My husband wants to move within less than 1 year of moving and I don't! Within the year we have had a full re-wire and a new kitchen and bathroom fitted and we also have 2 young children. I have managed "ALL" aspects of this including the move itself.
He wants to move because our daughters bedroom is small (this is the only reason)
I am in absolute love with the house the garden and the area, it is my dream home where I have also made friends as well and my children, many of my children's friends are within walking distance Inc after school activities, shops and the school are also all on foot which we have never had, we have always lived remotely before having children.
He found a property he was dead set on and it was completed (ours in in the mids of renovations) but not local and I went and seen it 3 times to tell him each time I am trying to be open minded but it's not the one for me, I wasn't feeling it. Solicitors were involved but the home buyers survey was shocking so we pulled out.
Each time he has not listened to my feelings, thoughts or suggestions shouted at me and told me that I am being selfish and it is for our children and that he is leaving me if we dont move as he doesnt not want to renovate anymore (we have renovated previously) or should I say "I". It has put a massive strain on our relationship because he doesn't want to talk to me only shout and tells me my opinions are stupid and on the rare occasion we have spoke he's still very strong willed. I told him how badly this is getting me down but he tells me if I take my foot off the gas in looking for a new house then he is afraid I'm never going to want to leave and he hates it there.I would never say it to him but he has come up with some ridiculous reasons for moving like did you hear that car outside that's twice this week it's drive past like that like wtf.
I don't want to leave anyway but been force along by a roller coaster of emotions and he's not getting it! I have offered up solutions because apart from the bedroom situation that is the only issue we have.
We cannot go up in the attic as no Room and pointless pinching off another bedroom for a tiny bit for alot of money so have been looking at space saver options but again he point blank refuses.
Our marriage is really strained at the moment and because I am a pleaser my insides are screaming "put my foot down with him instead" but I feel all out of energy. Will post a picture with my ideas for thoughts on what to do with this room. I was thinking my daughter is only little so can last another 2 years in there approx and my son will be 9 then so was thinking of doing this room for my son then a little while later putting a chillout/pad/gaming room in the garden for him.(60ft garden) Honest opinions please, I can take it.