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To be sick of pretentious use of “said”

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Driftingawaynow · 14/10/2025 15:17

Increasingly I notice people using the word “said” where “the” would do fine.

for example:

asked my husband to take out the washing, he left said washing in the dryer.

it’s really bizarrely irritating

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Sportsdaywinner · 16/10/2025 04:37

Jujujudo · 14/10/2025 15:26

I’m irritated by the word “super”. It was super simple! Or I’m super busy! I don’t know why but it irritates me. I’m also starting to get annoyed with “gotten”. Maybe I’m menopausal..

Me too! Absolutely hate how super is everywhere!

IShouldNotCoco · 16/10/2025 04:34

This specific thing doesn’t bother me but other things do.

Trallers · 16/10/2025 04:31

I don't particularly mind any of the things mentioned so far, although perhaps that's because all my irk right now is going on when a poster addresses us with 'reader' or 'dear reader'. It's said something along the lines of "and yes dear reader, I can confirm it did turn out to be blah blah blah". I've never heard anyone else mention that they find it annoying so I suspect it's probably just me being intolerant...

KimberleyClark · 16/10/2025 03:59

I’m really irritated by “excited for” instead of “excited about”. “I’m really excited for the new series of Strictly” It is technically correct usage of the word “for” but feels like it shouldn’t be.

Todayismyfavouriteday · 16/10/2025 03:36

RhaenysRocks · 14/10/2025 19:16

I get increasingly irritated by the dumbing down of language and anyone using anything more complex than text speak being seen as pretentious. It goes hand in hand with a trend toward the "ordinary person" as opposed to anyone with an education or expertise.

Absolutely. It's as if the uneducated ones wanted everyone else on their level, and suddenly correct English is pretentious...

Todayismyfavouriteday · 16/10/2025 03:34

UnctuousUnicorns · 14/10/2025 15:27

I agree. "Aforementioned" would be much better imo.

😂Love this!

Greenfinch7 · 16/10/2025 03:10

I hate: 'I digress' the way it is used on here.

blueshoes · 16/10/2025 03:01

The word 'intentional' is beginning to bug me.

Kimura · 16/10/2025 02:54

I have a colleague who thinks (or wishes) that she's posh. She lives in a box room in her mum's flat and wears knock off designer gear for Instagram pictures. She bought thousands of followers and tries to make out she's an influencer to restaurants to get free food.

Tragic.

Anyway, she speaks with a fake posh accent. It's pretty good, but the mask always slips when she says 'done' instead of 'did'. Every. Single. Time.

"I done my shopping yesterday".

It's like fingernails on a blackboard.

Mayaameliaa · 16/10/2025 02:51

I’ve noticed this and used to think people say it when they’re trying to sound soooo posh and British

PollyBell · 16/10/2025 02:34

Dartmoorcheffy · 16/10/2025 01:59

Im fed up of the overuse of the word "narrative".

and journey or dream when not actually meaning those 2 things

whataweekImhaving · 16/10/2025 02:29

Bottlefall · 14/10/2025 15:21

It doesn't mean the same thing?

I can't say it's something I use or that I notice, but it has a slightly different meaning. I don't know why it's pretentious?

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It does mean the same thing.

What difference are you seeing between the two statements?

OP, I agree fully. It’s overused, pretentious and annoying.

Morningsleepin · 16/10/2025 02:08

Driftingawaynow · 14/10/2025 19:39

yes 🤮 “methinks” @NOTTHEHOUSEPLANT @Wadadli is worse but it’s along these lines for me. Cringe

i think it’s pretentious as it’s an excessively frilly way to speak which no one apart from Jacob Rees-Mogg wouod use irl. And I have seen it crop up on Mn a lot recently.

So only Jacob Rees Mogg uses it. Make up your mind

Kimura · 16/10/2025 02:06

canyouseemyhousefromhere · 16/10/2025 00:51

I get very irritated by people who answer with “absolutely “ each time they answer a question. What is wrong with “yes”?

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I'm quite wordy so stuff like this doesn't bother me. What does irritate me is people using words they don't really know the meaning of in slightly the wrong context.

Dartmoorcheffy · 16/10/2025 01:59

Im fed up of the overuse of the word "narrative".

PollyBell · 16/10/2025 01:47

I do think there is no need to use the word said like this but there is also no need to call it pretentious either

there seems to be a new thing where people have to decide or put things on to other so it appears they have a chip on their shoulder, if it is not people using words it is feeling constantly judged or others dont have enough going on so come of with backgrounds to people ''they are jealous'' or " they are looking at me and judging me becasue I have some issue going on and don't want to deal with so blaming others'' or ''I have decided that person thinks this about me because I have made it up'' or ''they use this word and now I have decided that are doing it just to annoy me and think they are better than me''

canyouseemyhousefromhere · 16/10/2025 00:51

I get very irritated by people who answer with “absolutely “ each time they answer a question. What is wrong with “yes”?

StinkyCheeseMoose · 14/10/2025 20:15

'Steve said, quote "This room smells of feet" unquote, and love a delicious ripe camembert, so I think I'll stay a bit longer unquote'.

Definitely extra! I checked it before posting too! Thanks for noticing! 🤣

Legomania · 14/10/2025 20:11

StinkyCheeseMoose · 14/10/2025 19:57

But,

'Steve said, quote unquote, "This room smells of feet and I love a delicious ripe camembert, so I think I'll stay a bit longer".

And

'Steve said, quote "This room smells of feet" unquote, and love a delicious ripe camembert, so I think I'll stay a bit longer unquote'.

Tell you different things about Steve and me and how we feel about feety rooms.

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Now this point I don't get 😅feels like an extra or a missing unquote in there

Kimura · 14/10/2025 20:00

UnctuousUnicorns · 14/10/2025 15:27

I agree. "Aforementioned" would be much better imo.

Me: Can you empty the bins in the kitchen please?

Him: Yep.

Me, 6 hours later: The aforementioned bins remain in the aforementioned kitchen; if they're not taken out soon people will be referring to you in the past tense as well. Love you kiss kiss.

StinkyCheeseMoose · 14/10/2025 19:58

Legomania · 14/10/2025 19:34

Also, 'said' replaces 'the'. 'The said' really is a hanging offence!

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I think you are probably right! 🤣

StinkyCheeseMoose · 14/10/2025 19:57

Legomania · 14/10/2025 19:33

It's slang, to emphasise someone's wording! Obviously used differently if you are dictating a legal letter etc

'Steve said, quote unquote, "This room smells of feet"!'

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But,

'Steve said, quote unquote, "This room smells of feet and I love a delicious ripe camembert, so I think I'll stay a bit longer".

And

'Steve said, quote "This room smells of feet" unquote, and love a delicious ripe camembert, so I think I'll stay a bit longer unquote'.

Tell you different things about Steve and me and how we feel about feety rooms.

Wadadli · 14/10/2025 19:56

StinkyCheeseMoose · 14/10/2025 19:12

I love "methinks", especially when it is repeated unnecessarily (not that it's ever necessary). Methinks, methinks! 😂

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((°))

😂😂😂

NotThisShitAgain121 · 14/10/2025 19:42

Gets on my fucking nerves that one.

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Driftingawaynow · 14/10/2025 19:39

yes 🤮 “methinks” @NOTTHEHOUSEPLANT @Wadadli is worse but it’s along these lines for me. Cringe

i think it’s pretentious as it’s an excessively frilly way to speak which no one apart from Jacob Rees-Mogg wouod use irl. And I have seen it crop up on Mn a lot recently.

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