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Strip Club

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MahoganyGrain · 12/10/2025 10:48

Husband went to a strip club whilst away on a work trip.
Spent a ridiculous amount of money (over £1000).
Didn’t admit where he had been until confronted with proof.
His story:
he took some clients and paid for them to have private dances, while he sat in the bar area, having a drink whilst waiting for them.

I'm inclined to believe him, AIBU? Or just a complete fool?

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MahoganyGrain · 12/10/2025 11:02

I AM fuming.
I absolutely do not agree with exploiting women. It’s sickening to think of any men leering over women, let alone my husband. He knows I would not be happy with this.

He said he was in a position where he felt he had no choice and will be getting this back on expenses.

It’s all lies isn’t it?

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DrowningInSyrup · 12/10/2025 11:01

OldBeyondMyYears · 12/10/2025 10:50

🥴

This says it all. No need to read anything beyond this.

MagicLoop · 12/10/2025 11:01

Oh come on OP...

Endofyear · 12/10/2025 10:59

If you choose to believe him, that's entirely up to you. Personally, I wouldn't.

Chasa · 12/10/2025 10:54

Well, of course he would say he was sitting at the bar. I would be fuming but you're never going to know the truth.

Screamingabdabz · 12/10/2025 10:53

Of course he organised that out of the kindness of his little heart and sat at the bar in all innocence. Of course he did that.

DownThePubWithStevieNicks · 12/10/2025 10:52

You’re a fool for believing him.

And you’re complicit in how fucking grim it is to buy a woman’s body if you think it’s okay that he was only doing it for the benefit of his clients.

Hoardasurass · 12/10/2025 10:52

@MahoganyGrain if it was for clients he'll be getting reimbursed by his employer then wont he?
I'd ask him when he intends to claim it back as work related expenses.

OldBeyondMyYears · 12/10/2025 10:52

(Posted too soon 🤦‍♀️)

I voted YABU to believe him…but not actually sure what your voting criteria is.

A man in a strip club, spending over £1000 isn’t sipping beer at the bar waiting for his mates! 🤯

OverlyFragrant · 12/10/2025 10:52

Yeah that's a very tall tale.
It's 2025, even the finance bros no longer take their clients to strip clubs. And back i the days when it was the done thing it went on the company credit card or expensed.
Sorry OP, he is a lying cheating dog.

Blueberrysoup123 · 12/10/2025 10:51

Don’t be naive. He would have stayed with the clients or other work colleagues.

OldBeyondMyYears · 12/10/2025 10:50

🥴

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