Page 21 | I hate my DSD

8842688l · 2025-10-13T20:32:43+00:00

There I said it. Got it off my chest shes a horrible, manipulative, spiteful girl who treats everybody like shit. nothing more to say just needed to get it off my chest.

millymollymoomoo · 13/10/2025 22:20

He should stop her coming to yours then

Ponderingwindow · 13/10/2025 22:19

If she makes false allegations against you and puts your child at risk, why do you still live with her? You can extract yourself and your children from this situation anytime you want.

PlayCertainGamesWinCertainPrizes · 13/10/2025 22:19

To be fair on you, a lot of 15 year olds are absolutely unbearable.

…. and many never grow out of it.

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8842688l · 13/10/2025 22:17

Lighteningstrikes · 13/10/2025 22:16

You don’t come across as being emotionally mature enough to deal with a 15 year old.

Oh interesting take from a stranger on the internet that does not know me?

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8842688l · 13/10/2025 22:16

millymollymoomoo · 13/10/2025 22:14

Sorry but I bet op didn’t start out hating her sd. I expect she’s had to endure years of abuse, moods, toxic behaviour, manipulation etc for op to feel this strongly. Yes sd I expect had some bad parenting, a mother who probably encourages this and that not great but at 15 she Knows what she’s and is not some poor innocent little thing!

op what is dad doing about it ?

Losing his mind, he's tried to do as much as physically possible to correct behaviour, tried to talk to her, tried therapy but she refuses, tried the soft approach, tried the hard approach, tried every approach possible

as I said she’s a master manipulator so she will manipulate any situation where she’s not happy so that people either turn on others or question his parenting. DM believes any of the horseshit that comes out of her mouth, so she’s always the victim, never has to take accountability for her actions.

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Lighteningstrikes · 13/10/2025 22:16

You don’t come across as being emotionally mature enough to deal with a 15 year old.

EchoedSilence · 13/10/2025 22:16

Lectei · 13/10/2025 22:15

I hated my ex step daughter too. She was 14 and I literally couldn’t stand her. I got rid of her useless idiotic father and was glad to see the back of them both. I still shudder when I think about her.

Did you have children with him?

Lectei · 13/10/2025 22:15

I hated my ex step daughter too. She was 14 and I literally couldn’t stand her. I got rid of her useless idiotic father and was glad to see the back of them both. I still shudder when I think about her.

Kendodd · 13/10/2025 22:15

If its that bad OP, I would leave. What you shouldn't do though (and no evidence you would from this thread) is try to make your husband choose between you or his kid.

chloej92 · 13/10/2025 22:15

8842688l · 13/10/2025 22:14

Oh no, have I offended you?

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Not in the slightest 😁

Alpacajigsaw · 13/10/2025 22:14

She sounds vile OP I don’t blame you at all.

EchoedSilence · 13/10/2025 22:14

8842688l · 13/10/2025 22:13

Husbands

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is he a shit dad to them too?

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8842688l · 13/10/2025 22:14

chloej92 · 13/10/2025 22:11

Awwww poor you

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Oh no, have I offended you?

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millymollymoomoo · 13/10/2025 22:14

Sorry but I bet op didn’t start out hating her sd. I expect she’s had to endure years of abuse, moods, toxic behaviour, manipulation etc for op to feel this strongly. Yes sd I expect had some bad parenting, a mother who probably encourages this and that not great but at 15 she Knows what she’s and is not some poor innocent little thing!

op what is dad doing about it ?

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8842688l · 13/10/2025 22:13

Kendodd · 13/10/2025 22:12

Are the other two kids your husband's or did you already have them?

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8842688l · 13/10/2025 22:13

ninjahamster · 13/10/2025 22:10

Making allegations like that suggest she’s one very mixed up young person. She needs therapy to unpick this.
Maybe she feels pushed out, maybe she feels unloved, maybe there are issues with friendships, maybe her sexuality. Maybe she’s lonely, maybe she’s sad, maybe she’s resentful.
Who knows? But you are the adult here. If you cannot support her, then leave.

Seriously I understand there are some serious issues, but to normalise that behaviour because you feel “lonely”/“has issues with friendship” insert any other excuse is baffling. I’m sure we’ve all at some point been through some rubbish as a child teen whatever age, but to think that is okay is madness.

People who do such things as adults can have people wrongly accused of things they’ve not done.

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Kendodd · 13/10/2025 22:12

Are the other two kids your husband's or did you already have them?

chloej92 · 13/10/2025 22:11

8842688l · 13/10/2025 22:10

Sorry again, shite mother who sets no example. Parenting unfortunately takes two committed co parents to be effective. Doesn’t matter how strong of a parent one is, if the other is shit. Parenting isn’t consistent

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Awwww poor you

MummytoE · 13/10/2025 22:10

Op I was in an almost identical situation to you, its exhausting. At one point I had just had enough. You need to prioritise your own children

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8842688l · 13/10/2025 22:10

chloej92 · 13/10/2025 22:06

If it's that bad then surely your DP needs to taking some responsibility? Instead you're painting them out to be a saint and the other parent is a villian🙄

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Sorry again, shite mother who sets no example. Parenting unfortunately takes two committed co parents to be effective. Doesn’t matter how strong of a parent one is, if the other is shit. Parenting isn’t consistent

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ninjahamster · 13/10/2025 22:10

Making allegations like that suggest she’s one very mixed up young person. She needs therapy to unpick this.
Maybe she feels pushed out, maybe she feels unloved, maybe there are issues with friendships, maybe her sexuality. Maybe she’s lonely, maybe she’s sad, maybe she’s resentful.
Who knows? But you are the adult here. If you cannot support her, then leave.

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8842688l · 13/10/2025 22:08

Lilington · 13/10/2025 22:04

You have my sympathy OP.
I wonder if those criticising you have experienced what it is like to do your very best for a stepchild for years and get nothing but nastiness back.
15 isn’t a toddler.
Yes of course she needs understanding but at that age she also has a degree of control over her behaviour.
Step mothers aren’t plaster saints. Everyone has their breaking point.
You are allowed to say how you feel.

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I can bet you my last pound, not one person saying “poor child” “god what a terrible person you are” “she must feel the same about you” has ever experienced what I’ve had to.
I have done near to everything I possibly can for said child, but after some unforgivable shit. I am done pretending.

It’s ruined a brilliant marriage (which actually is the least of my worries right now) and I’m now looking at the option to get my two children as far away from this as possible.

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chloej92 · 13/10/2025 22:06

8842688l · 13/10/2025 22:02

Do you understand the severity of the allegation?

Lying because you went to drink with your friends in a park but you were somewhere else… normal teenage lies

Anywho you don’t have to tell me twice, we have 2 DC and I can’t imagine allowing them to think this is normal behaviour

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If it's that bad then surely your DP needs to taking some responsibility? Instead you're painting them out to be a saint and the other parent is a villian🙄

Whattodo2024 · 13/10/2025 22:06

Yawn, why does the stepmom always hate the step kid but not the feckless father who created the ‘monster’ … and in fact go on the have more kids with said shit dad!

Portoagain · 13/10/2025 22:04

You need to end the relationship with her father. Your home must be toxic with so much hate washing about (from both of you, by the sound of things). End it. And soon. It’s the right thing to do.