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To ignore this greyhound?

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sheepandbear · 12/10/2025 08:08

SOS dog people! My friend dropped off her 8 year old greyhound about an hour ago. She’s a rescue (been with my friend for 5 years now) and very nervy but know me well, comes to my house often and has stayed before but never without her “mum.”
I have a similar aged, excitable kind of terrier cross with whom she gets on well.
Problem is, she hasn’t stopped weeping since my friend left. She is looking me right in the eye with her beautiful doe eyes and whining sadly. I’ve been making a big fuss of her but maybe this is making things worse and encouraging her.
Should I just ignore her and hope she settles down?

**poll won’t work but basically aibu to ignore her and hope she settles herself?

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sheepandbear · 12/10/2025 10:59

Wonderful advice. We had a nice longish walk. (Mine pulling ahead, greyhound pulling behind!)
Little gallop around the garden after and the. she somehow managed to instruct me to put (my dog’s) bed into a sunny spot in the living room once we got back. She’s quite content now 😊

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Pointynoseowner · 12/10/2025 10:10

Yes take her for a walk. A bit of cheese or sausage when you get back, and a blanket over her when she settles in her bed. Greys are the best. 😍

Letsnotargue · 12/10/2025 10:00

Photo of my lovely lazy lump

To ignore this greyhound?
Letsnotargue · 12/10/2025 09:59

Our greyhounds have always whined when they want something that’s not forthcoming. Bed being moved into the sun, treat time, breakfast/dinner time, walk time… Unless you can work out what she wants she might be at it a while… I agree that a walk (with lots of treats) might encourage her to settle down when she gets back.

Greyhounds are inherently lazy so she’ll chill out eventually - not being chilled out is too much like hard work.

Spanglemum02 · 12/10/2025 09:55

Greyhounds are the best.

Zanatdy · 12/10/2025 09:52

My friends dog was like this whenever he came over but when he stayed for 8 days he settled after 1 day and was fine then. Sadly 6 months after that visit friend was diagnosed with cancer and died 2 months later. He stayed with me during that time so he could visit, but he is now very settled with his lovely new family. Most dogs will settle after a day or so. Plenty of walks and distraction. I found ignoring friend’s dog when whining was best as he whined ever louder when I looked at him.

talkingheadz · 12/10/2025 09:47

They are mournful by default.
Cheese will help.
Hoping your post will prompt the sharing of greyhound photos from other posters 😍

moose62 · 12/10/2025 09:37

My greyhound was a complete drama queen. He made you think that the world was ending if you went out or his food was late.
Treat this one like your own dog and ignore the histrionics!

tragichero · 12/10/2025 09:35

Greyhounds are such dotes - not the brightest dogs but their emotional intelligence is off the scale!

I was at a really really low point in my life once - as low as you can get - and went to stay with my friend - I actually credit his greyhound with saving my life! I couldn't sleep so used to get up in the early hours to sit on the sofa, and the dog would sit next to me sort of curled in, with his beautiful long head on my shoulder. I can still remember the life affirming comfort I felt at the time, it has actually bought tears to my eyes typing this!

Obviously I can't know for sure what a greyhound wants - especially one I haven't met. But I would say most people and things give comfort as they would like to receive it. So maybe sitting quietly with the dog, having physical contact that is comfortable for you both? Not a big exciting fuss, just calming her through calm touch?

You are a good friend to both dog and owner, concerning yourself like this.

Velvian · 12/10/2025 09:27

I wish I could offer advice @sheepandbear , but I have a similar girl and I am completely at the mercy of her whims.

Good luck, they talk a lot when something is not going even slightly their way. I dont think they're dogs at all, I think they are aliens sent to control us. 🤣

ThisJustFinch · 12/10/2025 09:23

Bless her. They are master manipulators (said lovingly!) and I bet she’s just whining as she wants to go home. My greyhound whines at me if he wants a walk, a treat, a meal, a blanket, to go outside, to move into another room, the list goes on…and often whines for no reason at all. Don’t worry if she doesn’t stop, she might just be a whinge bag like mine is. Enjoy your time looking after the best breed ever (in my humble opinion) 😍

Cherrysoup · 12/10/2025 09:23

My lot get 3 walks a day. She’s probably confused, upset and bored. Walk is the answer. Too late now, but our friend should have left her for a trial, maybe one overnight before leaving her for a week.

RainbowBagels · 12/10/2025 09:22

I miss my greyhound now. Hes upstairs under a duvet on his many beds.

PuggyPuggyPuggy · 12/10/2025 09:18

Aww poor princess! We use the expression "too sad for ice cream" for this sort of thing. It comes from the time my parents took my dog to the park while I had a hospital appointment, and when I got out, my mum had sent me a photo of him looking sad with with a tub of ice cream and the message "Hurry up! He's too sad to eat his ice cream!" 😆

He did eat it as soon as I arrived. Well, after being excited for a bit that I was back.

This doesn't help with the greyhound, does it? Sorry 😂

Misspost · 12/10/2025 09:11

My friend’s greyhound grumbles until he has his bed pulled into sunshine( if there is any) then he must have his blankets tucked around him in the way he desires.
Once he is happy with his bed and blankets he sleeps for hours.

RightOnTheEdge · 12/10/2025 08:58

I'm sorry, I dont have a dog so I've got no advice but,

Awwww 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
She's so sweet! 🥹🥹🥹

OhVictoriahavesomechocolate · 12/10/2025 08:55

I have no advice but I now want a greyhound, they sound ace!!

They are the best!

And quite low maintenance. Mine rarely whines and has those beautiful soulful eyes.

DaisyChain505 · 12/10/2025 08:55

cuddles, food, walks, play.

she’ll soon settle in.

Mothership4two · 12/10/2025 08:53

Dogs have evolved to look sad so that they can manipulate us basically. Her whining is probably to get your attention. Obviously she's missing her mum. Probably it seems worse (to you) than it actually is. Like others have said give her a little walk.

Trickabrick · 12/10/2025 08:49

I have no advice but I now want a greyhound, they sound ace!!

JMSA · 12/10/2025 08:47

You’re doing nothing to disprove my theory that these are the wettest of the dog breeds 😁

itsobviousright · 12/10/2025 08:44

Definitely a walk, then I'm sorry but shes going to have to come and have a big cuddle on the sofa under at least three blankets 😂

BlackbirdPieAndMash · 12/10/2025 08:42

She’s a greyhound, she almost certainly whines and stares when your friend is there! Ignoring isn’t going to stop it, it’s just how the breed it.

Carry on with the normal routine, but don’t make a point of ignoring. A walk is more likely to stop the whining

RainbowBagels · 12/10/2025 08:23

Maybe put her blanket over her in the little bed so shes cuccooned in and leave her to it?

goodnesswhathappened · 12/10/2025 08:22

Has she had breakfast?

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