To think is kinda rude of a friend to arrangement something to just ask us if we can host it?

He could rent a Airbnb for the night cheaply and host it there. It is cheeky. You’ll have to clean up before even if he vaguely cleans up afterwards. And it’s your heating on all evening etc.

It really doesn't take much to astonish/shock people on MN.

Yes and now these 2 people asked if they could have little get together at OPs house, movie and pizza. It's not a big deal at all.

They are your friends. Can’t you light heartedly/jokingly tell them that your home isn’t an Air b&B that they can rent? When they get the opportunity to host then you’ll be happy to attend? Etc If he’s quite socially unaware then surely that works both ways and you can take advantage of that fact so you can see how faux pas ?

I’m astonished that 22% of people think YBU. Your friends are well out of order - if they want to host a film and pizza evening at your house, then they make it absolutely plain from the outset, and don’t lead you to think they are hosting, so you say, “great idea” and then let you know it’s supposed to be happening at your house. We all know that whoever hosts somehow ends up providing stuff and paying for it, even if they say they’ll be bringing/ordering in everything. I think it’s outrageously cheeky - if I were you, OP, I’d simply say no, and say that you host your friends for your parties and were looking forward to going out somewhere else. If you let this start, there will be no end to it.

We get asked to host friends all the time as we have the biggest house. It’s just assumed. I now say we’re busy and push dates back in the calendar.

OP says they host about 7-8 parties times a year when THEY want to.

I think your friend is a bit of a CF. I would make the reply jokey, along the lines of 'So NOT an invitation to a film/pizza night at your place'. Come on mate, your idea, your place?'

No need to fall out or make up silly reason why you are not going to facilitate his crush.

Not sure I could get worked up about this, although I agree it's either clumsy or cheeky. Just say no or say "oh I thought you meant we are coming to yours! But yes that's great looking forward to it as long as you help me clean up!" You choose, but don't make drama out of it. I think it sounds like a fun night in. It's not like he's asking you to cater, or expecting to bring 15 folk is it?

I agree with PP that it sounds like you might be annoyed someone else has taken the social reins.

My ex and I were the first ones to have our own home and this wouldn't have bothered me at all. People regularly asked to have get togethers at our house.

Are you a young couple? If so then this isn't shocking at all and I'd say it's really normal.

You had some great low key suggestions early in the thread. Use one of those, quickly. Don't craft an essay or write too seriously. Just follow their light tone and get it done.

I think you want to be offended.
Why not give him grace, people miss speak/type.

This recently happened to us but our friends invited themselves along with two friends of theirs but complete strangers to us … For us to host 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Needless to say it didn’t happen because
No!
This is not on OP

Almost sounds like he was setting up a date night, and expecting you not to be there! I agree it’s rude to assume you’ll just, again.

On a much smaller scale, I had that at work. A work colleague asked if I fancied a drink. I said yes, and mentioned what I wanted. She did a tinkly laugh and replied, I was hoping you’d make it! Cheesed be off as I probably made the drinks 90% of the time.

How RUDE!! You need to make it very clear to your “friends” that this is exceptionally rude and no you don’t want them organising events in your house!! Fine if it’s his or his parents house and they are fine with that but very very rude if it’s someone else’s house he’s planning on using like it’s a free Airbnb!!!

He worded it badly. If he’d said something like- “how would you feel about me and GF coming round one night to watch (Film). We would bring the ingredients to make pizza.” Would you have felt the same.

I wouldn’t mind that. I might say I’d prefer to order in because I don’t like other people using my kitchen, but I wouldn’t mind him suggesting visiting.

That’s what I call a couple of friends coming over to watch a film and eat some food. An event or a party means something very different in my world

Ehh I think you've est a social scene around hosting and like you say no one else in your sphere has access to that ???

Yes can ve read as ' Cf' but at the same time could be looked at like he's toeing the party line and slotting in with the est set up of the day.
I can see your 'taken aback' but not everyone is good at/capable of taking the social initiative, so he's kind if showing you he apricates your 'role' ( perhaps hierarchy) in social order that you've collectively est over the only person hosting 7/8 things a year.

I think acting agast is a bit much. Even if you don't apricate it reads like a clumsy attempt and not the biggest leap.
You can see how he got there and its not the most offensive thing ever?

Why not just tell him something along the lines if
' bit cheeky but if you sort everything and clean up?'

Life is too short, have a pizza party?

YANBU to find that cheeky. Why is it harder for them to ask to host at a parents' home than a friend's? They must get on well enough to still live at home. That's the kind of thing you'd expect parents to allow, on occasion, if they promise to clean everything afterwards.

It could be okay if you trusted them to do a decent job of cleaning, but I would have a hard time not helping, so it would still be extra work (not to mention getting things clean before the party). I'd also be put off by the rather sneaky way of asking.

YANBU and I personally think you should nip this kind of cheeky fuckery in the bud by telling him straight that it's not on to word an angle to get you to host a party as an invitation to a party he's hosting.