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Genuine question for anti-vaxxers

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Raisinmeup · 12/10/2025 12:25

I see a lot online about anti-vaxxers and I’m trying to understand where they’re coming from, so this is a genuine question, not rage bait.

My understanding is that some parents choose not to vaccinate their children because they believe vaccines cause harmful side effects, or they just don’t trust the government and big pharma in general.

But what’s the alternative? If everyone stopped vaccinating, wouldn’t we start seeing diseases like polio coming back? That would mean more infant deaths and lifelong disabilities. It just doesn’t seem like a rational trade off?

From what I’ve seen, there seems to be a belief that immune systems can deal with these illnesses naturally, but I wonder if part of that belief comes from the fact that parents of today haven’t actually seen what a world without vaccines looks like. We’ve grown up in a time where infant death from preventable diseases is almost unheard of, so maybe it’s easy to forget how serious these infections really are.

And lastly, if you haven’t vaccinated your child and they then catch one of these illnesses, do you not end up turning to the same big pharma for the medicine or treatment anyway?

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Jumpingthruhoops · 15/10/2025 11:16

Purplerubberducky · 15/10/2025 02:26

But that was the point of the thread? To ask them why and What’s the alternative if we all just stopped vaccinating!

None of them can ever answer this question or site a single plausible piece of evidence.
The whole point of a debate is to come armed with evidence to support your claim. They NEVER have ANY.

The only fact stated to support anti vax is that rarely there have been negative side effects and injury. That is something that should be looked into further, absolutely. But all the evidence suggests that the risk is massively outweighed.

You can’t have a debate if you have nothing to support your argument. It’s what we’d all expect anyway but perhaps it should make you think.

The only fact stated to support anti vax is that rarely there have been negative side effects and injury.

Sorry but you can't dismiss that as a 'minor' concern/reason as to why people might choose not to vax. Even the smallest chance of injury is enough to put people off - surely that's evidence enough!?

Beachtastic · 15/10/2025 10:51

countrygirl99 · 15/10/2025 05:48

German measles isn't measles. I lived in a small village but there were 2 children who had brain damage caused by measles encephalitis. German measles was considered important for girls to have young so they weren't at risk during pregnancy. Chicken pox parties were a thing as it's more serious in adulthood.

Sorry, misread your post! I know German measles isn't measles.

I remember feeling so ill, as a child, with measles, mumps, and whooping cough, and German measles was not so severe. Eczema made it hard to tell if I had a rash or not 😂

Howmanycatsistoomany · 15/10/2025 09:47

If pharma didn't sponsor clinical studies there'd be hardly any clinical studies!
Most medical journals now require a data availability statement to be included in manuscripts reporting clinical trial data, informing readers where they can access the trial datasets.

Jade3450 · 15/10/2025 09:12

thecatfromneptune · 14/10/2025 15:53

This just simply isn’t the case, though. and there has been plenty of debate — and nobody has said they are pro all vaccines (though there are people on the thread who are anti all vaccines).

I had the Covid vaccine, for example, but looked at the safety data and explicitly requested Pfizer because there was an increase risk of thrombosis in my age group for Astra Zeneca. DH had AstraZeneca. When she was eligible, I don’t think DD had one.

The question isn’t about being able to weigh up the risks and benefits. It’s that very many people, including on this thread, do not have the scientific or mathematical literacy to do that accurately. Looking up adjutants tells you almost nothing about the vaccine’s safety. Reading the “corporate media” does even less. None of those on the thread who claim to be “doing their own research” actually seem to be able to get basic facts right (eg. on tetanus, “toxic stress” or whatever else); nor are they doing “research” on any of the publically available data clearly set out by health bodies, or they wouldn’t be making elementary mistakes in medical terminology and immunology. So it’s clear that they aren’t in fact well equipped to understand how vaccines work or the safety profile and risk/benefits of different vaccines. For example, there has been plenty of global research done for decades on ideas like “giving single vaccines allows the body’s immune system to adjust”, which, though it sounds like it makes sense to the layperson, is not backed up by immunological research.

Having a reasoned and informed debate requires people to actually be informed — and large numbers of laypeople will claim they are, but not really have read any scientific information or understood basic things about vaccination at all (as evident here). The answer to that is not “people’s misunderstandings and belief in misinformation should be understood and validated so that they can feel they are having a “grey area” debate”. It’s to look at clear and correct information from accurate sources like the relevant public health data. Saying “oh but I don’t trust the data because Big Pharma” is not a reasoned debate either.

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Saying “oh but I don’t trust the data because Big Pharma” is not a reasoned debate either.

Isn’t it? Surely we SHOULD be questioning the source of information and looking at what motivation might be behind it. That’s called critical thinking.

One of the main points is that the ‘data’ we are provided with can be manipulated, and pharmaceutical companies that fund research have skin in the game.

sashh · 15/10/2025 09:03

FlyMeSomewhere · 14/10/2025 09:25

It was more a chicken pox party thing in the 80's but ultimately people need to understand what we were exposed to as kids wasn't a potentially very serious illness without being jabbed.

I think the whole pox party thing was going out of fashion even then.

I can remember being sent to play at my next door neighbour's house when I was about 12. She had chicken pox and as I'd had it years before I was 'safe'.

As for rubella, I was not impressed with having to have it when I was about 12 because only girls got the jab and I knew I would not be having children.

countrygirl99 · 15/10/2025 05:55

Sexentric · 14/10/2025 16:24

Chicken pox isn't always mild either. A child in my twins class caught it and nearly died of sepsis from an infected spot. This was 3 years ago. We're not talking 1960s or something

A friend's DH didn't get it as a child and caught it from their 3yo. He doesn't 3 weeks in intensive care and was lucky not just to survive but not to lose a leg die to complications. It was months before he could start a phased return to work.

Zanatdy · 15/10/2025 05:52

It would be interesting to read opinions of an anti vaxxer whose child died from a preventable disease and see if they still hold the same views or regret their decision. As most can’t regret anything as their child has remained healthy. I guess some may find out in the future if their adult daughters develop cervical cancer when they declined the HPV vaccine. Obviously I hope no-one ever finds themselves in this position but when you make the decision not to vaccinate, you must weigh up how you’d feel if your child succumbed to the illness they chose not to vaccinate against. I guess that’s a whole different feeling than if your child had complications or died from vaccine reaction when you’re simply following medical advice. In the case of not accepting vaccines you’ve gone against medical advice so sure that must feel completely different.

countrygirl99 · 15/10/2025 05:48

Beachtastic · 14/10/2025 09:20

It was true of my childhood! Our local GP encouraged kids to play together if anyone had German measles (as long as no mothers were pregnant!), so that we would all catch it young, and get it over and done with. He used to ring us up if he knew of a case. He was particularly keen for girls to catch it, so that they needn't worry about infection later in life when pregnant. I think it was fairly common in the 1960s, because there was no way to prevent rubella except through natural immunity. It was like an unexploded grenade, we tried our best to control how it affected our lives rather than just letting it circulate unpredictably and reach vulnerable pregnant women. It's wonderful that vaccination now offers protection.

German measles isn't measles. I lived in a small village but there were 2 children who had brain damage caused by measles encephalitis. German measles was considered important for girls to have young so they weren't at risk during pregnancy. Chicken pox parties were a thing as it's more serious in adulthood.

VoulezVouz · 15/10/2025 05:25

IndoorVoice · 15/10/2025 01:01

I’m pretty sure most of them will happily knock down people on their way to get first back in the line for vaccinations - which might not still work once those diseases have had a good old chance to replicate and mutate.

I recall an article about a resurgence of the Black Death - bubonic plague - in a 1900s city. Such was the panic that residents were indeed gathered in a crush outside the Health Department’s door for many days for the limited amounts of immunisations available. (If you’re interested, the infection chain was cut off for this plague by using fire - quite literally burning city lots, houses, rubbish, vermin, and possessions.)

cityanalyst678 · 15/10/2025 03:24

ThejoyofNC · 12/10/2025 13:24

I am unvaccinated as are my children.

I come from a culture where probably 75% of people are unvaccinated. I did an awful lot of research and put a lot of consideration into my decision as I didn't want to blindly follow my culture when it came to medical choices. I looked into each individual vaccine and the ingredients it contained.

Ultimately I came to the decision not to vaccinate and my husband supported this (he was vaccinated as a child with everything except MMR).

I am very satisfied with my choice. And I'm not some moron who believes social media conspiracies which I know people will jump to, in fact I'm not even on social media at all.

Let’s give an example. The HPV vaccine has a 95% success rate. How will you feel if one of your children get HPV and due to the success of the vaccine, the screening programme is cut right back in the future. How will you feel if your child develops cancer? And do you realise once they are Gillick Competent they can get them behind your back, which plenty do. All those parents out there who don’t know their teenagers are vaccinated……

IndoorVoice · 15/10/2025 03:13

Jumpingthruhoops · 15/10/2025 02:40

Respectfully, you can 'think' what you want.

Look at it this way, if someone is staunchly pro-vax, people don't ask: 'What research have you done to determine the jab IS right for you?' And asked to explain their reasoning. No, it's just taken as read that they've made an informed decision.

Yet, people think they have the right to ask the unvaxxed (hate the term 'anti-vax!) 'What research have you done to determine the jab is NOT right for you?' And asked to explain their reasoning. Surely, as above, it just needs to be taken as read that they've made an informed decision?

Nobody is being forced to read this thread or respond to it. It’s hardly ambushing people in the street. And I think it’s pretty obvious why people who tend to vaccinate might be a little concerned about what happens when many other people choose not to.

2021x · 15/10/2025 02:59

I think it is very hard to weigh-up the risks of vaccines, especially as a lay-person without expertise.

I don't believe anyone without a PhD in human biochemistry or immunology has the connections to obtain acurate and relevant information, and then would have the knowldege and skills to be able to truly understand the risks that any vaccine ingredients actually pose to a person. This takes YEARS of very specific education and training to obtain and do well.

You are not making a decision based on research because its application of the knowledge in real world situations will be out of your reach. You are making a decision about vaccination because of your gut feeling and how much you trust the experts. That makes sense because it means more to you because its your child, which is something an expert doesn't have to think about.

Probability x harm = Risk and we have grown up in environments where these diseases have not been as common and therefore the perciveved probability is low because of the vaccinated population + advances in healthcare has made us feel safer. I actually don't know how much of that is due to the current vaccine schedule or the historic one, and I don't know where I would be able to find accurate information about how much harm vs good vaccines do.

The only way you can truly know about the experts is whether they get their children vaccinated, and we are not entitiled to know that.

Jumpingthruhoops · 15/10/2025 02:40

dizzydizzydizzy · 15/10/2025 02:00

I think @FunMustard makes a valid and reasonable point and does not sound entitled.

I always think if someone quotes facts and figures here, they should be prepared to put a link to their source material. If they won’t do it, I tend to think they have made it up or guessed or misremembered.

Respectfully, you can 'think' what you want.

Look at it this way, if someone is staunchly pro-vax, people don't ask: 'What research have you done to determine the jab IS right for you?' And asked to explain their reasoning. No, it's just taken as read that they've made an informed decision.

Yet, people think they have the right to ask the unvaxxed (hate the term 'anti-vax!) 'What research have you done to determine the jab is NOT right for you?' And asked to explain their reasoning. Surely, as above, it just needs to be taken as read that they've made an informed decision?

Purplerubberducky · 15/10/2025 02:26

Jumpingthruhoops · 15/10/2025 01:40

How can you have an intelligent discussion with someone who says they "did their research" but then declines to expand upon what that research was?

Gee, I dunno, maybe you could just accept what they're saying? They have done THEIR research, meaning, they've looked into a topic far enough to satisfy their own need to make an informed decision. That doesn't remotely mean they then have to share/justify said research with all and sundry. I mean, seriously, entitled much!?

But that was the point of the thread? To ask them why and What’s the alternative if we all just stopped vaccinating!

None of them can ever answer this question or site a single plausible piece of evidence.
The whole point of a debate is to come armed with evidence to support your claim. They NEVER have ANY.

The only fact stated to support anti vax is that rarely there have been negative side effects and injury. That is something that should be looked into further, absolutely. But all the evidence suggests that the risk is massively outweighed.

You can’t have a debate if you have nothing to support your argument. It’s what we’d all expect anyway but perhaps it should make you think.

Gilgogirl · 15/10/2025 02:06

Keep your fingers crossed hoping other children’s vaccinations get you through.

dizzydizzydizzy · 15/10/2025 02:00

Jumpingthruhoops · 15/10/2025 01:40

How can you have an intelligent discussion with someone who says they "did their research" but then declines to expand upon what that research was?

Gee, I dunno, maybe you could just accept what they're saying? They have done THEIR research, meaning, they've looked into a topic far enough to satisfy their own need to make an informed decision. That doesn't remotely mean they then have to share/justify said research with all and sundry. I mean, seriously, entitled much!?

I think @FunMustard makes a valid and reasonable point and does not sound entitled.

I always think if someone quotes facts and figures here, they should be prepared to put a link to their source material. If they won’t do it, I tend to think they have made it up or guessed or misremembered.

Jumpingthruhoops · 15/10/2025 01:40

FunMustard · 14/10/2025 22:40

How can you have an intelligent discussion with someone who says they "did their research" but then declines to expand upon what that research was?

Thus far, the only person who has expanded even slightly on that, has basically said that they don't believe that potential complications from illness would be worse than the potential complications from vaccine injury. Because they don't trust the information they have.

What research have you done? I did research. I read up on the stats around deaths and serious complications from illness, and the stats around deaths and serious complications from vaccine injury. As a non-medical or scientific person, I have to go with the information I have that is easily digestible and interpretable for my level of understanding. And that is from medical sources. Not anecdata about how every kid I know that is vaccinated seems to get chicken pox or whatever.

How can you have an intelligent discussion with someone who says they "did their research" but then declines to expand upon what that research was?

Gee, I dunno, maybe you could just accept what they're saying? They have done THEIR research, meaning, they've looked into a topic far enough to satisfy their own need to make an informed decision. That doesn't remotely mean they then have to share/justify said research with all and sundry. I mean, seriously, entitled much!?

Purplerubberducky · 15/10/2025 01:35

ThejoyofNC · 12/10/2025 13:24

I am unvaccinated as are my children.

I come from a culture where probably 75% of people are unvaccinated. I did an awful lot of research and put a lot of consideration into my decision as I didn't want to blindly follow my culture when it came to medical choices. I looked into each individual vaccine and the ingredients it contained.

Ultimately I came to the decision not to vaccinate and my husband supported this (he was vaccinated as a child with everything except MMR).

I am very satisfied with my choice. And I'm not some moron who believes social media conspiracies which I know people will jump to, in fact I'm not even on social media at all.

You haven’t answered the question though?

IndoorVoice · 15/10/2025 01:03

FunMustard · 14/10/2025 22:40

How can you have an intelligent discussion with someone who says they "did their research" but then declines to expand upon what that research was?

Thus far, the only person who has expanded even slightly on that, has basically said that they don't believe that potential complications from illness would be worse than the potential complications from vaccine injury. Because they don't trust the information they have.

What research have you done? I did research. I read up on the stats around deaths and serious complications from illness, and the stats around deaths and serious complications from vaccine injury. As a non-medical or scientific person, I have to go with the information I have that is easily digestible and interpretable for my level of understanding. And that is from medical sources. Not anecdata about how every kid I know that is vaccinated seems to get chicken pox or whatever.

My personal favourite was the comment about how they had ‘noticed’ that their unvaccinated children ‘seemed healthier’ than vaccinated ones and so that was the ‘data’ they were ‘going with.’

IndoorVoice · 15/10/2025 01:01

Miaminmoo · 15/10/2025 00:49

Anti Vaxxers are an Oxymoron - they can’t know the results of their choice until we fully lose herd immunity when enough people stop vaccinating. Thanks to people not vaccinating we have already seen the recurrence of Measles and Whooping Cough (which can both kill, especially newborns, and/or cause horrendous complications). If they carry on then we will see many other diseases return as well. Then maybe they will realise that the very small risks associated with vaccinations were nothing compared to these diseases at full strength - which were once frightening enough to cause the invention of vaccines in the first place. If they are so survivable then why do vaccinations exist?

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I’m pretty sure most of them will happily knock down people on their way to get first back in the line for vaccinations - which might not still work once those diseases have had a good old chance to replicate and mutate.

Miaminmoo · 15/10/2025 00:49

Anti Vaxxers are an Oxymoron - they can’t know the results of their choice until we fully lose herd immunity when enough people stop vaccinating. Thanks to people not vaccinating we have already seen the recurrence of Measles and Whooping Cough (which can both kill, especially newborns, and/or cause horrendous complications). If they carry on then we will see many other diseases return as well. Then maybe they will realise that the very small risks associated with vaccinations were nothing compared to these diseases at full strength - which were once frightening enough to cause the invention of vaccines in the first place. If they are so survivable then why do vaccinations exist?

FunMustard · 14/10/2025 22:40

Jade3450 · 14/10/2025 14:09

This isn’t a very intelligent reply.

The poster has specifically said that she’s done her research and FOR HER doesn’t feel that the risks are outweighed by the benefits.

Of course pharma companies that make the vaccines will recommend them - the whole point of this debate is that people have to give informed consent.

I’m willing to bet you’ve never researched the ingredients of vaccines and blindly follow what you’re told, so I think your criticism of this poster is a bit rich.

How can you have an intelligent discussion with someone who says they "did their research" but then declines to expand upon what that research was?

Thus far, the only person who has expanded even slightly on that, has basically said that they don't believe that potential complications from illness would be worse than the potential complications from vaccine injury. Because they don't trust the information they have.

What research have you done? I did research. I read up on the stats around deaths and serious complications from illness, and the stats around deaths and serious complications from vaccine injury. As a non-medical or scientific person, I have to go with the information I have that is easily digestible and interpretable for my level of understanding. And that is from medical sources. Not anecdata about how every kid I know that is vaccinated seems to get chicken pox or whatever.

Wrenjay · 14/10/2025 21:43

Polio can be spread by sewage. If a person defecates in a toilet and it is flushed away that infects the sewage system and if an unvaccinated person comes into contact with the effluent they could contract polio. So vaccinating yourself not only protects you but also a whole community. Polio is devastating just look it up. We are a multinational country and there a quite a few countries that still have polio. Therefore someone unvaccinated could come back from a holiday and infect a large number of the unvaccinated population.

Sexentric · 14/10/2025 16:24

Chicken pox isn't always mild either. A child in my twins class caught it and nearly died of sepsis from an infected spot. This was 3 years ago. We're not talking 1960s or something

Donsyb · 14/10/2025 16:08

I wasn’t allowed most vaccinations as a child for medical reasons (complications caused during a very long labour). As a result I got sick with everything - chicken pox, measles, mumps, shingles etc. I was extremely ill with whooping cough and have had asthma ever since.

I am now in my 50s. Whilst chicken pox etc can be fairly mild, I think people not giving their kids the measles and whooping cough vaccinations are underestimating just how serious they can be if you catch them.

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