Feel absolutely awful after encounter on train

What kind of socks do I need to use for this? I have some massive wool socks that you can't wear any shoes with ever, because they make your feet like, huge, ( but are great for wearing at home) or some of those little white trainer ankle sock things that disappear under your heel when you walk but make you feel like you're ready to break into a run or do some squat jumps at any moment, or how about just black cotton ankle socks, plain, size 3-6?

Yes, and I choose table seats if available. I'm sure you'll have an issue with that, which I am eager to hear. I don't care though, and won't change what I do.

where on earth do you get faecally incontinent from?

That and the fact that you had the audacity to sit at a table when you're a solo traveller😱🤣

So you think that someone sat next to or opposite a faecally incontinent person shouldn't move seats, even if the smell made them feel sick and there were other seats available?

You asked if you behaved correctly I think it's likely you inadvertently looked disgusted and looked up from your phone a few times cementing your disgust - that's how it comes across in your post. You had every right to move but you may just naturally have a disgusted look on your face. I would not have sprayed the perfum - I think that was rude.

Some hyper sensitive people on this chat.

I used to be fat. Very fat. And you know what, I probably smelled a bit at times too, because I was fat.

I was in total denial and tiptoeing round it did me no favours whatsoever.

There is no issue with OP describing the person as overweight. It’s a factual observation. I don’t even think there’s much wrong with her describing her as fat. If a few more people had referred to me as fat instead of constantly being polite, I might have sorted it out sooner.

It's the smell of damp clothes we'll have in a few weeks . You know the musty , hung up damp raincoat smell.

We (DH and I) were sitting behind a couple , the woman reclined her seat (no warning ) , I asked her to tip it back up as she took up our space and she told us to move

I was soooo tempted to say "Yeah I;ll shift but only because your husbands coat fecking stinks and it's making me feel sick" (but I didn't )
I did let her know she was a selfish cow as I shifted (not that she cared )

What did any of the unnecessary detail below have to do with anything?

Right before we were due to depart a large lady came huffing down the aisle. I only say this as I heard her the moment she entered the carriage. She stopped at my table and decided to sit opposite me. I smiled and went back to my phone. She was incredibly overweight to the point she had to really push herself in between the table and the seats and took up both empty seats across from me.

OP don’t feel bad. I know the smell you mean, and you had to move.

I just hope that woman has a loved one who tells her she smells, so she can try and do something about it.

Yes

For some, sugar abuse can be, in a similar way to alcohol or drug abuse, a response to unresolved trauma.

Yes I also think its more than fine to sit at a table if you are solo although if I then saw a family group get on and there was somewhere to move to, I'd move. But I am generally on commuter trains where people are on their own or perhaps with a friend or family member

Wow you're boring as well as unable to comprehend a thread. The op has said, several times, that was the first train out of three that this happened on. She's also said she has been travelling since early this morning. So it would be safe to assume from all the details that maybe, just maybe she is taking a break from/has finished her work. But you carry on weirdly trying to catch her out 🤦‍♀️

If true you should have replied whilst looking her in the eye, “I have no issue with anyone being overweight, but you madam stink to high heaven and are making me feel sick!”

That way anyone who takes a sniff in her direction will be fully on your side.

I think a simple reply along the lines of, "it's not your appearance that is bothering me but rather your odor".

Obviously OP had to mention the woman was fat as it was the woman's main issue. Ridiculously easily offended people trying to make it impossible to use simple descriptions.

You don’t need to engage. Just get up quickly and move carriages. I did this yesterday when someone got on wearing very smelly work overalls - paint / turps I think. It made me feel sick.

This. Your only "crime" was explaining, or starting to. All you needed to do was say "that doesn't concern you" when she demanded to know why you were moving.

And if someone accused me of fat shaming I might be "compelled" to say "well there's an easy solution isn't there". Fatness is something that can be changed in the vast majority of cases. Even if the obvious answer to it has recently got a lot more expensive, thanks to Trump.

Except you said “entirely factual, both stomach and breasts were on the table” and that’s a physical impossibility. Now you’re changing your story.
If this lady was as overweight as you said with such glee that she was, for her breasts to also be touching the table they’d have to be shaped like a U-shaped body pillow and about the same size so they could reach over or around her stomach to also touch the table.

Just… stop it. You’re being ridiculous.

Sounds like the large lady is just overly sensitive and an ignorant cow!
If it were me I would of got up and moved straight away...I don't really care about BO or fatness but I am very antisocial and hate someone sitting near me when there are other options.
(Although OPs description of the lady is very.....pointed! Being approached by her sounded like the T rex intro in Jurassic Park!).😂

Just read more of the thread and as a solo traveller myself I didn’t know it was not appropriate to sit at a seat with a table either 🙄. As far as I am concerned if you have a ticket you can sit anywhere that’s free and groups will need to suck it up.

Also stomach and breasts overhanging the table plus dribbling and smelly and breathing heavily over you does sound pretty grotesque so I don’t blame you for moving OP. I also do the same for noisy drunk people and have sometimes been challenged. Just let it go. Some people just like to fight so I ignore and walk away rather than make an excuse. If they persist though I would tell the truth. FGS if you use public transport being clean and not stinking of whatever is surely the least they can do. I don’t know why she picked a table seat as surely there is less room if you are bigger than average?

Don’t be tempted. You’re doing really well as we are half way through October already.

Edited: I am a size 12 and if I slouch in tight jeans my tummy goes up, and my slightly large cupsize definitely sits on top.