12

I would think someone was making a joke if they toasted a dead celebrity with their mug. That's not not being emotional. It's just quite odd a thing to do.

TheCurious0range · 14/10/2025 23:10

I cringed reading that tbh

SkinnyOatFlatWhiteForMePlease · 14/10/2025 23:09

A bit cringey but each to their own. I say this as a big Diane Keaton fan.

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 14/10/2025 23:08

I felt embarrassed reading that but I'm an emotionally repressed, heartless monster.