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To have claimed this as an expense?

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Wealthabd · 12/10/2025 17:45

Something happened at work and I was very upset, manager told me to go home and would I like the company to book a taxi for me. It’s a long journey home and it could be anywhere from 1.5-2 hours drive and probably cost around £100.

I felt uncomfortable at the cost (even though the company were paying) and so I got the train, they know I’m struggling financially and the extra £20 I had to pay (my original ticket was for a set time) is actually a big cost to me. I’ve raised the ticket as an expense, fully open about what it was when raising it.

Now the company have acted like I’ve tried to steal from them. I really didn’t think I’d done anything wrong (ans it was 80% cheaper than the taxi) and I feel it could have been resolved with one conversation but they’ve now got senior management involved.

OP posts:
Sandy483 · 12/10/2025 20:48

TY78910 · 12/10/2025 20:40

If anyone was sick to the point they needed escorting home, in my workplace the most senior person would put it on their company card. They have the ability and the seniority to justify this expense. Me as an employee however, doesn’t have the authority to submit an expense for travel, unless I have a project code for work related travel. If I was to submit a random expense, I would also be formally questioned. Also to note, the finance team who approve these will not have the context (not that this would change the process and what’s permitted). If OP was well enough to take the train home, then she had left the workplace as any other type of sickness (ie I have the flu, I’m going home) and would not be eligible for transport.

DH is middle management and works out of one office, if he has to go into London instead he claims for the train and it's a lot more than £20. There's no formal questioning or it only being able to be put through by one particular person, he just claims. Denying the OP's claim for 20 bloody quid when she was open about what it was for is petty and pathetic IMO.

Littletreefrog · 12/10/2025 20:45

It will all be down to who has the ability to authorise what expenses. Emergency travel home due to distress will more than likely be at the managers discretion and they can just put it on their taxi account. Other expenses probably need to go through a different system of approval.

Did you tell your manager than you would rather just get the train as it would be cheaper? Did you ask them if they would cover the difference in the fare? Did you then ask them how they wanted you to submit the expense?

I honestly think this will all be sorted out after a calm conversation with the manager who offered the taxi. It might be a case or removing the expenses claim and sorting it another way, for example via petty cash etc.

Sandy483 · 12/10/2025 20:43

So you tried to save the company money and now have to pay for it yourself - no good turn goes unpunished springs to mind OP. Honestly quibbling over £20 when you were obviously in a bad way at the time - I'm embarrassed for them no matter what the company policy is. I'd have paid the poxy £20 myself if i was your manager and it was suddenly an issue with senior management.

fiorentina · 12/10/2025 20:40

I think they wanted you in a taxi due to duty of care and to ensure you got back ok. Whereas the train doesn’t guarantee that. I would just repeat the it was due to illness though and you’d felt the train was more efficient.

TY78910 · 12/10/2025 20:40

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/10/2025 18:40

I think people are being quite harsh on this thread.

The OP is clearly quite money conscious because she doesn't have much of it herself and felt uncomfortable about costing the company a £100 taxi home, so she took a cheaper mode of transport.

Obviously next time she'll know just to take whatever is on offer and not quibble, but it's pretty shitty of the company to effectively penalise her for trying to save them money.

Her manager should sort this out.

If anyone was sick to the point they needed escorting home, in my workplace the most senior person would put it on their company card. They have the ability and the seniority to justify this expense. Me as an employee however, doesn’t have the authority to submit an expense for travel, unless I have a project code for work related travel. If I was to submit a random expense, I would also be formally questioned. Also to note, the finance team who approve these will not have the context (not that this would change the process and what’s permitted). If OP was well enough to take the train home, then she had left the workplace as any other type of sickness (ie I have the flu, I’m going home) and would not be eligible for transport.

Bambamhoohoo · 12/10/2025 20:39

What do people think a union is going to do? This this a simple issue OP can address
herself as an employed adult.

Viviennemary · 12/10/2025 20:39

Moonnstars · 12/10/2025 18:01

Were they actually offering to pay for the taxi for you or were they just offering to book one for you?
I wonder whether in your distressed state you misunderstood the offer, thinking they were being kinder than they were.

I wondered the same. Were they just offering to book you a taxi but not to pay for it. Just sounds like a mix up. Tell your manager about the problem and ask for clarification.

QueenOfHiraeth · 12/10/2025 20:38

Catsknowbest · 12/10/2025 20:31

I think this is where it may have gone wrong- without your meaning it to.

Agree with this.

I suspect that they might think, if you are ill/upset enough to have to go home, you would need the taxi and, if you are well enough to make a train journey, you may not have needed to leave early

NoTouch · 12/10/2025 20:36

There is a significant difference between offering to pay a taxi for an employee possibly incapacitated (physically and/or emotionally) and unable otherwise travel/get home, and paying the difference in a train fare. One is duty of care the other isn’t really, ideally you should have asked before expensing.

tommyhoundmum · 12/10/2025 20:34

Wealthabd · 12/10/2025 17:49

And just to add, they offered the taxi as a duty of care and when I uploaded my receipt there is a specific category about sickness/travel.

Get your union or personnel involved

Gwenhwyfar · 12/10/2025 20:32

Catsknowbest · 12/10/2025 20:31

I think this is where it may have gone wrong- without your meaning it to.

No because the 'what you would normally have to do anyway' doesn't seem correct. The price was different when leaving early.

Gwenhwyfar · 12/10/2025 20:31

Smileybutwily · 12/10/2025 19:22

Surely this can easily be resolved by your line manager (or whoever offered the expensed taxi) authorising the expense claim.

I'm sorry you're going through this, I can imagine this is additional stress that you don't need.

Good luck x

The line manager can't overrule company rules though.

Catsknowbest · 12/10/2025 20:31

Littletreefrog · 12/10/2025 18:12

By not taking them up on their offer of booking and paying for a taxi for you I think they have discharged their duty of care. You arranged your own transport home which is what you would normally need to do anyway.

I think this is where it may have gone wrong- without your meaning it to.

Gwenhwyfar · 12/10/2025 20:30

XiCi · 12/10/2025 20:04

I cant for the life of me understand why you didn't get in the taxi.

She explained in her first post that the taxi was 100 pounds and she thought that was excessive.

JustAnotherDayWorkingAtHome · 12/10/2025 20:29

WiddlinDiddlin · 12/10/2025 20:27

OP needed to go home early.

The usual route and means cost more because it was early. So work pay. But she should have run this by someone first, yes.

An I missed that bit. Yes agree. I think this must be a mis-understanding. Hopefully easily cleared up.

Gwenhwyfar · 12/10/2025 20:29

tripleginandtonic · 12/10/2025 20:02

If you were well enough to get the train I can see why they wouldn't pay.

It looks like they 'sent' her home early.

Gwenhwyfar · 12/10/2025 20:28

wishitwasntme123 · 12/10/2025 19:24

So you usually get a train home?

She said she takes the train at a certain time and this particular time cost extra. It would be good if OP could clarify, but this was in her first post.

WiddlinDiddlin · 12/10/2025 20:27

JustAnotherDayWorkingAtHome · 12/10/2025 20:20

This

OP needed to go home early.

The usual route and means cost more because it was early. So work pay. But she should have run this by someone first, yes.

Gwenhwyfar · 12/10/2025 20:26

"Obviously the corporate world just doesn't work like that at all, and you need to get into the mindset of complying with policy rather than worrying about saving some faceless entity money. But it doesn't come naturally to all of us."

To give another example. I've been pressurised to take a cheaper flight at a stupid time so it costs less, but as it's anti-social hours a taxi is allowed to go to the airport bringing the overall cost higher than a flight at a sensible time. It's not so much about overall costs, but ticking some budget box.

JustAnotherDayWorkingAtHome · 12/10/2025 20:20

ItWasTheBabycham · 12/10/2025 18:35

If you’re sick enough to need a taxi home, work should pay. If you’re well enough to get a train home, and it’s a usual route, then it’s your cost to pay.

This

WiddlinDiddlin · 12/10/2025 20:16

XiCi · 12/10/2025 20:04

I cant for the life of me understand why you didn't get in the taxi.

Because not everyone is used to the frankly ridiculous sums of money some companies will happily spunk up the wall on things and put on expenses. Their natural inclination is to think 'oh no, thats far too expensive' and of course, if you also don't realise the company has an account with a firm and probably pays less than you would as a private individual, it feels even more crazy.

The company I work for -and I am a sub-contractor not an employee - would have happily paid for me to stay in a £200 a night hotel for two nights.. 5 minutes from my home! Purely because thats the expectation and process for them for sub-contractors attending hotel based all day meetings. As it was, they covered two lunches, two dinners and my normal hourly rate for the whole time I was there!

I am used to just submitting my invoice for my hours, occasionally doing more hours than expected if I have covered for someone else, so this is way beyond what my brain thinks is normal - but it is normal for multimillion/billion pound mega-companies (a tiny subsidary of which I actually work for).

That said, if I included an expense for something out of the norm without running it past my immediate boss first, I would fully expect them to ask for an explanation!

Pinkysparkles · 12/10/2025 20:14

Have they approved the expense previously and are now questioning it??

Or are they refusing the expense now. Because my company often refuse expenses. It doesn’t mean I’m a thief and will lose my job! They simply haven’t agreed to a request which can be discussed if appropriate.

Are you in a union?

KindnessIsKey123 · 12/10/2025 20:13

I would just use this as a learning exercise. Lots of companies have a specific policy, and if you try and use your common sense to save the company money, it doesn’t fit the policy so the answer is no.

Where I work if you have to go to a medical appointment, you can have all of the travel and time of the medical appointment off For free. Various times I’ve tried to save the company money by working from the office closest to the hospital I was attending. However, I realised that all I was doing is making it more difficult for myself to travel during peak times, and no one actually cared for my altruism.

That was a lesson learned for me.

Purplecatshopaholic · 12/10/2025 20:08

Do you normally take the train? So they were offering a taxi in the moment only. But you said no and took your normal mode of transport home, so they don’t see why they would pay for your normal commute? That at least would make a semblance of sense, and I agree - I wouldn’t expect to pay expenses to someone for their normal commute, totally different from paying for a taxi because an employee is hurt or upset. I hope you are ok btw,

XiCi · 12/10/2025 20:04

I cant for the life of me understand why you didn't get in the taxi.

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