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Original poster

Nursry does a better job than me at bringing up my child

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wishitwasntme123 · 12/10/2025 15:56

Single parent. Zero support emotionally or physically or financially.

After spending the whole week with my kid (nursery was shut due to flood) I can safety say Ive got no patience and wish he didn't have me as a mum as I'm failing him

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PevenseygirlQQ · 12/10/2025 16:04

wishitwasntme123 · 12/10/2025 16:00

Absoluelty never.... He loves being there.

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My little one loves nursery and barely bats an eyelid when I drop them off, don’t worry about that its a good sign they don’t hate nursery, but it doesn’t mean your a bad mum or are failing your son. Don’t be so hard on yourself parenting is hard, especially alone with no support.
I cried last week because I was so stressed with a million things and I forgot to wash my daughters school jumper and felt like a shit mum, would you say I’m failing? I bet not, sometimes it’s so easy to put yourself down think of all the good things you do as a mum.

Sandy483 · 12/10/2025 16:02

It's great that he loves nursery OP, not all kids do. How old is he?

TheNightingalesStarling · 12/10/2025 16:02

When mine were little, it seemed to be an acknowledged fact the children would behave worse for their mothers than anyone else, family or childcare. They would behave all day at nursery, then act up the second the mum took after. My DDs nursery teacher said she wouldn't believe she had never had a tantrum until she witnessed it in Tesco!

elliejjtiny · 12/10/2025 16:02

I used to work in a nursery. It was way easier than being a parent. I had evenings, nights and weekends off and my mum would wash my uniform when i got covered in tinned peach juice and yoghurt every day. You must be a good mum, bad mums don't worry about failing.

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wishitwasntme123 · 12/10/2025 16:00

3packspls · 12/10/2025 15:56

I bet tomorrow he’d want to stay with you rather than go to nursery op!

it’ll pass

Absoluelty never.... He loves being there.

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TeaForTheTillermanSteakForTheSun · 12/10/2025 15:59

Nursery has multiple staff members, they have regular breaks, and they have a start and end time.

Of course it looks like they can cope better.

A mum who is failing their child doesn't care about if they are failing their child. I bet you're doing better than you think 💐

Givingup2025 · 12/10/2025 15:58

As long as he is fed loved and clothed you’re doing a good job. Nursery has resources time and more people to look after the kids. You’re not the first parent to loose their patience you won’t be the last. You’ve got this x

Tryingtohelp12 · 12/10/2025 15:58

it takes a village, part of yours is your childcare provider! Don’t beat yourself up! I’m definitely a better mum when I’ve had a break, and know many of my friends feel them same!

3packspls · 12/10/2025 15:56

I bet tomorrow he’d want to stay with you rather than go to nursery op!

it’ll pass