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Genuine question for anti-vaxxers

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Raisinmeup · 12/10/2025 12:25

I see a lot online about anti-vaxxers and I’m trying to understand where they’re coming from, so this is a genuine question, not rage bait.

My understanding is that some parents choose not to vaccinate their children because they believe vaccines cause harmful side effects, or they just don’t trust the government and big pharma in general.

But what’s the alternative? If everyone stopped vaccinating, wouldn’t we start seeing diseases like polio coming back? That would mean more infant deaths and lifelong disabilities. It just doesn’t seem like a rational trade off?

From what I’ve seen, there seems to be a belief that immune systems can deal with these illnesses naturally, but I wonder if part of that belief comes from the fact that parents of today haven’t actually seen what a world without vaccines looks like. We’ve grown up in a time where infant death from preventable diseases is almost unheard of, so maybe it’s easy to forget how serious these infections really are.

And lastly, if you haven’t vaccinated your child and they then catch one of these illnesses, do you not end up turning to the same big pharma for the medicine or treatment anyway?

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YourLoyalPlumOP · 12/10/2025 20:23

OchonAgusOchonOh · 12/10/2025 20:08

Well then you either didn't understand how research works or you caught something that the very experienced editors and reviewers in The Lancet missed. Shame you didn't publish your insights at the time.

Oh. I understood. I didn’t believe it though.

I don’t research. So I wouldn’t publish my thoughts. I work in a different job.

OchonAgusOchonOh · 12/10/2025 20:22

YourLoyalPlumOP · 12/10/2025 20:21

So you wouldn’t cite your unpublished work?

Of course not.

OchonAgusOchonOh · 12/10/2025 20:22

IndoorVoice · 12/10/2025 20:15

I do somewhat understand the MMR concerns in the Wakefield era - as in why people may have had them at the time. My children were of vaccine age then and I remember being worried. Although, in the end I was more worried about the diseases themselves. I’m trying to think about why I think today’s concerns are so much different when we saw the outcome of bad information back then.

I think part of the difference is that Wakefield's paper was peer reviewed and published in a very reputable journal. Most people, even if they had nothing to do with research, were aware of The Lancet and its reputation for high quality research. That means those of us who believed his research to be valid at the time can console ourselves with the fact he fooled a lot of eminent scientists too.

I'm not anti-vaxx - in fact I got covid and flu vaccines last week. However, I do believe it is difficult to get unbiased information due to the agenda our governments and health services have. They are aiming for herd immunity so it is not in their interest to have people deciding not to get vaccines so the potential for damage tends to be downplayed. An awareness of that agenda makes people, rightly or wrongly, more sceptical of the entire process.

YourLoyalPlumOP · 12/10/2025 20:21

OchonAgusOchonOh · 12/10/2025 20:06

No. I do research.

I read academic papers and draw conclusions based on the findings in those papers. I do use Google Scholar to help find relevant papers.

I don't think you know what research is. You seem to think that research can only be primary research and must be published to be valid. While I would not cite unpublished research in my own work, research does not have to be published to be research.

So you wouldn’t cite your unpublished work?

Raisinmeup · 12/10/2025 20:20

I may have lit the touch paper here, but I still don’t feel like my question’s been answered.

As I said in my OP, I understand people fear adverse side effects from vaccination. What I still I don’t understand is why anyone worries about that risk but seems unconcerned about diseases returning and exposing everyone to far greater harm.

Calling these diseases low risk only works while we benefit from mass vaccination. If herd immunity disappears and outbreaks return, do we just wait until diseases are rampant before we circle back to vaccination again?

The vague suggestion given by some that complications from these diseases would still be unlikely is frightening. We are lucky not to have lived through illnesses like diphtheria. It feels privileged to benefit from herd immunity while downplaying diseases that historically killed infants.

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intrepidpanda · 12/10/2025 20:15

I often wonder too if there is an element of doing the opposite to most people makes you a highly intelligent critical thinker and everyone else are just sheep.

IndoorVoice · 12/10/2025 20:15

OchonAgusOchonOh · 12/10/2025 19:52

What about my reluctance to give the MMR in the late 90's? I read a peer reviewed article in one of the most reputable medical journals that said there was a link between the MMR and autism.

Obviously I didn't know Wakefield had falsified his results and I trusted the peer review process in such a reputable journal.

I do somewhat understand the MMR concerns in the Wakefield era - as in why people may have had them at the time. My children were of vaccine age then and I remember being worried. Although, in the end I was more worried about the diseases themselves. I’m trying to think about why I think today’s concerns are so much different when we saw the outcome of bad information back then.

OchonAgusOchonOh · 12/10/2025 20:08

YourLoyalPlumOP · 12/10/2025 20:00

I was around at the time.

Well then you either didn't understand how research works or you caught something that the very experienced editors and reviewers in The Lancet missed. Shame you didn't publish your insights at the time.

OchonAgusOchonOh · 12/10/2025 20:06

YourLoyalPlumOP · 12/10/2025 20:00

So you Google?

No. I do research.

I read academic papers and draw conclusions based on the findings in those papers. I do use Google Scholar to help find relevant papers.

I don't think you know what research is. You seem to think that research can only be primary research and must be published to be valid. While I would not cite unpublished research in my own work, research does not have to be published to be research.

YourLoyalPlumOP · 12/10/2025 20:00

OchonAgusOchonOh · 12/10/2025 19:58

You're the person demanding peer viewed articles. Wakefield published in one of the most reputable peer reviewed medical journals. Of course people believed him. It's very easy to be sceptical in hindsight but I suspect that given your insistence on the importance of peerr reviewed publications, that if you was around at the time, you would have believed it then too.

I was around at the time.

YourLoyalPlumOP · 12/10/2025 20:00

OchonAgusOchonOh · 12/10/2025 19:46

That is a ridiculous statement. Of course you don't need to publish if you do research.

I'm an academic. I do research. Some of it is published, some is not. Reasons for not publishing might include: I didn't come to any interesting conclusions, I was doing the research to inform my teaching, I started in one direction and took a detour off on a more interesting direction so abandoned the initial research, I was just doing a bit of research out of personal interest.

None of my published research is related to immunology but I am certainly capable of doing research on the topic. I just wouldn't be doing primary research on the topic as that would be outside my skillset.

So you Google?

OchonAgusOchonOh · 12/10/2025 19:58

YourLoyalPlumOP · 12/10/2025 19:42

Oh. Please don’t say you believed Andrew Wakefield?

You're the person demanding peer viewed articles. Wakefield published in one of the most reputable peer reviewed medical journals. Of course people believed him. It's very easy to be sceptical in hindsight but I suspect that given your insistence on the importance of peerr reviewed publications, that if you was around at the time, you would have believed it then too.

OchonAgusOchonOh · 12/10/2025 19:52

IndoorVoice · 12/10/2025 19:27

I’m not sure (honestly, I’m not being a twat) that I’ve seen much of a legitimate example yet.

What about my reluctance to give the MMR in the late 90's? I read a peer reviewed article in one of the most reputable medical journals that said there was a link between the MMR and autism.

Obviously I didn't know Wakefield had falsified his results and I trusted the peer review process in such a reputable journal.

OchonAgusOchonOh · 12/10/2025 19:46

YourLoyalPlumOP · 12/10/2025 19:26

I agree.

but to research you must of written a paper stating your evidence etc

can you show me your research on the vaccines? Meaning you must of written a paper. I’d like tor was your research.

That is a ridiculous statement. Of course you don't need to publish if you do research.

I'm an academic. I do research. Some of it is published, some is not. Reasons for not publishing might include: I didn't come to any interesting conclusions, I was doing the research to inform my teaching, I started in one direction and took a detour off on a more interesting direction so abandoned the initial research, I was just doing a bit of research out of personal interest.

None of my published research is related to immunology but I am certainly capable of doing research on the topic. I just wouldn't be doing primary research on the topic as that would be outside my skillset.

IndoorVoice · 12/10/2025 19:43

user098786533 · 12/10/2025 16:00

Your example is just one among many, as is those who I know who insist their child’s injuries post-vaccine were more longlasting.

But why am I going to say ‘okay I'll put my child at this risk’ for jabs, more than I'm going to say ‘okay I'll put my child at this risk’ when it's those saying ‘my child died from measles’

Well, firstly that second group don’t seem to exist.

My child is never going to be at risk of a vaccine injury. My children is at very minimal risk from complications from measles. By the time she is 10 she'll be at even lower risk from things like meningitis. Etc etc and so on and so forth. I have a teenager who never got sick and had no routine illness, yet was not vaccinated.

My children's health is my priority. They seem healthier and more resilient than their vaccinated peers, and that's the data I go on.

They seem healthier and more resilient than their vaccinated peers, and that's the data I go on.

What is the ‘data’ you have on your children’s vaccinated peers ‘seeming’ less ‘healthy and resilient?’

YourLoyalPlumOP · 12/10/2025 19:42

user098786533 · 12/10/2025 16:33

you said no one qualified or educated in the medical field would be antivax but there are people who are just that who are antivax, including Wakefield, so your point is just categorically false.

The inability to recognise where you have been misinformed in the past does not contribute to your credibility.

Oh. Please don’t say you believed Andrew Wakefield?

YourLoyalPlumOP · 12/10/2025 19:39

user098786533 · 12/10/2025 16:00

Your example is just one among many, as is those who I know who insist their child’s injuries post-vaccine were more longlasting.

But why am I going to say ‘okay I'll put my child at this risk’ for jabs, more than I'm going to say ‘okay I'll put my child at this risk’ when it's those saying ‘my child died from measles’

Well, firstly that second group don’t seem to exist.

My child is never going to be at risk of a vaccine injury. My children is at very minimal risk from complications from measles. By the time she is 10 she'll be at even lower risk from things like meningitis. Etc etc and so on and so forth. I have a teenager who never got sick and had no routine illness, yet was not vaccinated.

My children's health is my priority. They seem healthier and more resilient than their vaccinated peers, and that's the data I go on.

I had bacterial meningitis when I was 21

no immune problems or anything before. However there was an outbreak. Anyone can catch it.

YourLoyalPlumOP · 12/10/2025 19:36

despairofbadscience · 12/10/2025 16:08

No I don’t, anyone can make a TikTok/ YouTube video, write an article. They can claim anything,

Having your work peer reviewed and published means you need to provide what you are saying is true.

I could write and self publish an article today calling my self Dr Joanna smith, and stating that eating carrots causes babies to have ginger hair, does not make it true.

exactly!!!!

I hate pee who say they’ve researched stuff

right. So to research you need to publish a paper with peer reviews and evidence then?

IndoorVoice · 12/10/2025 19:31

YourLoyalPlumOP · 12/10/2025 19:28

Unless of course you mean your research was googling stuff?

No! Not Google. YouTube and TikTok. Otherwise you’re just wasting your time when you’re sat on the toilet.

YourLoyalPlumOP · 12/10/2025 19:30

I do believe though most people who are anti vax don’t remember polio. Never remembered the iron lungs or knew someone who lived in one.

never knew someone who was amputated after polio or almost died from measles or small pox

YourLoyalPlumOP · 12/10/2025 19:28

ThejoyofNC · 12/10/2025 15:18

I'll quote you as it's near the bottom but all of the people saying this must think they're so clever with their "gotcha".

Normal people can do research.

Plenty of highly qualified people are anti-vax and have written papers.

What exactly are you trying to prove?

Unless of course you mean your research was googling stuff?

IndoorVoice · 12/10/2025 19:27

Jumpingthruhoops · 12/10/2025 19:06

See, this is the problem... people offer a legitimate example of why they might reject a particular vaccine... and they're immediately met with 'sassy' comments like this. How does this help anyone?

Regardless of what her concerns are, she's concerned. The End!

I’m not sure (honestly, I’m not being a twat) that I’ve seen much of a legitimate example yet.

YourLoyalPlumOP · 12/10/2025 19:26

ThejoyofNC · 12/10/2025 15:18

I'll quote you as it's near the bottom but all of the people saying this must think they're so clever with their "gotcha".

Normal people can do research.

Plenty of highly qualified people are anti-vax and have written papers.

What exactly are you trying to prove?

I agree.

but to research you must of written a paper stating your evidence etc

can you show me your research on the vaccines? Meaning you must of written a paper. I’d like tor was your research.

Namechange24683 · 12/10/2025 19:25

I'm not anti-vax, but my partner is. I have 2 older children who had all their vaccines and a 7 year old who has had none at all. I've spoken to my GP surgery and they won't vaccinate without the consent of both of us as they are aware of his views. Either that or a court order. Without one or the other they won't do it until DC is considered gillick competent and can consent.

His reasons are mostly related to mistrust of big pharma and the fact that money drives everything. The COVID vaccine debacle has made things worse. We personally know 3 people who had significant side effects from the COVID jab but none of them have been openly accepted as being down to the vaccine, although all told 'off the record ' that it was the likely cause.

Until there is far more transparency and about the possible adverse effects and the financial incentives for pharmaceutical companies people like him are unlikely to change their minds.

I can totally see his points, but for me I would prefer to take the small risk of DC having the vaccines than them getting a VPD

An exception to this is the COVID jab which we all refused. I work in healthcare and know clinicians who also declined

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 12/10/2025 19:22

Anti vaxxers should take a walk round some old Victorian churchyard, and see the number of graves where two,three, or even more children, from the same family, had all died within just a very few weeks, from some epidemic childhood disease.