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Who are you in these situations?

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PumpkinSpiceAndEverythingNice · 12/10/2025 12:14

Not really an AIBU, just wondering who you are in this situation as we’re on a car journey and discussing it.

There’s two lanes of traffic, clearly signed that one lane is going to close off. The left lane is backed up and barely moving causing a big backup, while people fly up the right lane and force their way in at the front, thus saving themselves 15 mins of queuing, but also adding time to the people queuing by forcing their way in front.

We were in the left lane, queuing as I see proper, but also feeling the appropriate rage towards the people flying past us. The car in front of us doing a lot of head shaking and wanker signs towards the queue cutters.

When we got to the front of the queue, DH let some of the cars in. I would have written off my car trying to not let them in.

So, do you queue or would you be a right laner? And do you let them in?
YABU - take the right lane and go past the queue and save time
YANBU - queue like a civilised person but add time on your journey

OP posts:
GoldBalonz · 12/10/2025 18:30

Merge in turn op, and use the closing lane right up to the point of closure.

I always chuckle at the huge lane of absolute plebs sitting and waiting ages whilst I glide right to the merge point and barely wait...especially the ones looking furious and giving you the finger 😂 If they knew the highway code they wouldn't be in that position.

saltandvinegarchipsticks · 12/10/2025 18:21

rumred · 12/10/2025 18:06

I'm with you @PumpkinSpiceAndEverythingNice I hate bad manners and entitled arseholes.

Ooh someone else who can’t drive properly!

DaisyChain505 · 12/10/2025 18:18

PumpkinSpiceAndEverythingNice · 12/10/2025 12:51

I’m def not in the wrong, I’m turning left at the traffic lights after the merge point. These guys are flying up the right hand lane which would turn right if the road didn’t block off, to then try and also turn left.

Edited

It doesn’t matter what way any of the cars are turning in the future, the point of two lanes is so there are two lines of cars that are taking up less space and not backing up the road.

It’s standard road rules to use both lanes and to merge in turn. They wouldn’t put two lanes if they weren’t meant to be used.

Youre acting like they’re mounting the pavement and racing in front of you.

rumred · 12/10/2025 18:06

I'm with you @PumpkinSpiceAndEverythingNice I hate bad manners and entitled arseholes.

DrPrunesqualer · 12/10/2025 18:04

. not an Audi

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Youcancallmeirrelevant · 12/10/2025 18:04

It's called a zipper merge they are doing nothing wrong, and yes the insurance claim would likely be against you if you failed to allow a car to merge and the point the lane closes

QuantumLeek · 12/10/2025 18:02

Poor op raging at the people doing it right!

THisbackwithavengeance · 12/10/2025 18:01

Spot the Audi drivers on this thread. 😂

DrPrunesqualer · 12/10/2025 18:00

And there’s a drawing too

Who are you in these situations?
DrPrunesqualer · 12/10/2025 17:59

Here you go OP

Who are you in these situations?
swingingbytheseat · 12/10/2025 17:58

The space is there on the right hand side, so use it.

ShesTheAlbatross · 12/10/2025 17:58

TesChique · 12/10/2025 15:19

You do realise it wouldn't be a 15 minute queue if everybody (quite correctly) used the closing lane to its max capacity and merged correctly?

I despair.

I always imagine the people who behave like the OP when there are lane closures are also the irritating people sitting in the middle lane of the motorway.

ConnieHeart · 12/10/2025 17:58

wildeflowers · 12/10/2025 17:50

When you see the sign, you merge. Just like any other traffic sign. Not when you feel like it, not when it gives you advantage like cutting in the front. You do it when you see the sign. Those that ignore it to get ahead are massive jerks.

What sign do you mean?

DrPrunesqualer · 12/10/2025 17:55

I’m a use both lanes then merge when required to do so

Terfedout · 12/10/2025 17:51

bumbaloo · 12/10/2025 17:46

I am amazed almost everyone here understands zip and merge yet irl everyone seems to queue and hate on me for zip merging

Totally agree! I'd say about 80% sit in the queue. The abuse I get sometimes for merging properly is unbelievable!

wildeflowers · 12/10/2025 17:50

When you see the sign, you merge. Just like any other traffic sign. Not when you feel like it, not when it gives you advantage like cutting in the front. You do it when you see the sign. Those that ignore it to get ahead are massive jerks.

bumbaloo · 12/10/2025 17:48

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 12/10/2025 16:52

Depends if I’m in a hurry or not. Often I’m running late so I’ll be cheeky and take the outside lane. Other times I’ll queue patiently and curse those I see as trying to push in.

They aren’t pushing in though are they. They are correctly merging

bumbaloo · 12/10/2025 17:46

I am amazed almost everyone here understands zip and merge yet irl everyone seems to queue and hate on me for zip merging

Terfedout · 12/10/2025 17:41

PumpkinSpiceAndEverythingNice · 12/10/2025 13:37

Interesting difference between the poll and comments, thought it would have been 100% YABU according to comments.

Oh well, I’m still not letting any of you in.

You are still wrong though. It's people like you that make driving such a nightmare these days. If people drove properly, traffic would move a lot more smoothly.

MummBRaaarrrTheEverLeaking · 12/10/2025 17:21

I'm a queue in the left hand laner, purely because sods law decrees if I went in the right and tried to merge, no fucker would let me in!

Agree with a pp that a "start merging now" sign would be good, more people wouldn't feel the need to dart straight into the left and stay there because there would be a clear directive they could merge in, and those already on the left wouldn't be so aggrieved at the mergers.

No87 · 12/10/2025 17:17

PumpkinSpiceAndEverythingNice · 12/10/2025 13:37

Interesting difference between the poll and comments, thought it would have been 100% YABU according to comments.

Oh well, I’m still not letting any of you in.

You do you boo! But I'll wave at you whilst we correctly drive past you in the right hand lane. #highwaycode

RhaenysRocks · 12/10/2025 17:09

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 12/10/2025 16:52

Depends if I’m in a hurry or not. Often I’m running late so I’ll be cheeky and take the outside lane. Other times I’ll queue patiently and curse those I see as trying to push in.

It's not cheeky to drive correctly and merge in turn. They are not pushing in.

ConnieHeart · 12/10/2025 17:06

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 12/10/2025 16:52

Depends if I’m in a hurry or not. Often I’m running late so I’ll be cheeky and take the outside lane. Other times I’ll queue patiently and curse those I see as trying to push in.

Nothing cheeky about it & they are not pushing in

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 12/10/2025 16:52

Depends if I’m in a hurry or not. Often I’m running late so I’ll be cheeky and take the outside lane. Other times I’ll queue patiently and curse those I see as trying to push in.

Chiseltip · 12/10/2025 16:35

PumpkinSpiceAndEverythingNice · 12/10/2025 12:14

Not really an AIBU, just wondering who you are in this situation as we’re on a car journey and discussing it.

There’s two lanes of traffic, clearly signed that one lane is going to close off. The left lane is backed up and barely moving causing a big backup, while people fly up the right lane and force their way in at the front, thus saving themselves 15 mins of queuing, but also adding time to the people queuing by forcing their way in front.

We were in the left lane, queuing as I see proper, but also feeling the appropriate rage towards the people flying past us. The car in front of us doing a lot of head shaking and wanker signs towards the queue cutters.

When we got to the front of the queue, DH let some of the cars in. I would have written off my car trying to not let them in.

So, do you queue or would you be a right laner? And do you let them in?
YABU - take the right lane and go past the queue and save time
YANBU - queue like a civilised person but add time on your journey

You're wrong OP, it's called merge in turn. You would.be committing several offences doing as you suggested.

Did you actually pass your driving test?

Where did you learn that blocking the road was OK?