My DH and I have been together for 26 years since I was 20 (and he was 27). He has alot of great qualities and is a great father but can have dark moods and be very insensitive to my feelings. We have a largely sexless relationship due to his very low libido. We have two children 17 and 10.
I am close to leaving and I have been for some time over many things. A comment he made 8 years ago deeply wounded me and I have never been able to get over it.
He said that I 'dress like a slut ' and that other people probably think this too (specifically other mothers). When I became upset he refused to apologise and said that 'all the women at his work' would have found this comment funny and dealt with it just fine and I was over reacting. He was angry that I was upset.
My feelings for him changed that day. For what it's worth I don't dress like that. I wear the same clothes other women wear and try to be elegant and put together. There have been other horrible comments but that's the worst. I just can't get over it.
Part of me thinks I should get over it. AIBU?