AIBU to keep this dress? A Vinted one

Good - ignore posters saying that yabu, they’re clearly not very experienced in the Vinted rules. She’s trying to have you on!

I think you’re being very unreasonable. I don’t understand the potential scam with this, although I can understand why you’re reluctant to give the seller your bank details. I buy and sell a lot on Vinted, and the seller did nothing wrong in not sending the dress immediately - I always send everything I sell within 24 hours but recognise that many people are busy and you have several days to post items. If someone was sending multiple messages nagging about something about something that was within its despatch time, I think many sellers might dig their heels in and not post until close to the deadline. As a Vinted user, you will be aware that if a seller doesn’t post an item within the deadline, the sale will automatically be cancelled and the buyer refunded. This didn’t happen in your case so the dress was clearly sent within the accepted timescale. You said thst you sent the seller many messages about the despatch of the dress, but you then left it at the post office for several days when it arrived!

The seller clearly made a mistake in sending the wrong dress - it’s easily done if you’ve got a lot of items for sale - and you also made a mistake by not checking that you had been sent the correct dress when it arrived and you accepted the order. I can understand why she may not have realised the mistake immediately and I don’t for a minute condone her being rude to you, BUT it sounds like quite a lot of money is at stake for her, which she may not be able to afford to lose. If I made an expensive mistake like this I would hope that my buyer would be a bit more understanding. You’ve referred to this as being a £150 dress whereas the one you bought had a retail price of £50, so assuming that there was quite a significant difference in the sale price for the two dresses, there could be a fair amount of money at stake for her. Of course she shouldn’t have been harassing you, but your attitude also sounds fairly awful. Of course technically there is nothing that she can do through Vinted, and if you report her attitude to Vinted, they won’t do anything, even if you manage to get through their horrendous AI system.

It would leave a nasty taste for me to keep this dress under the circumstances. As a seller, I know that I can easily photograph and list an item on Vinted in a maximum of five minutes, and pack it around the same time, and you could do the same. Would it really hurt to do the decent thing and list the dress for what you paid for it, plus the postage you paid, so thst she can buy it back? Most people have an Evri shop, Yodel shop, Post Office, or Inpost locker fairly nearby, and you could select whichever postage option is most convenient for you.

YABU for saying “ Off of”…..

Block her snd her sister and complain about them to vinted.

I'm really confused about why she did that.
I sent the wrong parcel once (was sending a few things) and the buyer let me know straight away, I sent her a label to send it on to the correct buyer and bought a new label to send her item. I think we made sure we picked the same shop to drop off/pick up!

She wanted OP to start a transaction outside Vinted . I don’t know exactly what the scam would be but the circumstances are hard to believe. Almost identical dresses with very different prices and the seller only realised the mistake as soon as the item was accepted.

It definitely sounds like a scam. Waiting for it to be too late to go though the vinted standard returns way, then trying to get bank details, then the offer of a courier (which is a well known scam used on Facebook market place)

The harm of OP resisting the item for her to buy back is that we already know the seller has a cheaper identical dress. So she would be well equipt for item not as described, thats if she even admits it is returned in the 1st place.

She sounds dodgy, I would have nothing further to do with this woman. Block all contacts she throws your way

I bought joggers listed as BNWIthout Tags
on Vinted only £5.00 but they were so badly stained I wouldn’t even wear them gardening. Refused and sent them back but the lister had hundreds of sells so made me think is that a scam as most people wouldn’t ask for a refund for £5.00.

Hmm… I don’t think they’re as similar as you’re saying then.

Classic scam.

Once you've accepted the item, the buyer protection effectively ceases and the funds are released to the buyer. She was hoping to pressure you to return the dress outside of the Vinted platform, leaving her with both the payment and the dress and leaving the OP with nothing.

(I've had a buyer send me an item by mistake. She let me know before I'd taken receipt because she'd muddled the parcels up at the post office and her other buyer had alerted her to to the problem. She was super apologetic and it was obviously sincere, and because I hadn't accepted it it was reasonably easy to sort out via the platform.

So it does happen.)

Post a photo of the 2 dresses so we can see how similar they are please.

Did she have a good rating on Vinted?

Maybe it was a genuine mistake?

Block her . I had to block a buyer for item was listed spares/ repairs as it didn’t work. He received it the tried open a case that it didn’t work! She made a mistake not your issue

How did the seller not realise sooner?

Sounds like a scam to me.

Yeah that’s why I think it’s a scam - that she kept nagging you to collect it and said nothing til you’d clicked “everything is ok”.

Although it’s a rubbish scam as you are quite within your rights to do as you are doing!

If it’s not a scam, it’s her fault as she’s sent the dress you ordered to someone who paid more, so she’s now in trouble with vinted. This might be why she’s getting her knickers in a twist about it (if not a scam).

It’s on the seller to make sure they send the correct item to the correct person - even I can manage it and my executive functioning is awful.

You are not understanding. Of course, if the retailer tells you that you can keep the item, then you can keep it. However, you are required to inform them of the mistake, twice, in writing, and return it if requested. Otherwise it is classed as theft and a criminal offence.

In this case, a return has clearly been requested. However, as I said, I don’t know whether Vinted have something in their terms and conditions which would affect the sellers rights to a return in this situation.

Tough one. Frankly I don’t like the idea of giving anyone on Vinted my personal details (much less off the app) so I can definitely see where you’re coming from and her being bitchy about it doesn’t help.

However… if you could see it was a legitimate mistake, there’d be no harm in just relisting and posting it back to her.

So you think this woman is Jeff Bezos and give you stuff for free because she cannot force you to give her back her stuff.

People make mistakes. I've been sent the wrong stuff twice and sent it back. It wouldn't occur to me to keep something that doesn't belong to me, although it was inconvenient to post it back and then re-buy my items.

She gets the buyer to send it back, saying she’ll refund when it arrives, then doesn’t send the refund….