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sapphicy · 13/10/2025 18:06

Bit of a reality check needed, I am going for a job I am really confident I’d be good at, I have already passed the written assessment and the initial interview and found them very straightforward. There is now a video interview and then a final interview.

Today I had the video interview which is one way, so a pre recorded person reads you the questions and you have to film your answer. There isn’t much info online about how to prep but I’ve got loads of STAR answers and rehearsed reading them aloud to myself.

No idea what happened really but speaking to the camera and seeing myself on the screen felt really alien and it killed my confidence and it really reflected in my voice. I froze up and couldn’t even finish the interview, questions I’d normally be good at answering became impossible, my mind went blank and my nerves and panic got the better of me and I shut the laptop and cried. I only got 3 of the questions done.

I am usually a very loud and confident person so this has totally rattled me. My current job is all about communication skills! DP is trying her best to comfort me, but usually if you fail the video interview you have to start the whole application again in a few months time and I’m totally angry at myself. I’ve emailed the recruiter to say I ran into some problems and couldn’t complete it but haven’t heard back yet.

I feel like a failure as there are 21 year olds who pass this video interview easy peasy and I’m well into my 30s and just couldn’t do it and don’t understand why. I would be so confident answering these questions face to face with someone.

Should I even try again, or just find something else where I don’t have to jump through this hoop? Sounds ridiculous but I feel like I’ll need to pay for coaching to get through this and it makes me question if it’s worth it and what is actually the issue here. Anyone else had problems with this?

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Falalfn · 14/10/2025 01:26

NameChangeForThisQuestionOnly · 14/10/2025 01:18

I wouldn’t want to work for a company that had a four-stage application process like this one, nor would I want to work for a company who couldn’t manage to have a real person interview me. This is very lazy recruitment and I hope the trend doesn’t catch on much more.

OP, I think you did right to step back from this process. Wish you luck with your next interview and hope that is with a real person who is invested in having a two-way conversation with you.

Plenty of jobs these days have a six stage process, including these bullshit videos. As a student, it takes a lot of time to deal with all this rubbish.

Delphiniumandlupins · 14/10/2025 01:25

Could you get your DP, or even your dog, to sit behind the camera and say your answer to them? Particularly if you cover your own face on the screen. I don't even like hearing my own voice so watching myself would be hellish.

Falalfn · 14/10/2025 01:24

I think these one way video interviews are awful. If they want you to record a spoken answer, then they should issue the question in advance and allow the video to be re-taken. Ds had to do some for student job applications. He failed them all. Luckily he got a job that didn’t use this shitty process.

NameChangeForThisQuestionOnly · 14/10/2025 01:18

I wouldn’t want to work for a company that had a four-stage application process like this one, nor would I want to work for a company who couldn’t manage to have a real person interview me. This is very lazy recruitment and I hope the trend doesn’t catch on much more.

OP, I think you did right to step back from this process. Wish you luck with your next interview and hope that is with a real person who is invested in having a two-way conversation with you.

sapphicy · 14/10/2025 01:04

jbm16 · 13/10/2025 23:32

That is one way to look at it, but actually think it levels the playing field, you get to ask everyone the same question, people that have children or afford to travel can interview in their spare time, and people interviewing and review more candidates than they could with more standard interview process.

In most case there will still be a more formal face to face interview, but just means people are not discounted based on keywords on their CV.

But guess it depends on your industry, most people are used to teams/zoom calls, my team is all over the world, do perhaps more used to online conversations.

To be clear I am very used to having difficult conversations on zoom at work, that wasn’t the issue here

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jbm16 · 14/10/2025 00:51

Greenwitchart · 14/10/2025 00:11

I think it is lazy recruitment.

As a rule I refuse to apply for anything that involves this type of one way interview or asks for a video as part of the initial application process.

Good way to filter out candidates that aren't serious about the role.

Actually think it's the opposite, gives more people the opportunity to stand out than via CV's, there are only so many people you can interview face to face, I find it a great tool to find out more about people, and gives equal opportunity before deciding who to bring in for proper interviews.

Greenwitchart · 14/10/2025 00:11

I think it is lazy recruitment.

As a rule I refuse to apply for anything that involves this type of one way interview or asks for a video as part of the initial application process.

jbm16 · 13/10/2025 23:32

valianttortoise · 13/10/2025 23:27

It's dehumanising. Most adults "hire people" at some point you're not special.

That is one way to look at it, but actually think it levels the playing field, you get to ask everyone the same question, people that have children or afford to travel can interview in their spare time, and people interviewing and review more candidates than they could with more standard interview process.

In most case there will still be a more formal face to face interview, but just means people are not discounted based on keywords on their CV.

But guess it depends on your industry, most people are used to teams/zoom calls, my team is all over the world, do perhaps more used to online conversations.

valianttortoise · 13/10/2025 23:27

jbm16 · 13/10/2025 23:26

It's far better than throwing CV's in the bin, and don't think the job market is such that people can turn down opportunities for work.

As someone that hires people I find it much better, gives companies the opportunity hear more people that they would be able to with standard interviews, and is far more flexible as doesn't waste people's time having to travel to an office in the middle of the work day, they can record in evening/weekend etc.

It's dehumanising. Most adults "hire people" at some point you're not special.

jbm16 · 13/10/2025 23:26

valianttortoise · 13/10/2025 20:27

It's very dehumanising and I think refusing is the right approach - if everyone does they'd have to change it

It's far better than throwing CV's in the bin, and don't think the job market is such that people can turn down opportunities for work.

As someone that hires people I find it much better, gives companies the opportunity hear more people that they would be able to with standard interviews, and is far more flexible as doesn't waste people's time having to travel to an office in the middle of the work day, they can record in evening/weekend etc.

amberisola · 13/10/2025 20:36

That sounds awful! I've never seen this type of interview before but I hope it doesn't become more common. I'd struggle with it too. I can't see what the point is of a video interview if it's not an exchange with another person.

valianttortoise · 13/10/2025 20:27

It's very dehumanising and I think refusing is the right approach - if everyone does they'd have to change it

LivingTheDreamish · 13/10/2025 20:27

Well that sounds absolutely hideous OP and you have my sympathy. I already hate virtual interviews as it is just not a natural way to hold a conversation or form a connection, but I've not yet come across this aberation.

I hope the recruiter can get you a second chance OP. If not, I suppose practicing is the only solution and then try again when you get the opportunity.

nomas · 13/10/2025 20:21

sapphicy · 13/10/2025 19:42

I could have minimised the screen but then wouldn’t be able to see the timer or the question. Now I’ve had time to think about it, next time I could stick a post it note over the part of the screen where I can see myself for the entire thing

That’s a good idea.

jbm16 · 13/10/2025 19:45

LasVegass · 13/10/2025 19:08

There was a thread about these interviews on here just a few days ago and whether they were ageist. I don’t know how to share threads (I’ve just tried).

I think just do lots of videos of yourself talking random nonsense until you feel less self-conscious. I would hate them too. Let’s hope it’s just a fad.

I'm in my fifties and done a few myself and don't see the problem, however as someone who does a lot of hiring I find them brilliant, I can listen to far more people that I would have normally filtered out at the CV stages, so more people get a chance, and can listen to the responses around my workload.

I think the trick is just to pretend the recording is the person asking the question and focus on that.

sapphicy · 13/10/2025 19:42

nomas · 13/10/2025 19:06

Was there an option to minimise the screen whilst you answered the question?

I could have minimised the screen but then wouldn’t be able to see the timer or the question. Now I’ve had time to think about it, next time I could stick a post it note over the part of the screen where I can see myself for the entire thing

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SillyQuail · 13/10/2025 19:36

I did one of these a few years ago and felt massively anxious but I somehow pulled it off and got the job. In the end the organisation was terrible, culture completely toxic, bullying was rife, and management had the expectation that people should perform like robots, so I wish I had listened to my gut and just not forced myself to do something that made me so uncomfortable in the first place. So you might have dodged a bullet because the fact that they're using this software probably says something about the culture of the organisation and it's probably not a good fit for you anyway

sapphicy · 13/10/2025 19:33

LasVegass · 13/10/2025 19:08

There was a thread about these interviews on here just a few days ago and whether they were ageist. I don’t know how to share threads (I’ve just tried).

I think just do lots of videos of yourself talking random nonsense until you feel less self-conscious. I would hate them too. Let’s hope it’s just a fad.

Thank you, yes I absolutely see why people think it’s ageist. I am 32 but feel ancient after this experience 😂 will definitely be practicing talking to myself on camera if I try again

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SummerSunAndFun · 13/10/2025 19:31

My 22 year old daughter had one of these interviews and she froze and cried too. What made it worse for her was that she'd ticked the box asking for her interview to be reviewed by a real person afterwards, rather than AI. She didn't get that job but I'm pleased to report that she started a different graduate job last month and is very happy there instead. Things will work out OP.

sapphicy · 13/10/2025 19:29

HelgaGPataki · 13/10/2025 19:28

I’ve done a few of these. Our internal one is quite good, you get three attempts to record your answer to the (same) question before you have to submit. If yours does the same, I would attempt an answer, watch it back, write down what you want to say and then re-record. If it’s a one take thing then I feel for you, because they are truly awful to do!!

It was a one take! I have no idea how people are passing it

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HelgaGPataki · 13/10/2025 19:28

I’ve done a few of these. Our internal one is quite good, you get three attempts to record your answer to the (same) question before you have to submit. If yours does the same, I would attempt an answer, watch it back, write down what you want to say and then re-record. If it’s a one take thing then I feel for you, because they are truly awful to do!!

Sal820 · 13/10/2025 19:08

Ds had to do this for one of his degree apprenticeship interviews when he was just 17! It was awful. Even worse though was an online interview for Barclays where the interviewer was late, then didn't put her camera on - and then mumbled all the questions so he kept having to ask her to repeat what she had said.

Either practice talking to yourself with camera on OP or cover your screen so you can't see yourself.

Bambamhoohoo · 13/10/2025 19:08

It’s too late for OP to minimise or turn off her camera, she’s finished it now 😭

OP I’m sorry, it’s super annoying to end up out of the race over something so unexpected. At least your application will be stronger next time?

LasVegass · 13/10/2025 19:08

There was a thread about these interviews on here just a few days ago and whether they were ageist. I don’t know how to share threads (I’ve just tried).

I think just do lots of videos of yourself talking random nonsense until you feel less self-conscious. I would hate them too. Let’s hope it’s just a fad.

nomas · 13/10/2025 19:06

sapphicy · 13/10/2025 18:57

Can confirm it was not possible to do this! Or if there was a way it wasn’t obvious. Thank you though. It doesn’t bother me on teams, FaceTime etc as a real conversation is going on and I’m looking at the other person

Was there an option to minimise the screen whilst you answered the question?