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Mixed sex sleepover at 7?

31 replies

lorinay · 13/10/2025 20:59

DS has just turned seven, his best friend is a little girl and she’s 6.

They have regular play dates and he’s been now invited for a sleepover.

Would I BU to let him go?

OP posts:
hellotojason · 13/10/2025 21:30

My DDis 9, one of her oldest and one of her best friends is a boy, she's been having sleepovers with him for years. When they were that age they probably slept top to tail, now they will have their own beds but I have 0 worries that anything would happen. It helps that the parents are good friends.

CherrieTomaties · 13/10/2025 21:29

No way.

soundsys · 13/10/2025 21:29

At 7 I only allow sleepovers with families I know well. It wouldn’t bother me at that age that it was mixed sex. (My son was quite often the only boy at sleepovers at that age because all his friends were girls, but they’d all been friends as a group since they were toddlers!)

Wherethewildthings · 13/10/2025 21:26

I wouldn't be worried about it being mixed, but I wouldn't be keen for sleepovers in general.

UnderMedicatedMum · 13/10/2025 21:14

RacingDriver · 13/10/2025 21:04

Of course you wouldn’t. They are young and friends. As long as the age ok with the idea of staying elsewhere over night and you are comfortable with the parents I’d say go for it.

I think I misread/misunderstood the above posted I quoted. You’d be unreasonable to say no to a sleepover. I’m both curious and concerned about why you’re concerned about this.

RacingDriver · 13/10/2025 21:04

Of course you wouldn’t. They are young and friends. As long as the age ok with the idea of staying elsewhere over night and you are comfortable with the parents I’d say go for it.