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Breastfeeding rights at work - please clarify for me please! I start in 3 days!

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carrie3003 · 14/10/2025 20:42

Returning to work part time after 10.5 months mat leave. Breastfeeding.

It is a new job (bank hours so 0 hour contract I can work when I like). Not worked there before.

First shift and induction is on Friday morning for 6 hours - a 20 minute break.

I have emailed and said my baby will be brought to me around 10/11am for a feed. (I read online that you need to tell your employer in writing you’re breastfeeding so that’s why I emailed)

They have just emailed back:

“That’s fine, we can look to work your break around that time if that’s ok with you”

I don’t have to use my break for this do I?
Surely as a breastfeeding mother I am entitled to my full break for me and a 10 minute breastfeeding “break” for my baby?
They can’t make me use my break to breastfeed can they?

What do I reply? It’s really shocked me as I thought she would just reply saying “yeah that’s fine”

Please tell me I’m not mad. AIBU? I need clarification on my rights and what to say back.

Not keen on returning to work as it is and now this has pushed me even more to just not go!

Thank you in advance lovely ladies xx

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MimiSunshine · 14/10/2025 21:49

millymollymoomoo · 14/10/2025 21:08

At this age your baby should only be having milk morning and night with solids and water in between. You need to wean off the milk

your employers sound flexible but you’re being unreasonable to expect to do this at a whim

Baby absolutely does not need weening off milk at this age. Breastmilk is still hugely important and nutritionally valuable.
the baby under one won’t be eating full meals that substantially replace what they get from breastmilk.

MumChp · 14/10/2025 21:49

DonnyBurrito · 14/10/2025 21:38

🤣 Rubbish. Babies under 1 should be on a predominant milk diet and be essentially 'tasting' food and water. No 10 month old baby is getting the calories they need from 'solids' and water through the day. Babies absolutely shouldn't be weaned off milk before 1.

True. But this is a 6 hours shift. If mum and baby can't handle this maybe SAHM is the better choice.
A lot of children are bf +1 year with being ferried into workplaces.

Loub1987 · 14/10/2025 21:49

Your employers sounds like it is very accommodating! Get over your entitlement.

AOIFEmissingUalways · 14/10/2025 21:47

carrie3003 · 14/10/2025 21:03

Wow Thank you for the replies.
Seems me thinking I could breastfeed my baby in work toilet/car park for 5/10 minutes during a 6 hour shift was too much to ask for! I thought I’d be able to with no issue but clearly not - may have to rethink

I don't understand why a 10/11 month old needs a 5 minute feed within a 6 hour shift, that isn't the break already given to you.

I think you're chancing your arm to try get more time off.

carrie3003 · 14/10/2025 21:44

DonnyBurrito · 14/10/2025 21:38

🤣 Rubbish. Babies under 1 should be on a predominant milk diet and be essentially 'tasting' food and water. No 10 month old baby is getting the calories they need from 'solids' and water through the day. Babies absolutely shouldn't be weaned off milk before 1.

Thank you!

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AnotherNameChange1234567 · 14/10/2025 21:44

carrie3003 · 14/10/2025 21:03

Wow Thank you for the replies.
Seems me thinking I could breastfeed my baby in work toilet/car park for 5/10 minutes during a 6 hour shift was too much to ask for! I thought I’d be able to with no issue but clearly not - may have to rethink

Well yes, it is too much to ask for. There is not a provision in law for this, so you would not be entitled to do so. Why you feel this means you need to rethink the world of work is a mystery, and given the very close proximity of your new workplace to your home, you are running the risk of cutting off your nose to spite your face.

Enjoy the fact that the fact your new employer is willing to be flexible around your break means you can see your baby during your working day. Majority of women are not this lucky.

MumChp · 14/10/2025 21:43

123togo · 14/10/2025 21:40

Don’t be silly, there are no ‘shoulds’ with a breastfeeding baby!

True. But 6 hours shift shouldn't be an issue for a baby on solid food.

Changingnameagain · 14/10/2025 21:42

carrie3003 · 14/10/2025 20:55

Thank you for this reply! Yes it definitely won’t be for long! And baby may not even need the breastmilk while on shift so may not even be an issue. I just am very surprised at the reply I thought I would be entitled to leave for 5 minutes to feed in the car park - much like someone would have a toilet break!

also to answer others - I am in the UK.

my workplace is on the next street from where I live so why pump? When baby is 4 minute walk from my work.

also I do not expect the breaks to be paid? I can make up the time if they need. I am just very surprised she has said I must do it in my break time and want to know if this is such an unreasonable request as I didn’t think it was at all?

You are also required to have a breastfeeding risk assessment
Have they done one?
You will need to be given enough time to feed and empty your breasts to prevent mastitis which is a serious infection.
I would also argue that expecting you to feed in your normal breaktime puts you at risk of dehydration/UTIs if it means you dont have time to also use the toilet etc as you normally could. Due to our physiology women are at higher risk of UTIs than men anyway without having limited access to toilets.
Your employer has a legal obligation under health and safety act 1974 to not jeopardize your wellbeing and by not giving you a full break as others get your wellbeing could be impacted.
If you're not in a union- join one now and then contact their adviceline.

  • Indirect discrimination: A policy that disadvantages breastfeeding employees (e.g., no extra breaks) could be indirect discrimination unless the employer can objectively justify it as a proportionate means of achieving a legitimate aim.
  • Health and Safety: Your employer also has general health and safety duties to assess risks and ensure you are not exposed to harm.

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OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 14/10/2025 21:41

Is your baby even allowed on the premises ?

Witsendneedhelp · 14/10/2025 21:40

In the Irish civil service you get paid breastfeeding breaks up to 1 hour per day, or you can just reduce your work day by one hour without a reduction in pay. I pumped during my lunch break and then left work an hour earlier to minimise time spent away from my breastfed baby. It made a massive difference to me and really helped me to continue breastfeeding. I don’t think this is widespread across the private sector thought, the civil service is miles ahead in terms of family friendly policies.

123togo · 14/10/2025 21:40

millymollymoomoo · 14/10/2025 21:08

At this age your baby should only be having milk morning and night with solids and water in between. You need to wean off the milk

your employers sound flexible but you’re being unreasonable to expect to do this at a whim

Don’t be silly, there are no ‘shoulds’ with a breastfeeding baby!

HumberBridge2 · 14/10/2025 21:39

millymollymoomoo · 14/10/2025 21:08

At this age your baby should only be having milk morning and night with solids and water in between. You need to wean off the milk

your employers sound flexible but you’re being unreasonable to expect to do this at a whim

This is 100% not true. It's normal for babies to continue breastfeeding along side solids for much longer than 10 months. WHO recommended at least 2 years (and however long mum wants to continue for) !!

OP- Maternity Action have some advice on breastfeeding and returning to work Here

Like others have said, hopefully baby (and your body) quickly adapts to feeding before/after your shifts. I think I only needed to express for a week or so, and I only expressed for comfort. It's in your employers interest to give you a break to feed/express really, as it can be so easy to develop mastitis if you're not used to not feeding for long stretches!

Continuing to breastfeed when you return to work - Maternity Action

April 2025 This guide covers your options for continuing to breastfeed your baby on return to work, your legal rights and how to negotiate with your employer.   Going back to work may be the first time you have been separated from your baby for long pe...

https://maternityaction.org.uk/advice/continuing-to-breastfeed-when-you-return-to-work/

Ultravox · 14/10/2025 21:38

At this age your child should be able to drink out of a cup. I used to pump in my break just to keep the supply up but never actually brought a baby to work!

DonnyBurrito · 14/10/2025 21:38

millymollymoomoo · 14/10/2025 21:08

At this age your baby should only be having milk morning and night with solids and water in between. You need to wean off the milk

your employers sound flexible but you’re being unreasonable to expect to do this at a whim

🤣 Rubbish. Babies under 1 should be on a predominant milk diet and be essentially 'tasting' food and water. No 10 month old baby is getting the calories they need from 'solids' and water through the day. Babies absolutely shouldn't be weaned off milk before 1.

Coconutter24 · 14/10/2025 21:36

They sounded pretty reasonable tbf allowing baby in so you can breastfeed and saying they could accommodate your break around that time so you can feed. You’re not entitled to an extra break for it paid or unpaid. Can you change feeding routine to work around your job, baby have earlier feed or later feed?

summerlovingvibes · 14/10/2025 21:34

Bobiverse · 14/10/2025 21:16

This is almost as bad as that thread a few years ago from a woman returning to work after maternity and only going back part time. When she saw her new pay, she was furious and kept saying that they were legally required to pay her the same as before she went on maternity. She could not understand that previously she had worked full time, so got full time pay and when she went back part time, she was paid pro-rata for her new hours - same pay per hour. But she was adamant that they had to pay her the same amount despite working fewer hours, due to maternity protections.

That's hilarious!

summerlovingvibes · 14/10/2025 21:32

carrie3003 · 14/10/2025 21:03

Wow Thank you for the replies.
Seems me thinking I could breastfeed my baby in work toilet/car park for 5/10 minutes during a 6 hour shift was too much to ask for! I thought I’d be able to with no issue but clearly not - may have to rethink

I think realistically though it wouldn't be 5 minutes you were away from work for. By the time you've walked to the car park / said hello to baby / fed / said goodbye etc and walked back again then it would likely be a lot longer than 5 mins.

To be honest, I'd be more worried about your child finding this upsetting. I know for sure / experience (had to do occasional visit to the child minder middle of the day when I'd forgotten something etc) that if I was to see my child for literally a few minutes and then have to say goodbye again this would be very upsetting / distressing and unsettling.

I honestly think they need to be fine without BF if you're going back to work. Expressed milk in a sippy cup or none at all whilst you're out.

Then if needed pump and dump on your break.

I wouldn't be expecting my employer to give me paid breaks for this. Like others have said - it may only be 10/15 mins for you once in a 6 hour shift, but if they have a policy then it has to be the same for all. Others may say they need to BF 3x in that 6 hours etc and they couldn't then refuse that if they've allowed others. It all builds up.

Onmytod24 · 14/10/2025 21:28

You’re only there for 6 hours. What’s the problem with using a bit of yr break? That Sounds reasonable to me

mummymissessunshine · 14/10/2025 21:25

carrie3003 · 14/10/2025 20:55

Thank you for this reply! Yes it definitely won’t be for long! And baby may not even need the breastmilk while on shift so may not even be an issue. I just am very surprised at the reply I thought I would be entitled to leave for 5 minutes to feed in the car park - much like someone would have a toilet break!

also to answer others - I am in the UK.

my workplace is on the next street from where I live so why pump? When baby is 4 minute walk from my work.

also I do not expect the breaks to be paid? I can make up the time if they need. I am just very surprised she has said I must do it in my break time and want to know if this is such an unreasonable request as I didn’t think it was at all?

OP - speak to your employer. If you don’t ask for an extra break - which you will
make up for at the end of the shift - then they cannot say yes or no.

might be easier to phone them and have a conversation rather than over email.

then confirm the agreement via email so it is documented.

likely will only be required for a few weeks or months anyway.

You are very lucky to live so nearby! Will make the transition so much easier.

good luck.

SErunner · 14/10/2025 21:24

It’s not going to be 5 minutes. It will be minimum 30 minutes each time you want to feed by the time you’ve finished what you’re doing, left, said hello, fed, said goodbye, gone back to work, etc. It’s a bit entitled to expect an employer to enable this for you. Especially when you’re on a bank contract… just do what everyone else does and pump, or just feed before and after work. As others have said, you’re entitled to have a space and time to express if you want to, but not to be paid for the time required.

SilkAndSparklesForParties · 14/10/2025 21:23

Your employer has to provide a private space for you to express or breastfeed.

They also have to provide adequate storage facilities for the breast milk expressed.

They do not have to provide paid breaks to facilitate it.

If your baby is being brought to you, they should conduct a risk assessment.

dontmalbeconme · 14/10/2025 21:23

carrie3003 · 14/10/2025 21:03

Wow Thank you for the replies.
Seems me thinking I could breastfeed my baby in work toilet/car park for 5/10 minutes during a 6 hour shift was too much to ask for! I thought I’d be able to with no issue but clearly not - may have to rethink

But they're not saying that you can't feed your baby for 5/10 mins, they're saying you absolutely can, and they're being flexible with your break timings in order to accommodate it.

AlexisP90 · 14/10/2025 21:19

Sorry I think YABU OP.

Firstly they are not entitled to give you extra time to breastfeed.

Secondly personally I already think they are being pretty flexible allowing your baby to be bought to you, in the workplace "around 10/11" to breast feed. Most workplaces allow you a private place to pump but is it a legal right to have the baby bought into you?
Genuinely I dont know the answer to that one...

Your post comes across as very entitled OP. The majority of us didn't want to return to work and I dont see how they have been unreasonable at all.

Its a workplace. There are rules and times when they expect people to be working.

mummymissessunshine · 14/10/2025 21:18

Bobiverse · 14/10/2025 21:16

This is almost as bad as that thread a few years ago from a woman returning to work after maternity and only going back part time. When she saw her new pay, she was furious and kept saying that they were legally required to pay her the same as before she went on maternity. She could not understand that previously she had worked full time, so got full time pay and when she went back part time, she was paid pro-rata for her new hours - same pay per hour. But she was adamant that they had to pay her the same amount despite working fewer hours, due to maternity protections.

🤣🥱😹