Would this be embarrassing in your family?

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Yes it would be
but we're Irish and take the piss out of any more sensitive behaviour. In our house every time we through a tea bag out we'd toast it when you were around.
Fully accept that we're emotional deep freezes though.

It really isn't that hard to follow. I find weeping over the death of public figures and schlepping for hours to lay flowers in a wilting pile or file past a coffin to be odd. Because of that, because of who and how I am, and my innate reaction to it, I know I would also find it cringey if someone I was with raised a toast to the death of an actress. It was a comment on my own reaction to others' behaviour.

It wouldn’t happen in my family. I find it a bit cringe, but that’s me. I wouldn’t tell a person that unless the specifically asked.

Not at all embarrassing in our house OP! We would say what we felt and no one would laugh at us. I would say something similar if we’d seen David Bowie on TV or Freddie Mercury…all the talent that we don’t have any longer. I clap a Hollywood handshake…so what? No one in my family would blink an eye.

@Lorecan
I don’t think it matters whether others find it cringeful . I personally do find it cringeful but that’s just how I am, but I would hope the people I love would feel free to express themselves in the way that felt best to them.

It’s always nice to be nice and kind, show your children it’s important to express their emotions. We all say how much we love each other every day it becomes part of who you are. That said my mums not that good with vocal or physical emotion & my kids are more stand offish with her than their more expressive grandparents and aunts. Nothing wrong with showing your emotions. Good for you for trying

Is this a joke - a Mumsnetter parody, how is a informal toast in the company of family so in private, akin to laying flowers for dead celebrities?

In the summer when doors and windows are open you can hear the cheers and clapping from my neighbours when England score. I guess we live in Cringeville.

@JMSAsomehow that was corny but sweet.

what op did was cringey though

When I went on holiday with my teens in the summer, we saw palm trees and I commented that palm trees are like a symbol of resilience, as they bend but don’t break.
My daughters have taken the piss out of me ever since, for being so corny 😳😄

Also, a toast usually belongs at formal mournings or celebrations, so doing it for a celebrity you didn’t personally know feels odd as if borrowing the language or an act of real grief for something
the whole thing is entirely mawkish. So cringe.

Jesus, this thread. It really isn't that deep.

Yes

Bloody hell!

I don't think you were performative or insincere or over the top - you said a short sentence of respect for a woman you admired. I think the sudden sincerity and raising a mug from your sofa is a bit of an incongruous pairing, which might raise a giggle. But it's not worthy of mockery, and anyone who would go on and on about it is a dick.

I agree with all the posters who say it’s performative. I don’t think it was emotional at all, the opposite if anything as it seems contrived to get attention.

Me too.

I don't see it as cringe worthy at all.

and I agree with other posters - these who would make fun of others doing something they wouldn't are the ones I would judge - not showing nice personalities at all.

OP says "Yesterday we watched Baby Boom (in memory of Diane Keaton who is a fav of mine) and I really enjoyed it."

I think she has felt some emotion on hearing about her death.
Who puts on a show in front of their own nuclear family?

I get you. You felt something. That’s fine. People who find that embarrassing even to hear about are weirder.

OP saying RIP Diane, after watching a film of hers in the week after her death, while sitting in her lounge with her family is not in any way comparable to queuing up to visit a monarch or laying flowers for a celebrity (of which social studies have been done which explain human behaviour).

Performative implies it's done just for appearance rather than a genuine feeling.
OP liked Diane's films, in the wake of her death she enjoyed watching one of her films and then at the end raised a glass. I think it sounds very healthy. I'm pretty sure OP isn't dwelling on Diane's death, it was a small moment.

I would find that cringey too. But then I am not someone who would lay flowers for a dead celebrity or visit the Monarch's coffin. Performative and public grief is all a bit odd to me.

Dear Lord….that’s quite the analysis!

You did absolutely nothing wrong!

Absolutely, all these people cringing, what on earth is up with you all?!

OP, would you have made a toast to her if you were alone? Because it seems to me as though you were trying to mark the moment for others’ benefit, but when there’s no audience other than family…. it feels theatrical.

Also, a toast usually belongs at formal mournings or celebrations, so doing it for a celebrity you didn’t personally know feels odd as if borrowing the language or an act of real grief for something

the whole thing is entirely mawkish. So cringe.