Would this be embarrassing in your family?

I was 100% with you OP, until "RIP Diane" 🤣🤣 I think I'd have pissed myself laughing if I was there 🤣 You do you though, it's not like all emotion is cringe, far from it! Also a bit of lighthearted cringe never hurt anyone 👌🏼😊

It just seems cruel to keep something going for years but I’m sure it depends on the dynamic.

And of course teens teasing a parent is different to everyone ganging up and teasing one of the children, which would be much worse.

I don't think anyone would have batted an eyelid in my house, if the same had happened. It's not like you were wailing hysterically at the TV!!! How old are your children? Families should know each other well enough, not to feel embarrassed around them. Otherwise you'll be walking on egg shells, wondering if breathing might be 'embarrassing'!!!

TBH I think your DH sounds as though he has been a controlling and hypercritical prat all your marriage and the kids have picked up on it. In your own home, with your own family, you should be able to express your thoughts and emotions freely, even if you get a bit of indulgent piss taking as a result. If you are being made to feel small, defensive, then it’s not really okay and I would push back.

Agree, this is key. It’s not about the woman dying is it otherwise you’d have not reacted to their reaction. What is happening , the big ticket stuff.

Surely being with your family is a safe space and nothing you do is embarrassing. Like I often do stupid dances standing in the kitchen waiting for the kettle to boil and my kids laugh at me. I wouldn't do it if their friends were there. No one would bat an eyelid in this house at toasting a dead celeb.

I don't think it's even a tiny bit cringey; I think it's lovely and would have done exactly the same.

I think you should express all the emotions you want, and your family will just have to deal with it! Sounds like it would benefit the DC to see some raw emotion!

Yes, exactly this.

It’s sweet but I did still cringe a little reading that

I don't think you were being emotional, you replaced an honest expression of emotion with a rather awkward gesture. If you had said something more real, more honest, it would have been less cringey. I think it is you that struggles to be emotional.

Maybe. What I mean is that cringe stuff just becomes a family joke. It might not go exactly like that but the teens would be teasing whenever they got the opportunity.

I’d find it weird. Just sat there at the end of a film and you raise a mug and say rip name.

Why. Your just in your livingroom with family who knew why you watched the show not discussing how she just died with friends or her family to need to state rest in peace. Very performative look at me I’m so nice and good and caring.

Snap.

Absolutely this.

We’d have got years of entertainment out of it.

I’m sorry but this sounds worse!

Idk I think I might find it a bit tiny cringe but I wouldn’t say or think anything much about it - - unless you kept repeating it looking for a reaction, but you didn’t do that.

Teenagers always find their parents cringey so that isn’t unusual.

But it’s a bit mean that your DH is leading this. Does he even like you if he’s always having a pop like this? It’s a bit unkind to make one member of the family feel they can’t be themselves or that they’re always under scrutiny.

I would saying toasting or saying nice things about actual members of the family who are there is less embarrassing (if that’s the word they use) than toasting an unknown celebrity, but I guess if the recipient of the toast/ expression of feeling doesn’t like or want it, then it’s not a nice thing for them, more of a punishment.

This!

No wonder anxiety and depression levels are spiralling when people can’t express themselves (even in their own homes) without being mocked. You be you OP.

Watching a movie in remembrance of an actress just would never happen in our household. Not because we are emotionless but because while we are sad she has died (like we all will) and can appreciate her contribution to the arts, it just seems well … performative. The toast at the end would just be the cherry on the top!

I'm surprised at the responses to this thread. It's not like the OP is screaming in the Sistine Chapel.

I'd find it really wearing having to constantly watch my reactions in case the emotion police got annoyed.

I don't think it was cringe. It was a brief thank you to a great artist.

I don't think you are weird or cringy at all!

So what if it is embarrassing? You carry on being yourself. In my family we just laugh and mock anything cringe and the person being cringe will just laugh along.
Kids would be forever be saying “do you remember when mum said rip diane? Hahaha” and then when someone else died “don’t forget to rip them with your mug mum haha”

Why do you care @Lorecan ? My husband often does a silly dance and we all find him embarrassing. He laughingly continues. I sometimes say things that my dc find cringe and I tell them that it's my role as a mum to be embarrassing while they are teens. I couldn't care less.
I think you need to grow a thicker skin OP. We often tease each other in our family and noone is upset. But then I grew up with two younger brothers so used to the banter. As long as noone is maliciously trying to put you down just go with it. Call them out for being typical emotionally constipated English people.

Weird responses. When we sit down to our Sunday roast we cheers each other, just the four of us, and there will often be a quick toast from someone, to whoever scored a good goal for Leicester, or e.g. Robert Redford, alongside kid's' achievements of the week.

Relaxed, not performative at all. We just like cheersing/toasting. I was the Robert Redford, DH Ricky Hatton. It starts interesting convos with DDs (13 and 10) about who they were, memories etc. Don't think they find it cringey. Prob used to it.

its totally fine and not cringey at all. you liked her, she'd just died, it was a brief acknowledgement of her death.
.. it's absolutely fine